Husband betrays you, and divorce is good for you.
First, I don't expect too much from a man, but I can treat him as an ordinary friend and partner.
If a man betrays, no matter what factors, it is inseparable from marriage. The original match can't ask a man to have that set of standards for a good husband. Otherwise, it will only be himself who gets hurt. Why ask for trouble?
Who let the original match only care about having children and taking care of the elderly, and have no ambition or economic independence?
Some couples attach too much importance to their feelings and husbands, and feel that losing their marriage feelings and being abandoned by men is like the end of the world. This idea is easily defended by men.
The original cognitive limitations think that women must rely on men, and that women's divorce is a failure of life, and that if divorced, children will have shadows in their hearts.
If we can't break through this narrow cognition, women will fall into the abyss of entanglement and pain.
Only by recognizing that marriage is only a lifestyle choice and that love between men and women is not the whole life of a woman can the original match really handle the fact that her husband can't divorce after betrayal.
With a correct understanding, the original match can no longer be as humble as before to please and cater to beg for his love. If a man doesn't love you anymore, his original partner should take back his love.
You won't be disappointed if you don't expect it. It's none of your business to let him break up with a third party. Just think of him as a humanoid ATM.
If he refuses to give it, then take out the evidence of his betrayal and force him to give it. He must participate in the children's affairs. Because children are not the responsibility of one person.
The original match should be independent and powerful as soon as possible and have the ability to divorce. If you want a man to take you seriously, the original match must be strong to have the right to speak.
Second, spend time and energy on yourself to grow and improve.
The sooner a woman knows what she wants, the easier it is to get happiness. Many original partners have experienced men's betrayal before they understand that women should live for themselves.
Whether the original match can be accepted or not, her husband's betrayal is a foregone conclusion. Instead of indulging in the negative emotions of self-pity, it is better to cheer up and enrich yourself.
Women are independent individuals and don't need to live with men. A woman can hold up a clear sky by herself. With this knowledge, the original match will no longer equate his happiness with marriage.
A woman can have other choices in her life besides getting married and having children, such as realizing her own value. When a woman's mind and pattern are broadened, she will no longer stare at her husband's betrayal every day.
Instead, spend time and energy on yourself, strive to improve and grow yourself, and get out of the emotional haze completely.
Third, I will no longer be a free "nanny" for men at home.
Many men betray and blame the original match, saying that the love and care given to men by the original match is far from enough.
Some couples give everything for their families, work as free nannies for men, and wait on him to eat and drink, but he is ungrateful and only takes it for granted. In the end, he betrayed his marriage and didn't feel wrong.
In the case that men are betrayed and inseparable, the original match can no longer fulfill his wife's obligations without complaint and be a free nanny for men.
Don't worry about what men think of you. What should you do if you are virtuous and capable in his eyes? Isn't he still betraying?
The original match can't give a man the illusion that there is a free lunch in the world, and he will resolutely stop doing this for him. It is better to use time and energy to grow yourself.