Your facial features hide the Feng Shui of your life

The exquisiteness of facial features is often used to measure a person’s appearance.

In fact, the refinement of your soul and the level of your emotional intelligence are also hidden in your facial features.

Cultivating the five senses is also accumulating Feng Shui. Whether the Feng Shui for the rest of your life is good or not can be determined by looking at your facial features.

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Ears

Yu Guangzhong once said:

"Those who speak well can win listeners. Only those who listen well can win friends." . ”

People with high emotional intelligence are not only good at talking, but also good at being obedient.

People who know how to listen are a hundred times more powerful than those who can talk.

There is such a story:

Once upon a time, a small country sent an envoy to pay tribute to a big country, and paid tribute to the emperor of the big country with three golden figures with the same appearance. The workmanship was exquisite, and the emperor couldn't put it down on each one.

But the messenger asked a question: Which of these three golden figures is the most valuable?

The emperor was puzzled and asked a jeweler to inspect it carefully.

But these three statuettes are almost identical in appearance and materials. what to do?

A minister said that he had a way. So the emperor invited him to the main hall.

The minister held three straws confidently. He inserted straw into the ear of the first golden man, and the straw came out from the other ear.

He did the same thing to the second golden man, but straw came out of the golden man's mouth.

When the last golden man was tested, the straw fell into the belly of the third golden man.

The minister said excitedly: The third golden man is the most valuable! The messenger nodded silently.

These three golden figures represent the three realms of obedience respectively:

The first realm: in with the left ear, out with the right ear, turning a deaf ear to other people’s words;

The second level: listening to what others say but spreading it around without any scruples, commonly known as a big mouth, living like a "megaphone";

The third level: listening to others' words with your heart, For truly good listeners.

But in real life, people who can achieve the third level are very rare.

There is an idiom called "chicken talking to duck". Two completely different creatures speak two different languages, and neither one can understand what the other is saying.

Perfectly explains the state of communication between people who don’t know how to listen.

Those who are comfortable speaking, those who can "vibrate at the same frequency" no matter who they are with, are good listeners.

They can understand a person's desires and decipher his or her personality through his words.

Those who know how to listen, even if they cherish words like gold, what they say will still have weight and ring out.

But people who don’t know how to listen talk like a barrage of words.

If you only want to talk more and take the initiative in speech, but are unwilling to listen to others quietly, you will eventually be rejected by others.

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The Mouth

"Zengguang Xianwen" says:

"Right and wrong are just for talking more, and troubles are all caused by strength. Early years. Life is rare in the past seventy years. I wonder how old you still are. "

Smart people should learn to "pretend to be deaf" appropriately: pretend not to hear unpleasant words; , just treat yourself as a mute, hold it back and don’t say anything.

Don’t do things casually; don’t speak casually. Speaking is our lifelong practice.

Your casual words may ruin someone else's life.

In the short film "One Word, Ruin a Child's Life", there is an old man whose parents despised him when he was young: "You have always been far inferior to your brother."

This sentence The words were remembered by the old man for a lifetime.

Some people may say: "Isn't it just a word someone said in anger? How can it be remembered for so long?"

This old man tells you: As for it! In his later years, when he thinks of his parents' words, his eyes will still fill with tears and his hands will tremble.

Throughout his life, he could not get over the hurt caused by these words.

There is also a shocking scene that happened in a store in Thailand. His son was addicted to online games, and his father said angrily, "Why don't you die?"

The son really He shot himself, leaving his regretful father paralyzed on the ground.

The literary master Chen Zhongshi also regretted his life because of a casual remark.

Once upon a time, a young man wrote to Chen Zhongshi and attached his own work.

Young people want to ask Chen Zhongshi: Is his article good or not?

It was an unremarkable article. Chen Zhongshi didn’t think much about it, so he wrote back and told the young man: Your article is well written and encourages him to continue writing.

After being encouraged by the literary master, the young man was overjoyed and decided to give up farming and devote himself to writing.

But decades have passed, and young people have achieved nothing. Their greatest achievements are just a few tofu articles in tabloids.

Chen Zhongshi, who learned about this incident, was filled with regret.

He did not expect that his unintentional reply would ruin a young man's life.

Everyone should learn to speak.

When you are in a high position, you should control your mouth. Talking casually is not only irresponsible to yourself, but also irresponsible to others.

Everyone knows that you need to keep your mouth shut, but there are still many people who don’t know how to shut up.

Lincoln had a good idea about how to shut up. Someone asked Lincoln, what should I do if I hate someone very much?

Lincoln said, write a letter to scold him. You can scold him as much as you want. After you finish writing the letter, give it to me.

In the letter, that person tried his best to scold the people he hated, scolding the people he hated.

He showed the letter to Lincoln and asked, can it be mailed?

Lincoln said, are you kidding me and burned it.

It is said that words spoken are like water poured out, no matter how hard they are to be undone.

Many words are "angry words". After the anger is over, we will all regret it, but the words have been spoken and the deal is done. There is no regret medicine to take.

Therefore, those angry words and nonsense are all the product of bad emotions. It is better to "burn" them and let them go with the wind.

Understanding the art of speaking is a prerequisite for living a good life. If you talk less and speak better, life will be much more enjoyable.

Smart people understand:

Don’t argue. People who disagree with others cannot change them no matter how many explanations they give. In the end, it is you who suffers.

Talk less. Mature people tend to talk less. Every word they say has to pass through their brains.

03

Eye

There is a question on Zhihu: What ability is very important but most people don’t have it?

Gao Zan replied: Most people do not have the ability to see.

Many people are surprised by this answer: I am not blind. I have eyes, how can I not see?

The respondent said that the so-called ability to see is the perspective of the soul.

It is to feel the ability of another person through the small things in life.

The difference from observing words and colors comes more from spiritual practice.

When a person has the ability to "see", he can know what the other person is most important and cares about, and when the other person gets the feedback of being seen, they will really open their hearts to communicate with each other.

You see others, and others feel your respect and love.

Your interpersonal communication will go smoothly, and your accumulation of connections will become your resources.

And in those happy families, there are always a few people with bright eyes.

My friend Xiao Shen’s husband is such a person.

On the surface, Xiao Shen did not say that she valued her 30th birthday, but her husband noticed her little thoughts and saved money to travel with her to Japan, which she had always wanted to visit.

Xiao Shen specially cooked a table of his favorite dishes. He could smell the aroma of the food as soon as he walked in, and even kissed her to express his gratitude.

Compared to many couples who are seemingly inseparable, relatively speechless, and only playing mobile phones, they are really a couple of gods.

In fact, the cold violence that hurts us the most in life is being ignored.

On the other hand, those who are unhappy are more or less ignored:

I work so hard to improve my grades, but my parents don’t seem to care at all. Me, he didn’t even say a word of encouragement to me.

I had a bad cold and wanted my boyfriend's care, but all I wanted was a snake oil saying, "Drink more hot water."

The disappointment really cannot be described in words.

Mature people have sharp eyes.

This is not natural, but a strong passion developed after reading Qianfan.

For the rest of your life, be with someone who can "see" you.

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Hidden in your five senses is the Feng Shui of your life:

By practicing your eyes, you will have the ability to "see through" the soul;

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Practice your ears and know how to listen, and you will understand life better;

Practice your mouth and control your mouth, and you will control your emotions.

For the rest of my life, may you and I have exquisite features and abundant souls.