What should people who always feel anxious and afraid do?
Anxiety refers to subjective tension, anxiety and inexplicable fear caused by the stimulation of no clear objective object, often accompanied by some manifestations of autonomic nervous dysfunction, such as sweating, trembling, palpitation, chest tightness, frequent urination and so on.
Anxiety disorder can be said to be the most common emotional disorder in the crowd.
According to WHO research, the lifetime prevalence of anxiety disorder in the population is 13.6%-28.8%, and 90% of patients with anxiety disorder get sick before the age of 35, and women are often more than men.
Anxiety often starts early (80%-90%, before the age of 35; 10-25 years old), genetic and psychosocial factors have an impact on the onset, and the prognosis is related to individual quality and clinical types.
Psychoanalysts believe that anxiety disorder is the result of excessive internal conflicts threatening self (exams, safety, games). Scholars based on the "learning theory" believe that anxiety is a habitual behavior. Because there is a conditional connection between the stimulus that causes anxiety and the neutral stimulus, the conditioned stimulus is generalized and a wide range of anxiety is formed.
My point of view is relatively simple. Objective things have no anxiety attribute, but anxious people artificially add anxiety attribute to objective things, so anxious people will feel anxious when they look at this thing, and others will not feel anxious about the same thing.
The detailed description of the subjects shows that they always feel nervous, uneasy and inexplicable fear for at least one year due to the long-term negative emotional influence, so they all meet the diagnostic criteria of anxiety disorder from the aspects of symptom characteristics and course of disease. Yes, it is anxiety.
There are two main ways to relieve anxiety: medication and psychotherapy. Drug therapy is mainly benzodiazepine alprazolam, lorazepam, clonazepam, or SSRI antidepressants, or buspirone hydrochloride, tandolone citrate and other anti-anxiety drugs.
However, because the characteristics of anxiety disorder often require long-term treatment, patients with anxiety disorder should not take drugs for a long time to control the possible anxiety manifestations. For chronic anxiety, psychotherapy is suggested to improve anxiety.
Cognitive behavioral therapy is the most important psychotherapy for anxiety disorder. By increasing patients' understanding of anxiety, they can change their wrong cognition, rebuild their health and correct cognition, and then change their anxiety, and finally change their behavior and physical symptoms.
Death came to a city and decided to take away 100 people. When a person knew this, he hurriedly reminded the residents of this city: "Death is coming, 100 people will be taken away! 」。
The result is dead 1000 people. The man asked death why? Death said, "I did take 100 people, but anxiety took others!" " 」。
Childe comments: anxiety is harmful to body and mind, even worse than death. Don't sum it up if you have nothing to do; 1 calm down: don't do anything wrong, don't be afraid of ghosts knocking at the door; Calm down: live your life at your own pace, cherish the present and don't waste time. 3 Brave: Don't be afraid of things, and the soldiers will block. If you worry and fear everywhere, you can't live.
There are twins with different personalities. My brother is an out-and-out pessimist, and my brother is like a born optimist. On Christmas Eve when they were 8 years old, their families wanted to change their extreme personality and prepared different gifts for them: a brand-new bike for their brother and a box of horse manure for his brother.
It's time to open the presents. Everyone is waiting to see their reaction. My brother first opened his huge box and began to cry: "You know I can't ride a bike! And it is snowing heavily outside! " My brother opened his present-the room suddenly smelled of horse manure. "Tell me, where did you hide the horse? 」
Childe commented that people are alive, that is, to be happy and always anxious. What is the point of living? The most important thing here is a person's mentality. Pessimists look at everything negatively; An optimistic person will be happy if he has something to eat at the next meal.
Nowadays people are so anxious that their income can only increase, not decrease, otherwise they will be anxious, and unemployment will be even more terrible, from despair to collapse.
I grew up in the countryside, the harvest season is delightful, and the sowing season is full of hope. I can't be anxious because the land doesn't produce grain in winter. In addition, this harvest is also linked to the weather, and the weather does not guarantee good weather every year. Why should we be anxious?
Of course, my son personally believes that we should try not to overspend, do what we can, make the family's financial planning safer, and don't go bankrupt because of unexpected unemployment. Only in this way can we fundamentally eliminate anxiety.
If the family finances are relatively safe, such as not working for a year or so, the problem is not big. If you lose your job unexpectedly, while trying to find a job, you might as well take this opportunity to spend time with your family and go for an outing. Isn't it rare? Like farmers in the past, it's not bad to squat in the sun in winter if you have nothing to do!
There was a little monk who had to sweep the fallen leaves every day and felt very hard. One day, he thought of a way to shake the tree hard, hoping to sweep all the leaves tomorrow at once, so it would be easy. As a result, the leaves were still falling all over the yard the next day.
No matter how hard you shake the tree today, the leaves will still float down tomorrow. If you have troubles tomorrow, wait until tomorrow and live today first!
② Don't expect financial freedom once and for all. There are too many variables in the future. Just live in the moment, maintain a stable cash flow and maintain a healthy family financial plan. Perhaps, for most people, there is no such option as financial freedom.
The pig said that if I could live again, I would be a cow. Although the work is very tiring, I have a good reputation, which makes people feel pitiful. The cow said, if I live again, I will be a pig, eat and sleep, eat and sleep, and live like a fairy without contributing or sweating. The eagle said, if I live again, I will be a chicken, thirsty for water and hungry for rice, living in a house and being protected; The chicken said, if I live again, I want to be an eagle, I can fly in the sky and travel around the world, I can catch rabbits and kill chickens at will.
Julia child commented that many people's anxiety comes from comparing with others, but people are more annoying than others. A person should compare with his past, as long as it is better than the past!
What's more, everyone has everyone's experience, and success cannot be copied. Be yourself and don't envy others. How much is more money? How much do you earn as Ma Yun? Maybe Ma Yun is still envious of your life and "regrets creating Ali Jack Horse".
People in Qi were sent to die, forgetting to eat and sleep.
Comments Now everyone says that the environment is not good. There is a saying that "20 19 is the worst year in the past decade and the best year in the next decade", which further increases everyone's anxiety.
Is the big environment good? Can we ordinary people change? We can think about it, but don't worry. If you can't grasp the big environment, it's better to grasp the small trend.
Don't take the big environment as an excuse. The bad environment is not good for anyone. Don't use the big environment as a shield.
In the Sahara desert, there is a gerbil. Whenever the dry season comes, it will hoard a lot of grass roots. Even if the grass roots are safe enough to survive the dry season, gerbils still have to work hard and keep looking for them. They must bite them off and transport them back to their caves to be practical. Otherwise, you will be restless and screaming.
The son and a friend commented on such a topic. Should a person always make progress or be content? When I was a child, I learned the story of fisherman and golden fish, which made us satisfied. But in fact, in real life, most people are in an insatiable state, wrapped in desires and pursuing higher goals endlessly. Is this wrong?
Childe thought, if you live so tired all your life, where is the meaning of life? Is money directly proportional to happiness? Not necessarily, because we have to consider our own efforts, sacrifice a lot of leisure time and spend a lot of time with our families. There is a degree in this, and the key is how to grasp this degree. The measure is the experience of life. Don't forget your initiative, happiness is the fundamental purpose of life.
This inexplicable panic and anxiety is manifested in the individual's reaction to a special thing or situation that may cause psychological conflict or frustration, and at the same time, there is a state of some unpleasant emotional experience. This kind of thing or situation includes things that may cause danger or disaster in the near future, or things that need special efforts to deal with. If comparison can't predict the result and effective measures can't be taken to prevent or solve it, then psychological tension and expectation will trigger anxiety reaction. Excessive and frequent anxiety becomes anxiety and weakness of neurosis, which must be treated promptly and reasonably. It is recommended to go to a regular psychological hospital to receive treatment from a professional psychologist.
In addition, in terms of psychological assistance, I will introduce several self-therapies to you.
① Hint therapy.
Self-confidence is a necessary prerequisite for panic and anxiety symptoms. We should suggest that we should build up confidence, know ourselves correctly, and believe that we have the ability to handle emergencies and complete all the work. If we have more confidence, our anxiety will be reduced.
② Deep relaxation therapy.
In this regard, you need to use the power of your subconscious to imply that you must first imagine the weakest situation in a tense situation. If you keep repeating it, you will gradually change, that is, there will be an opposite reaction in your consciousness to what you see in anxiety.
③ Analytical therapy.
Some anxious people suppress their emotional experiences and desires in the subconscious and don't disappear in their minds. At this time, if they are worried all day, it is like a catastrophe and anxiety. I don't know why. At this time, we must analyze the causes of anxiety, or dig out the deep root of the disease with the help of a psychologist and vent it when necessary, so that the symptoms will be weakened.
④ Stimulation therapy.
⑤ Hypnotherapy.
Space is limited, and the latter two therapies will be developed for everyone at a suitable time in the future!
Wish you happiness and good luck!
First, understand what brings anxiety and fear to your life and work. If you don't understand, it will always exist, and it will be difficult for you to drive it away.
20 17, the uncertainty about the future is sexy and anxious. I couldn't sleep for over a month. One day, after listening to Knowledge is Power, I began to spend time studying psychology and broaden my horizons. After more than a year's study, my cognition has been continuously improved. Looking back at the source of my anxiety, I found that my anxiety was actually that there were too few ink marks in my brain's memory and I had no direction for the unknown, but now I am very happy every day.
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I feel "uncertainty and confusion in the future" in the article.
The psychological motivation of "fear" emotion may be that it will hurt you in the future.
If you can, accept your emotions.
Put yourself in an emotion and ask yourself, "What am I afraid of?" "What makes me so depressed, scared and anxious?"
I believe you will have your own answer.
Then you can extract the problem and express it in words.
Then think about what kind of ability you need to increase to cope with the future crisis, and the specific methods you can do and land now.
There must be improvement after the trough.
What should I do if I always feel anxious and afraid? Look at what kind of people are around you, parents, relatives, friends, family, daughter-in-law, wife, questioner, how old are you? It can be seen from your question that you should be young, so if you are young, you should first open your heart to your parents. No matter what your parents do that scares you, you should talk to them anyway. How do you think? Find a night when both parents are there, thank your parents for giving birth to you and raising you, and thank them for bringing you to this colorful world, and then say that I will study hard or work hard, and my parents will definitely care about my children, indicating that their children are sensible. The effect of this is that the family will be more and more harmonious. Whether the parents are suitable or not, the spirit of seeing such a sensible child will dissipate.
The second thing to do after that is to really study hard or work hard.
The third thing is that everyone has close friends and best friends, and tell him or her the truth, have a drunken dinner, have a happy trip, have a fitness experience together, and so on. You should keep self-correction and self-sunshine. You can't always live in the shadow and fear of others in this world, but always cheer yourself up. You can do it, it is artificial, willing, and never give up.
If you understand it, you will understand. Take your time if you don't understand, and you will win sooner or later. Come on! ! ! ! ! !
Anxiety = dissatisfaction with your present+worry about the future.
Influenced by the living environment, we always run counter to the person we want to be, so there are constant inner conflicts.
We may use various ways to eliminate contradictions, but many times we will fall into deeper fear, anxiety and despair, resulting in neurosis.
How to relieve excessive anxiety?
1. Coping with fear
We can try to adjust our fears from the aspect of autonomic nerves through exercise and mindfulness. For example, jogging and yoga can increase dopamine and endorphins in the brain and make us calm and relaxed. Through exercise, the circuits of positive emotions in the brain will also increase, helping us to resist fear. However, many clinical trials and studies show that mindfulness has a particularly obvious intervention effect on anxiety.
Regain control
(1) When we are afraid, the objects we fear are often vague and chaotic. Specifically, you described this vague thing clearly and clearly.
By recalling the details when you felt anxious, apart from the time, place and people, when did you start to feel anxious, what did you do when you were anxious, what did you think, and so on. Through these concrete ways, we can reflect and perceive the whole event, so that the whole thing is no longer chaotic. In this process, you can realize the whole picture and details of the whole thing, as well as your own emotions. When you become more familiar with yourself and the object of your anxiety, you will feel more controlled and you will be able to eliminate your anxiety.
(2) People who are generally anxious have all kinds of things on their minds and think a lot of things at the same time. When everything is thought and done together, it often becomes at a loss. At this time, you need to prioritize all the things you want to do. Focus on one thing before doing something else. At work, we often encounter multitasking. We should ensure that "important things come first". Choose a task with the highest priority, concentrate on completing this task first, and then do the next one. Do it one by one. This will not only give you a sense of accomplishment when you finish the task, but also positively motivate yourself and help you greatly relieve your anxiety.
(3) When we are faced with some long-term and arduous tasks, our anxiety will be more intense. Then, the way to relieve anxiety is to make a plan and disassemble the goal. When making a plan, you should split it from top to bottom. First set the big goal of the whole project, and then split the big goal into small goals. Clear measurement indicators, deadlines, and how to achieve each big goal and small goal. Breaking down a big goal into small goals can make the goal clearer and more executable, and make the whole task feel more controllable, thus alleviating anxiety. Leave some spare time between small goals and set aside time for emergencies. Otherwise, when unexpected events happen at an inappropriate time, you will become flustered and even more anxious. Give yourself a reward after completing each small goal, such as taking a vacation, eating a delicious meal and getting together with friends. Doing so, on the one hand, can alleviate the staged pressure and anxiety, on the other hand, it is also a positive incentive for yourself. Encourage yourself to meet the next stage of work with a more positive mood and state.
If your state of anxiety and fear persists for a period of time and still does not improve after self-adjustment, it is recommended to seek professional help.
This is a mental gap of your own making. The first sentence you said was made by yourself. This is because your current job is definitely not as comfortable as your previous job. Fear of life and work is because you have made a wrong decision, which makes you afraid to choose again and make a choice. I suggest you read this book, Square and Circle. Life is to give up and get what you want. You gave up a good job for a better job for the first time, but you didn't consider the risk. Since the choice is wrong, why not enjoy it? Or make a choice It's up to you. No one can help you.
Few people like work, except those who are really interested. Who would want to work if it weren't for money? So the current job may not be very good. Wait until you make money and feel ok, then do what you want to do.