Why do some people think that "good intentions are rewarded"?
Because most of them are helpful people who don't know how to refuse others at the right time. It's not like before, and there are stories that you accidentally helped a rich man, and then he gave you a good position or a lot of money.
Now it is more often because of kindness that others ask for their help, even if they don't want to, even if it takes a lot of time and energy, they will finally agree. After a long time, the other party will not thank you, but take it for granted. When you want to refuse, the other person will think you are strange.
This also confirms the saying that "people are good at being bullied, and Ma Shan is riding". If the other person is an unreasonable person, he will be more excited to see you being bullied, but he will give up when he meets that kind of strong person.
Therefore, I want to say to kind people, take care of yourself first, satisfy your emotions first and then take care of others. Remember, "if you are rich, you will help the world, and if you are poor, you will be immune."
I know this habit is hard to get rid of, but think of those people who ask you for help without considering your feelings. How embarrassed they are, why are you embarrassed to refuse?
My father is such a person. Every time he goes out, he will bring local specialties to his friends. On holidays, he will edit a unique greeting message and send a red envelope to everyone. When his "friend" asks for help, he will not hesitate. But when he needed help, everyone made excuses.
After my heart cooled, I knew that maintaining friendship in the adult world requires strength besides kindness. How much value you have, how close the relationship will be, even if you give nothing.
To sum up, you can be kind to others, but you can't wronged yourself and hurt yourself. If you want to maintain a relationship by being nice to others, it won't work. The most important thing is to make yourself valuable.
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A good-hearted person is bound to be soft-hearted, and soft-hearted is bound to be disastrous. The ancients said that it is true that soft-faced people are poor all their lives. Good people are easily bullied, and good horses are ridden. Eternal truth On the other hand, there must be Qing Yu in the accumulated good house, and one day the blessing will come. So, be a man, don't be a small favor, don't be a small evil. Do more good deeds, don't do bad things, repair good news for yourself, it doesn't matter if you suffer a little, be open-minded, I believe there is no hard work in this world!
Zhuangzi said, if you kill, you will not die; if you live, you will not be born. It is also a true merit to forget this. Forgetting things, improvising, not sticking to good and evil, harmony is no problem at all! But good people are generally soft-hearted, worry too much, can not adhere to the doctrine of the mean, long-term injury to the innate vitality, gas is also poor, so the feelings are not long! People with good roots should not be bound by the foreign minister, just respond casually, and treat them because of illness! It's good to do good deeds without heart, to repay kindness unexpectedly and not to be a deacon! Self-determination, self-seeking! No distractions, and it's not a question of language! Being happy all the time is kung fu, doing good deeds!
We were taught from an early age that good people get what they deserve. However, the cruel reality made the cheek of this sentence swollen by two feet. This is the fundamental reason why some people think that "good people are rewarded".
The most typical example is the story of the farmer and the snake. The farmer has a kind heart. When he saw the snake frozen stiff, he kindly held it in his arms to help it. When the snake woke up, it bit the farmer. The farmer died of poisoning, which can be said to be bad luck.
Why is the fate of good people bad? There are three main reasons. These three reasons can be said to be the fatal defects of good people.
First, trust people. If you are kind, you can easily trust others, so you will inevitably be fooled. In one's life, some people may be irrelevant at the first time, but some people will build their own lives at the first time.
Second, I don't know how to refuse. It is difficult for a kind person to refuse unreasonable demands from others. At the critical moment, this rejection is often at the expense of one's own future and destiny.
Third, I can't do it. A kind and moral person has no brains or wrists, but he can't help himself. For example, when others kill you by hook or by crook, they won't fight back, and they can only be slaughtered.
We always say that fate is in our own hands, but this statement is not necessarily true. For cruel people, fate can be mastered by themselves, but for kind people, fate is often in the hands of others.
From any angle, there is nothing wrong with being kind to others. However, kindness should also be divided into objects. Be kind to good people and you will reap kindness; Be kind to bad people and you will be in danger. So, don't spread your love and kindness everywhere. It is foolish to be kind to others regardless of the object.
"People who are kind-hearted have a bad fate." This idea and statement itself is biased and can't stand scrutiny.
"Kind-hearted" and "fate" are two different things, and cannot be confused. Kindness is a person's moral quality and innate cultivation; And fate is determined by people's living environment, their own efforts and unconscious thoughts. Objectively speaking, sometimes, whether a person's fate is smooth or not, God has already arranged it.
If people who think they are kind-hearted have bad fate, will people who feel this way say that people with good fate are not kind? Have they become vicious people?
According to this, a kind-hearted person has a bad fate, while a cruel person has a good fate. From this, it can be inferred that in order to have a good fate, people have become cold-blooded and heartless. Is this ok?
In order to overthrow the rhetoric of this sentence, I will give an example to demonstrate:
Aunt Wang is a kind person. She was praised by the old man for her kindness since she was a child. For example, she went to Tianjiao to beg for pig grass. If she finds that other people's corn seedlings have been blown down by the strong wind, she will bend down to help them get up.
Besides, no one taught her. When she was a child, Aunt Wang would carry water for the lonely old people in the stockade. This behavior continued until her wedding day.
Aunt Wang, who is married to a foreign country, is always in a foreign country, no matter what big or small things are in the village. What's more, whether a person's heart is good or not can also be judged from the details.
One year, a man who picked a jar from far away to exchange food passed by Aunt Wang's house. At that time, Aunt Wang's family didn't lack jars and water tanks, and she stumbled when she saw the jar pickers sweating. Therefore, Aunt Wang asked the jar picker to put down the burden.
Before the two sides bargained, Aunt Wang arranged for the jar picker to sit down and bring him a bowl of tea. At this time, Aunt Wang motioned her husband to take a dry cigarette to the jar picker. While her husband was chatting with the jar picker, Aunt Wang cooked the meal again. The jar picker filled Aunt Wang's house with food and drink, and Aunt Wang mentioned the jar.
Unexpectedly, when the jar picker left, Aunt Wang did not unload the jar, but gave it to the jar picker 10 kg of corn and 5 kg of rice for free.
In the eyes of people nearby, Aunt Wang is a kind-hearted person. But her fate until now, no one said that Aunt Wang's fate is not good!
First, her family is harmonious; Second, her children are filial and mature; Third, she has a good attitude, good health and is respected by local people. Especially when it rained heavily one year, before the house where Aunt Wang lived was washed away by the mudslide, it was the snake that she saved that got Aunt Wang and her family out of the predicament.
From this perspective, it is false to say that good people have a bad fate. There is no scientific basis to say it, but it will mislead people to "abandon good and follow evil." For the sake of your own destiny, you should treat people and things coldly and be cruel and heartless.
Therefore, the world is inseparable from truth, goodness and beauty; The fate of false, ugly and evil people is even more moldy. I won't give examples here. Therefore, everyone has a kind heart, in order to support a gratifying blue sky!
Some people say that a kind heart is suffering step by step. He said that good people are rewarded. He also said that good is rewarded with good, and evil with evil. It's not that the time has not come. Lindo, the evil is unclear, and the outcome is mixed. But there is no reward for feeling like a good person.
Good people are often used by bad people and encounter storms for a time. During the Cultural Revolution, many people turned black and white, violated their conscience, framed and slandered, and finally died unjustly. You can't wait for revenge, and you can't wait for good results. I really believe that one good deed deserves another.
There is also a struggle to find the answer to the question that good people don't live long. Later, there was a saying circulating in a layman's home: The general idea is that man A killed someone in his last life, and God punished him for atonement on earth. Just like A man saved a drowning child, A man finished his atonement and ended his punishment halfway. Then in the eyes of ordinary people in the world, Manjia, a good man, died at a young age. This is just a family statement.
In other words, people's eyes are focused on individual cases, and it often happens that good people are not rewarded well. In fact, many good people with long lives still abound, but we ignore their great contributions. They are too low-key. For example: the famous expert, Zhong Nanshan.
Good people have a bad fate instead? There is such a saying, but there are such people in reality. This may be because of the differences in ideas, concepts, morality, viewpoints, thoughts and life styles. Therefore, evaluation, comments and just and fair opinions are different. Kindness is the tradition and style of the Chinese nation, but the fate of good people is not good. Our country has proved it for many years and I have proved it myself. I am over 60 years old and have always been kind to people. It can be said that in recent years, I have been serving the people wholeheartedly. As long as I can do it, I will not leave a retreat for myself and sincerely. It can be said that party member's standard. But I am confident that I will get better. Everyone does. It's gonna be okay. Work hard, I hope good luck will be tomorrow.
Good-hearted people are weak in heart and completely accept criticism and accusations from others. Let some people sometimes harass, and good people can only submit to humiliation. This kindness makes him feel great sadness, and he will choose to bear the burden of humiliation. Not sad, unhappy, not angry, bury the pain in your heart.
Fate changes with the development of things. Good people can only take goodness as virtue and bear the burden of humiliation. This spirit is worth learning. The so-called bad fate changes with the development of environment and things. Because I've done too many good things. There are also mistakes in doing good deeds, which change the cognition of oneself and others. People who do good always feel that their fate is bad, and they also have their own shortcomings and mistakes. This is everyone's rule. He is also a mortal and has his own mistakes, which leads to his bad fate.
This is normal. Blindly doing good makes people realize his mistakes, and the road is tortuous. The so-called "people are easy to bully and horses are easy to ride" is wrong. But he can stand his own test. Find your own shortcomings and cognition. Fate comes step by step. I often turn my destiny into Tao. I would rather lose myself than let others lose. Therefore, good people are rewarded.
There is a kind but stupid person who is constantly being asked for, but surrounded by greedy people, and finally sucked dry. So kindness needs wisdom, help those who should be helped, and stay away from dependent vampires. In rural areas, girls are often taken home by men.