Ask for a reward for high marks: how to write the date of marriage notice in ancient times
First, asking for a name
The main ceremony of "asking for a name" is that the two sides exchange official names, years of age and birthdates, so that they can know each other about the origin of the two families and measure that this marriage is a "suitable match". The procedure is to send the woman's "Geng Tie" to the man's family by the media, and the man's family will put this post on the desk of the gods and ancestors, Buji. If the family is safe within 3 days, the man's wedding invitation will be sent to the woman's family. After the woman accepts it, she will either ask the astrologer or agree to get married.
At the beginning of the marriage negotiation, perhaps a woman asked a matchmaker to ask the man to put forward a letter (word) as a basis for "snooping" the man. If the woman thinks it's appropriate and auspicious, she will write a score for the boys and girls together and send it to the man's family, otherwise the instrument will return the original.
Zizi (Geng Tie) is written on red rectangular paper. Central straight books, such as the woman's book "A certain surname Kun made a certain year, a certain month, a certain day and a certain time"; The man's book, "A surname was born in a certain year, a certain month, a certain day and a certain time". The number of words must be even, such as singular, and men should add "Jian" to new words. Women add "Rui" to new words. In addition, although Zi Zi and Zi Zi are both called Niangeng, they are slightly different, that is, Jia Geng, the first character of the eight characters, must be used for divination, while Zi Zi writes his place of origin, ranking, etc. for investigation and mining. Commonly known as "Zi Zi", it is a small year celebration, and "Zi Zi" is a big year Geng.
△ The marriage has not yet been decided, so it is not allowed to be tied up by two families, and it can only be agreed upon.
second, make an alliance
make an appointment, that is, make a decision. The ceremony of betrothal is called Wen Ding, also known as Xiao Pin, which is now the wedding ceremony. On a fixed date and an auspicious day, the man's family will prepare to send the bride price to the woman's family. The betrothal gifts are: red silk (pinned on the red silk with gold lettering or embedded with gold lettering), golden flowers (gold hairpin), gold rings, gold earrings, sheep, pigs, wedding candles, incense salutes, gift cakes, even flowerpots (meaning to give birth to precious children) and pomegranate flowers (meaning to have many children).
media, male parents or their relatives will accompany them. The bride's family accepts most of the betrothal gifts and prepares 12 gifts in return. Gift cakes are distributed to relatives and friends as an engagement notice. This is called "cake sharing". Donated relatives and friends must give wedding gifts in the future.
Hold an engagement wedding and have a ceremony of "wearing a ring". At the time of delivery, 6 or 12 people (even number) from the male family will come to the female family to give gifts, and the female family will place the dowry in front of the ancestral desk of the shrine for worship. The soon-to-be-married daughter took the sweet tea to the hall and introduced them one by one. After drinking tea, the male family each gave a "tea-pressing turn" red envelope to the teacup. Then the woman came back and sat in the chair in the center of the hall (putting one short foot on the other indicates nobility; When you get married, you face outward, and when you get married, your husband faces inward), and your elders hang and wear rings. There are two gold and copper rings (copper has the same pronunciation, meaning that the couple are concentric), tied with red lines to show the couple's marriage. After wearing the ring, the Qing family takes a seat, and the engagement ceremony is completed. There are also simplified ones, which combine small employment and large employment, that is, the three ceremonies of subscribing to the alliance, winning the lottery and winning the money are combined into one, which is always called "sending".
third, the completion of employment (winning lottery and money)
The second ceremony of winning lottery and money is called "completion of employment" or "big employment". With marriage documents, betrothal money, coins and silks (jewelry) and other things, the department sent them to the woman's home with the "respect of receiving coins", and the woman's home also returned with the weight. After the appointment, the gift will be accompanied by the matchmaker and sent to the woman's house. The bride price of the wealthy family is grand, and the order is as follows: blowing class (band), gift card (recording the gift items and ceremony order), marriage certificate, bride price, big cake, crystal sugar winter claw, orange cake, persimmon, Fu < P > pill (dried longan), pig's feet, noodles, candy, two capons, two female ducks and big candles.
when the betrothal gift arrives, the woman's family will burn incense and fire firecrackers to inform the ancestors of the gods and celebrate the giver of the man's family. Deliver the book to the matchmaker. If a man does not send a gift, he will receive a part or return it intact according to its variety, such as Fuwan, castrated chicken and female duck, which belong to the man's family and should be returned. Pig feet only take their meat, and the bones of pig feet should be returned. In return, the groom's dress, clothes, shoes and socks, bell embroidery and the like are used. "betrothal gift": all gifts are recorded in red paper gift cards, and their names should be double taboo, and auspicious words such as happiness, success and double are often used. Wedding Gift Posting Style: I sincerely wish to have a marriage letter, a book opened and sealed, a double-sealed engagement fee, a box instrument sealed, a training instrument sealed, Jinlin Chengying, Shoupa Shuang Fu, Sexian Chengduan, Golden Pig as the first, Happy Sheep as the only one, 8 sugar screens, 1 blessing pills, a box of dream candy, and a double glow of dragon and candle.
IV. Invitation
Invitation is one of the six wedding ceremonies, commonly known as "sending the sun" or "raising the sun". That is, the male family chooses the wedding date and writes the male and female students' birthdays in red notes. This is called an invitation letter, which is carried by the media to the female family to discuss the date of marriage with the hostess. With the consent of the woman's family, the man will send a gift book, candle, salute, etc. to the woman's family, and the woman will distribute a gift cake to her relatives and friends and tell her the date of return.
V. Kissing
Kissing means that the groom goes to the woman's house to marry the bride, or wedding, which is today's wedding. In the old days, the upper middle school family went to meet each other, but the middle and lower school families were mostly negligent, and only the matchmaker went to marry them. The ceremony of welcoming relatives has changed with the progress of the times.
On the wedding day, the groom, together with the matchmaker and six or eight relatives and friends, will be the wedding guests (commonly known as "marriage", that is, the best man) to accompany him. When it comes to women's home, please eat "egg soup" (a hard-boiled egg in the sweet soup). Eat egg soup, (only drink its sweet soup, poke or stir the eggs with chopsticks). At the same time, a family reunion dinner is called a "sister table", which is a farewell banquet. Father warned: "be diligent and careful, and listen to your aunt and husband sooner or later"; Mother warned: "Respect and forbearance, three obedience and four virtues." The bride was reluctant to part, and the matchmaker urged her to get on the sedan chair. The bride worships her ancestors, says goodbye to her parents, and chooses the right time to follow the groom out of the west stage, with a "lucky man" who is old and blessed to support the sedan chair. When the bride gets on the sedan chair, she cries a few times, commonly known as "crying for good life" to show her good life. Not far from the sedan chair, the bride should put down a paper fan or handkerchief, commonly known as "putting a fan" and "sending a fan". As a parting memorial. He also said: this means to abandon the bad "sex" addiction in order to be harmonious, commonly known as "sexual land" (sex and fan sound). Along the way, I set off firecrackers by marrying Binxiang, as a gesture to ward off evil. The sedan chair stops in front of the man's house, and enters the door when choosing a lucky day. The groom knocks on the top of the sedan chair three times with a fan and "doors" three times with his feet to show the majesty of the groom and make the bride obedient and easy to drive. Then a "lucky man" led the bride out of the sedan chair, the matchmaker covered the sky with an umbrella, and the groom escorted her into the bridal chamber.
After the wedding banquet, eat bride tea, commonly known as "disturbing the bride", that is, drink sweet tea and make trouble in the bridal chamber to join in the fun. At this time, happy words are used to congratulate the bride on her wedding, so that the bride can laugh and laugh for entertainment, and various funny forms are used to test the patience or temperament of the bride, but the purpose is still to take this opportunity to watch the bride. The so-called "bride's tea" is accompanied by matchmakers or family members, and the bride and groom hold tea plates in their hands to honor guests with sweet tea, wax gourd and candy. Guests receive sweet tea and read a happy sentence. After drinking it, the bride and groom come back to take back the teacup. The guests should put a red envelope in the teacup as a congratulatory gift and also read a happy sentence. The happy sentences read are four pairs of rhymes, commonly known as "reading four sentences". In addition to expressing congratulations, the meanings of the sentences are mostly auspicious or humorous. There are ready-made sentences, improvisational songs, and often many wonderful sentences. As for "disturbing the bride", its tricks are endless, and every time it embarrasses the bride and groom and their families, it makes them happy.
Fragrant breeze was published on June 2, 27 at 11: 11
The title of wedding anniversary
Wedding anniversary is usually based on the wedding anniversary.
first year paper wedding
second year cotton wedding
third year leather wedding
fourth year silk wedding
fifth year wood wedding
sixth year iron wedding
seventh year wool wedding
eighth year copper wedding
ninth year pottery wedding
tenth year tin wedding
th. Tooth marriage
crystal marriage in the fifteenth year
porcelain marriage in the twentieth year
silver marriage in the twenty-fifth year
pearl marriage in the thirtieth year
emerald marriage in the thirty-fifth year
sapphire marriage in the fortieth year
golden marriage in the fiftieth year
emerald marriage in the sixtieth year
diamond wedding in the sixty-fifth year.
1. Engagement Ceremony
In ancient China, the marriage relationship between men and women often began with the conclusion of the engagement, which was called "engagement". At present, engagement is not legally guaranteed, and marriage does not need to be engaged, so engagement procedures are generally not handled. However, in rural areas, many families still regard engagement as an important procedure for getting married. However, the etiquette of engagement has become increasingly simple. Usually, a few tables of wine or refreshments are prepared. In addition to the parties and legal agents, wedding invitations or verbal invitations are distributed, and both parties are invited to introduce people, references and close friends and relatives, * * * have dinner together, and some exchange ornaments impromptu, and fill out engagement certificates. The so-called exchange of ornaments is generally an engagement ring. Order, date of birth, place of origin, time and place of engagement, etc.; The betrothed person, the witness, the introducer and the officiating person (the ex officio officiating person when the parents or legal representatives are present) shall affix their seals or signatures on the engagement certificate; The engagement certificate is in duplicate, one for each party. At the end of the banquet, the engagement ceremony was completed. As for the relatives and friends invited to the wedding, whether they should give gifts or not depends on local customs, but at present, most of them give money and baskets.
Second, the wedding ceremony
At present, it is difficult for us to see the old-fashioned wedding ceremony. If there is, it should also be in the backcountry or in a particularly conservative family. However, some of the new wedding ceremonies are obtained by imitating western manners and customs, but in our populous country, it is certainly not possible to completely change them in a short period of time. Therefore, the present wedding ceremony can be said to be a combination of Chinese and Western cultures, and there are differences between them due to different manners and customs or social environment. The various wedding ceremonies we introduce below can only be said to be relatively common.
At present, the most common wedding ceremony in China is to hold a banquet in a restaurant or at home. In the middle of the banquet hall, there is a "main table". A flower basket, a bottle of flowers or a pair of dragons, phoenixes and happy candles can be placed on the main table. The bride and groom are usually accompanied by bridesmaids. Best men and women usually choose their closest friends as their bridesmaids. The main conditions for choosing the best man are: first, of course, proper manners; Second, unmarried people are generally younger than the bride and groom; Third, we should pay attention to the height of the body and adapt to the bride and groom, otherwise it will be unsightly. At the banquet, the bride and groom must come to each table to propose a toast to show their gratitude. Here is a special reminder to you. On the one hand, you can't refuse the guests to propose a toast to you, but no matter how much you drink, you have to keep the allowance and don't get drunk. The best way to do this is to invite one or more friends who are heavy drinkers to accompany you, and when necessary, they can act as a "wine" card for you. This is a good way to be rude and not ruin the happy atmosphere.
On the wedding night, there are often so-called "disturbing the new house" after-hours programs. If it is not too much, it can really increase the joyful and lively atmosphere, which is harmless. The so-called "disturbing the new house" is often attended by friends and relatives of the same age, and elders and juniors rarely participate. Among them, the bride and groom are required to report their love affairs, or to perform eating sweets (to induce the bride and groom to kiss), or to steal a little something on purpose and ask the bride and groom to treat them. In a word, its purpose is to increase the lively atmosphere. At midnight, guests will stop.
The bride and groom can wear dresses when they get married. According to international etiquette, the groom should wear a tuxedo, but at present, suits are the most common, followed by Chinese tunic suits. The bride's dress is usually white gauze or white satin evening dress. As a side note, the best man's dress should be consistent with the new couple. When toasting at a banquet, the bride and groom can change their uniforms to accompany them.
The group wedding is a simple and economical wedding ceremony, which is held by units and groups, and its dates are mostly on festivals. The ceremony of collective wedding is as follows:
(1) The wedding ceremony begins.
(2) Play joy.
(3) the witness is seated.
(4) the introducer is seated.
(5) guests are seated.
(6) the officiating party is seated.
(7) the married person is seated.
(8) all rise.
(9) The applicant reads the marriage certificate.
(1) The married person, the introducer and the officiating person shall sign or seal in turn.
(11) The married people make three bows to each other.
(12) Speech by the witness.
(XIII) guest speeches.
(14) Speech by the officiating party.
(15) The married person makes three bows to thank the witness and introduce the person. (the witness and introducer reply)
(16) The married person thanks Laibin for bowing. (guest salutes)
(17) The married person bowed three times to the officiating person.
(18) play joy.
(XIX) courtesy.
Travel marriage is a way of marriage that combines marriage and honeymoon travel. It is very common in Europe and America, and it is gradually becoming popular in China. Traveling and getting married also has a supplementary banquet for guests afterwards. The above is a new wedding ceremony. On the other hand, in old-fashioned weddings, there are certain rules for hiring (engagement), welcoming, worshipping the church, offering sacrifices to the ancestors, and seeing the ceremony, and there is no mistake. Although this ceremony is solemn, it is extravagant and wasteful.
notice of engagement and marriage
invitation card
A marriage invitation card is one that needs to be applied by both parties to the marriage (man and woman, in the old days, the man was called the dry side and the woman was the Kun side). According to the custom, there are only two kinds of invitation cards applied to marriage: engagement invitation card and marriage invitation card.
(1) Engagement invitation: When a man and a woman enter into an engagement, it is called engagement. There is no need to hold a ceremony for engagement, so most of them are not extravagant and only a few close relatives and friends are invited. Engagement invitations include: ① invitations to relatives and friends. (2) publish newspaper advertisements.
(2) Wedding invitations: various wedding invitations used by both men and women
1. General engagement invitations
(1) By parents
(2) By themselves
2. General wedding invitations
(1) By parents
(2) By parents. It is very popular, and the invitation is also named by both parents. If a man or a woman posts separately, the name of the bride and groom can be changed to "○○○○○○○○○○○○○○○○○○○○○○9
(3) personally
(4) personally by my elder brother
III. Invitation to the witness
IV. Invitation to the introducer
V. Invitation to the host
Note: Except for the face-to-face extension, the engagement of the witness, introducer and host should be prepared separately.
6. All kinds of invitations for old-fashioned marriage:
(1) Men ask for help.