Do you know: Do you know the marriage system in Dou Youli? Dad Sheng was humiliated many times by the Yuan family, so why did he still send Hua Lan to get married?

The eldest daughter of the Sheng family, Hualan, got married. The man was from the Yuan family of the Zhongqin family. The Yuan family sent someone to recruit her, but a series of changes happened. Not only did the head of the Yuan family violate the agreement and did not come in person, the eldest son of the Yuan family who went on his behalf also deliberately instigated the guest Gu Tingye to play a game of pot with Sheng Changfeng, the son of the Sheng family. The bet was Hualan's main betrothal gift: a pair of wild geese. The eldest daughter of the Sheng family had a big quarrel with her lord, Father Sheng, because she was unwilling to marry her daughter to an unreliable relative. However, Father Sheng persuaded his wife with sweet words. On the surface, Father Sheng was compromising for the sake of his daughter's reputation. In fact, Father Sheng was compromising for his daughter's reputation. Woolen cloth? Dad Sheng insisted on marrying Hualan to the Yuan family, but there was actually another reason. Next, let’s analyze it from the following four points.

First, it is because of the marriage process; in ancient times, marriage was a major event, not only related to personal happiness, but also closely related to the rise and fall of the entire family. Therefore, the ancients had a strict marriage process, especially for officials and officials like Sheng and Yuan, who had to strictly follow the etiquette and laws and perform various marriage procedures. The key performance in "Know or Not" is the part of accepting the challenge. Nazheng, also called Naqian, is popularly known as betrothal gift. The man gives the betrothal gift to the woman's family to confirm the marriage. Only when the collection process is completed, the marriage contract will be truly established and effective, otherwise it will still be undecided.

If this rule is followed, Father Sheng still has a chance to regret it before accepting the betrothal gift from the Yuan family. The marriage is not yet finalized, so the eldest lady has a big quarrel with the master and wants to replace him. The daughter rejected this marriage and did not pay attention to her marriage. The reason why Father Sheng did not do this was because according to the laws of the Song Dynasty, there were already strict restrictions on the "acceptance" step in the first step of marriage. If violated, not only would one be morally condemned, but they might also bear legal liability. Second, exchange fixed posts; in the adoption stage, after the families of both men and women have preliminary intentions, the woman will notify the man with a "draft post", and the man's family will use the woman's post to perform divination and seek fortune-telling. If both parties' horoscopes match, the man's family will I will reply to the post to express my agreement.

Then the two parties enter into the exchange of fixed deposits, and the man once again sends someone to deliver the fixed deposits to the woman’s home, listing the man’s family situation, such as official position, origin, whether parents are present, the person who presided over the marriage, the amount of property, etc. . After receiving the invitation from the man, the woman also needs to reply and write down her basic situation, including dowry and property. After the men and women exchange marriage certificates, the marriage contract is basically finalized. However, because the more important part of the recruitment process has not yet been completed, there may still be variables in the marriage, such as the man regretting his marriage and marrying someone else, or the woman marrying someone else. In order to prevent this situation from happening, the families of both parties who entered into the marriage contract may use a third-party agency to notarize the marriage contract to strengthen the effectiveness of the marriage contract. This kind of notary institution is called a bookstore.

Third, the notary institution of the Song Dynasty; private engagements were often written in a bookstore, and under the witness of the bookstore, representatives of both families signed and stamped to ensure the validity of the marriage contract. To open a bookstore in the Song Dynasty, you must have a guarantor, be registered with the government, be issued an official seal by the government, and be subject to government supervision. A certificate of reward and punishment must be issued before authenticating the documents. Therefore, the binding letter witnessed by the bookstore is very effective and it is difficult for both families to regret it. Fourth, the consequences of the woman breaking the contract; some people may say, what’s the big deal if the contract is valid? After all, the marriage formalities were not completed. They are not a real couple. An engagement is just a contract. If you want to break the contract, the worst possible outcome is to return the bride price or pay some money, isn't it settled?

Breaking up a marriage is really not a matter of money. It may involve criminal punishment and legal liability. From this point of view, the Sheng family has already exchanged promises with the Yuan family. If he goes back on his word at this time and even promises his daughter to another marriage, Sheng's father will most likely bear a penalty of sixty to one hundred canes. If his daughter has already married someone else, Sheng's father will be punished. The father may be sentenced to one year in prison, and the daughter must be chased back to her ex-husband. No wonder Dad Sheng couldn't bear such serious consequences and didn't dare to go back on his word. Therefore, even for an official family like the Sheng family, it is difficult to protect their daughter. I am very happy to know that I can answer your questions on Baidu today. I hope my answers can help you. You are also welcome to discuss with me here.