Talk about your views on gentlemen and ladies

In people’s minds, gentlemanly demeanor and ladylike temperament mainly reflect personal social interaction and the connotation of daily life. In fact, gentlemanly demeanor and ladylike temperament are not only expressions of personal inner qualities, but also the needs of a civilized society. and pursuit. In the UK, phone booths are used by men and women separately. People often see this scene: a long queue of men on one side, and an empty one on the other side. I think this cannot simply be attributed to the stiffness of the British, but rather reflects the gentlemanly demeanor that the British have cultivated over the centuries. In Denmark, a little boy was about to go out with his grandmother. He ran excitedly to the car door, but his grandmother grabbed him by the neck. "Ladies first!" Grandma said. This is a microcosm of the Danish family gentleman education. In our country, with the rapid economic development today, we not only need material abundance, but also cultural and civilizational progress. With the rapid development of social economy, people's behavioral norms are also undergoing a change. In the process of adhering to tradition and pursuing fashion, and in the issue of cultivating the next generation of successors, more people still tend to stick to tradition. Establish civilized behaviors suitable to the habits of this nation. The demeanor of a humble gentleman and the temperament of an elegant lady have always been a spiritual realm pursued by the Chinese. A person who lacks etiquette cannot behave rationally. Great wisdom and great wisdom require knowledge and ability as support, and a person's civilized behavior also requires cultivation and culture. School is a place for teaching and educating people. Students continue to learn knowledge and grow their talents in school. It is also a place to guide students to cultivate a good image, prepare them for their future integration into society, and also accumulate knowledge in how to behave and treat others. . In a civilized society, to see whether a person has civilized qualities, people often first look at the person's conversation, behavior, and manners, and then they will test your knowledge and abilities. At this point, college students are especially obvious when applying for jobs. When an employer recruits talents, they encounter a talent with very vulgar behavior and conversation. It means that you are talented, knowledgeable, and uncivilized. The words came out of his mouth, and first of all, his speech and conversation were downgraded. It is impossible to get the top spot in the fiercely competitive talent market. In addition, when conducting social and economic activities with the international community, a person's speech and behavior not only represent the individual, but also mainly represent the image and reputation of a country. If you do not carry out strict and standardized exercises and develop good habits during your student days, then you must It is obviously unimaginable to want to make a difference on the big social and economic stage.

Being courteous and courteous shows the demeanor of a gentleman, and being gentle and gentle shows the demeanor of a lady. This is the minimum content of the demeanor of a gentleman and the demeanor of a lady. Gentlemanliness and ladylike temperament, in the traditional sense, generally belong to relatively wealthy, status and well-educated people. But having money and status does not necessarily mean you are a gentleman. Jefferson, the third president of the United States, and his grandson drove out in a carriage. On the road they met a strange slave who took off his hat and bowed to them. Jefferson raised his hat in return, but his grandson was too busy talking to others to pay attention to the slave. Jefferson said solemnly: "My son, do you allow a slave to be more gentlemanly than you?" "Dragon sons and grandsons" do not necessarily have the demeanor of "dragons". On the contrary, there are more dandies and prodigal sons. . In fact, behind the demeanor, it is often supported by knowledge and talent, otherwise it will be just an illusion. If you come from a famous family and have no knowledge and education, you will have no grace; if you come from a poor and humble background, you can still be graceful as long as you study diligently and pay attention to self-cultivation. Therefore, when we build a gentleman's demeanor and cultivate a lady's temperament, we should not only pay attention to the cultivation of external image such as words and deeds, but also pay attention to the improvement of internal qualities such as cultural knowledge.

To create a gentleman's demeanor and cultivate a lady's temperament, the connotation of a gentleman and lady should be expanded to a wider scope. Being a gentleman is not just limited to having grace and temperament, being courteous and courteous, nor is it limited to being polite and polite without swearing. The traditional virtues of the Chinese nation should be the extension of gentlemanly demeanor. When a hero acts bravely for justice, he may be injured, dripping with blood, and has no grace at all. Can we say that he is not a gentleman? During the Hengyang fire, the heroic firefighters risked their lives to save ordinary people. Their faces were covered with smoke and their clothes were dirty. Can you say that they were not gentlemanly? Zhu Ziqing lived a noble life. He would rather starve to death than eat relief food from the United States. He wore an old, disheveled robe all year round. Can you say that he did not have a gentlemanly demeanor? The core of gentlemanly behavior lies in loving the country and the people, not just in appearance and conversation. Anyone who puts the interests of the country and the interests of the masses first is a gentleman. Therefore, our gentleman education cannot stop at simple behavioral civilization, but must be raised to the height of patriotic education. A lady is not limited to the elegant appearance of smiling without showing teeth, speaking softly, and walking gracefully. The connotation of a lady includes seeking knowledge and progress, being loyal and patriotic. As a woman, Qiu Jin likes men's clothing and has taken revolution as her mission throughout her life. Can she be said to be not a lady? Many female workers who are dedicated in ordinary jobs may not be able to meet the external requirements of ladies, but they are silently and selflessly contributing to the country and the people. They should be included in the category of ladies as a matter of course. Therefore, our lady education should give lady a broader meaning and should also be raised to the height of patriotic education.