Cold temple fortune telling
The first chapter is to gain insight into psychological weakness and meet psychological needs.
1. spotlight effect: everyone is self-centered.
2. Importance: Everyone wants to be an important person.
3. Expectation effect: people's expectations can realize themselves.
4. Self-esteem principle: Everyone wants to improve their self-esteem.
5. Principle of action: Behavior change can reverse attitude.
6. Ownership principle: Everyone wants to control the situation.
7. Emotional account: Everyone has a passbook in his heart.
8. Identity effect: Everyone is eager to be recognized by others.
9. Reciprocity principle: No one wants to owe a favor.
10. Preference principle: Everyone has the habit of loving my house and my dog.
1 1. Conformity principle: Everyone doesn't want to be isolated by the group.
12. Avoid loss: Everyone is afraid of losing more than gaining.
13. Psychological comfort: Everyone wants to make the mind feel balanced.
The second chapter sees through the psychological trap and wins the psychological contest.
1. Door-to-door threshold effect: an irresistible nibbling strategy.
2. Anchoring effect: not far from the starting point is the foothold.
3. Prestige effect: Is it right to listen to experts?
4. normative dislocation: feelings can't be measured by money.
5. Bait effect: mantis catches cicada, yellowbird is behind.
6. Overconfidence: Success is Xiao He, and failure is Xiao He.
7. Comparison effect: Is it better to shop around?
8. Shortage principle: The fewer opportunities, the higher the value.
9. Competitive effect: Is it really human nature to struggle?
10. Behavior Trap: Are your behaviors really rational?
1 1. Semantic effect: there are traps between the lines.
12. pendulum effect: choosing more is not necessarily a good thing.
13. Self-verification: Why do you trust fortune tellers?
14. Commitment and consistency principle: keep your word, and keep your word.
Chapter III Deciphering Psychological Code to Close Psychological Distance
1. Shorten the spatial distance and close each other's psychological distance.
2. Call them by their first names and shorten their psychological distance.
When we meet for the first time, we can talk about something familiar with each other.
4. Take time to get to know each other first, and then do what you like.
5. Talk about some topics of interest to attract the other person's favor.
6. conquer people's hearts with details and win them with grace
7. Observe other people's eyes and control your own.
8. Read each other's minds with a pair of critical eyes.
9. Find each other's needs and stimulate each other's needs.
10. Chop whatever mountain you meet.
1 1. Cultivate your sense of humor and then use it properly.
12. Create opportunities for common experiences and shorten the distance between them.
The fourth chapter breaks through the psychological defense line and obtains psychological identity.
1. deliberately imitate each other's actions, causing each other's good feelings.
Nothing is more touching than a smile.
3. Reputation is both an intangible force and an intangible wealth.
Get a good reputation in small things and do big things, and you will be easy to succeed.
Sincerity can make others accept you from the bottom of their hearts.
6. Learn to praise, give praise, and open a sunshine avenue for you.
7. Improve your charm and give others a reason to like you.
8. Learn to give yourself gold and reverse others' impressions of you.
9. Selfless actions beyond expectations can gain excessive trust.
10. Maintenance and mutual help are indispensable among people.
1 1. Get to know each other first, and then let them know you.
12. You don't blame the other party, and the other party won't blame you.
13. Seek criticism from people you don't like.
14. Keep a low profile, expose your own shortcomings and eliminate the defensive mentality of the other side.
The fifth chapter reveals the psychological truth and walks into the psychological depths.
1. The incense in Hanshi Temple was burned ahead of time, so naturally, there were noble people to help.
2. Long meeting time is not as effective as the number of meetings.
3. Save people's hearts bit by bit and help those who help others.
Don't make more friends, but don't promiscuous.
A friend is someone who really thinks of each other.
6. Giving charcoal in the snow warms people's hearts more than icing on the cake
7. Maintain your friends' self-esteem and don't irritate others when helping others.
8. Friends should keep in touch when they don't need help.
9. Don't be modest when you ask your friends to do things for you.
10. Sometimes, lending money to friends is better than giving money to friends.
1 1. Happiness and pain should be shared with friends.
12. Make friends with similar interests and complementary advantages.
13. Others are good to me, don't forget; I owe someone one, don't forget.
The sixth chapter launches psychological games and conducts psychological manipulation.
1. We should not underestimate a seemingly small mistake.
2. If you want to restrain the weakness of human nature, it is better to awaken the advantages of human nature.
Let others say "yes" and firmly grasp the initiative.
4. Solve conflicts, contradictions and complaints by listening.
5. Ask the other person humbly and turn passivity into initiative.
6. Touch your opponent's heart and guide him to follow your thoughts.
7. When necessary, you need to shed a few lines of tears to win each other's pity.
8. Please stimulate the other party appropriately, not by goading.
9. Cleverly use the power of others to achieve your own goals.
10. Praise must be from the heart, not too artificial.
1 1. When there is a crack in the relationship, we should make it up quickly.
12. Being reasonable also makes people bypass a road and hurt a wall.
Chapter VII Understanding Psychological Mysteries and Improving Psychological Satisfaction
1. People who don't have guests won't get ahead.
2. Organize and participate in some activities such as dinners and dances.
3. Expand your contacts by exchanging personal resources with others.
4. Get close to your boss and make him your network resource.
5. Meet the boss's "respect needs" and avoid over-expressing yourself.
6. Don't forget to dispel the boss's doubts when you show your talents.
7. When you get along with your boss, you should straighten your position and not exceed your authority.
8. Grasp the critical distance with subordinates and establish authority.
9. Let stubborn subordinates persuade his colleagues.
10. When criticizing subordinates, don't forget to leave him face.
1 1. It is not surprising to give gifts to many people, and giving gifts is also very popular.
12. Don't forget to thank God after asking God, and don't forget to thank God after doing things.