Complementary yin and yang: the secret for women to get a happy and stable marriage!
Women make the greatest contribution to the family and pay the most, especially in this era. It is necessary to have children, raise children and educate children; We should not only take care of the family, but also undertake most trivial and heavy housework, take care of the whole family and go out to work. Therefore, almost all children will thank their mothers first in their lives.
Therefore, a woman's greatest wish in life is a stable family and a happy marriage. Because everything in the family embodies their own efforts and values. However, the most unstable person in the family is the man. Because a man is born unwilling to accept family constraints and fetters, and has the psychology of seeing things differently and liking the new and hating the old. This is a pair of persistent contradictions. Therefore, most women in the world will take family stability and happiness as their life goal; I have been fighting for this goal all my life. So, how can a woman have a happy marriage? What is the secret?
1, women should not be too strong in the family. After the wind, there is a cloud in the divination: "If you meet a strong woman, don't use it. Bring a woman. " That is to say, this woman is too strong, and it is better not to marry. Some people may say, isn't this male superiority? Is it because Confucius is senile, just a slip of the tongue? In fact, this is the general pattern of marriage between men and women that Old Master Q warned us from the perspective of Yi-ology.
Because family is nothing more than a combination of yin and yang. Among them, men are yang, dry, active, external and rigid; Women are yin, Kun, quiet, inner and soft. Therefore, if the marriage is happy, women should show the characteristics of quietness, introversion, softness and yin; Men should play an inactive, outgoing, rigid and positive role. The combination of men and women means that yin and yang complement each other, move freely, combine rigidity with softness, and integrate inside and outside.
No matter how capable men are in the family, their influence is strong or weak; Women had better appear on a cloudy face. The function of yin is to nourish yang with yin and yang with yin. Specifically, it is silence as gold; That is, men take the lead in the front, and women manage the family and hold the rear; Ask your husband about big things, and everyone has their own opinions about small things. For example, there are many things that you have advocated, so don't say them for the time being, and try to make your opinion become your husband's idea.
As far as numerology is concerned, most women with strong personalities have bad marriages. The reason is that I don't understand that yin can help yang. Everything likes to follow you, and you can't go against it at all. Then, it is certain that marriage is difficult to be happy. Because, no matter how timid a man is, he always has a three-point temper. Besides, a man should be somewhat humble when walking in society.
As far as eight characters are concerned, women who are more prosperous than robbers or women who are more prosperous than India; Or a woman with a character injury and a strong god of food; And women who are not killed by officials in the eight characters; Or officials kill weak women; And the four pillars of female life and pure yang in the eight characters; A woman's life with four pillars and four branches; In the eight characters, there is a woman who kills an official. These women belong to more or less, and it is easy to be strong in front of their husbands; Pay special attention. Because, this society's recognition of women's roles is yin and good. Of course, some people may be unconscious impulses.
Therefore, in order to get a happy marriage, it is best to find a man with a relatively feminine personality for a woman with a strong personality; Or find an older man as a husband. More importantly, after marriage, we should constantly weaken ourselves in character, and don't be too persistent, too self-centered and too willful. When you engage in social activities with your husband, you must respect him everywhere and leave him with enough face; Learn to ask your husband's advice on all major family matters. In this case, marriage can naturally be happy.
2. A woman can't appear indecisive in front of her husband. If she is too strong, she doesn't know how to advance and retreat. In a society that needs more wisdom and rationality, it is often difficult to stand and survive. This is especially true of women's life. However, it does not mean that a woman's life is soft but not rigid, nor does it mean that she is weak, helpless and happy in marriage. In fact, women's lives should not be too weak, especially those who are weak and helpless, and most of them are unhappy in marriage. Because such a woman has no place in front of her husband all her life; It is difficult to win the respect of her husband; In addition, if you are helpless and can't keep up, you may be in poor health and your family may not be happy. Therefore, even a weak woman's life, it is best to have a strong root; Or there are angry Indian stars around the sun Otherwise, this kind of female life is easy to encounter life pressure and life twists and turns.
By the same token, if such women want to have a happy marriage, it is best to find a heterosexual who has a strong daytime job. Older members of the opposite sex are also very good. At the same time, you need to constantly improve your ability after marriage, and it is best to master a major and skills to achieve economic independence. In addition, learn to be confident, self-respecting, self-loving and independent, and don't rely on others for everything. In this way, the husband will look at himself with new eyes. Of course, we need to pay attention to pretending to be strong when we are not really strong, which will be self-defeating and make people laugh.
3. Marry the right person in marriage. The ancients said, "Men are afraid of going into the wrong line, while women are afraid of marrying the wrong person." For a woman, marriage is particularly important in her life. What is marrying the right person? It is not that it is right to have money and status; But to find someone with strong ability and good character. Moreover, the other person can know the cold and know the hot, love himself and love his own man; A man who can tolerate his own small thoughts, understand his unintentional mistakes and be generous and calm.
As far as numerology is concerned, it is best for a spouse to fit in with his solar column. The birth seasons complement each other, but it is best not to rush; Because such a combination, whether you like it or not, at least the relationship between two people will not be bad. For example, the daily work of two people is: A and B are harmonious; B and g are consistent; Propane-octyl combination, butyl-nonyl combination and pentadecyl combination; The relationship between them is as follows: A, B, Mu and Ding Huo; Ding Binghuo gave birth to Wuji soil; Wuji was born in gold; Geng Xin Jinshengren Water; Non-dodecyl aquatic A wood.
The combination of Japanese branch and Japanese branch mainly includes: Liuhe, Sanhe, semi-Sanhe; The facies formation mainly depends on whether the five elements of Errenzhi gas reservoir are facies, and its facies formation principle is basically consistent with the facies formation law of Tiangan gas reservoir. The seasonal requirements of birth should also be complementary. For example, people born in hot summer often have complementary objects in winter; For those born in winter, the supplementary object is mainly those born in summer; People born in spring often have complementary seasons in autumn; People born in autumn often need spring to complement each other. This is actually a short statement.
The most important thing is to take into account the complementarity of the eight-character XiShen and the harmony of the weather; Secondly, the gods they like to use can't rush, and they don't encounter help in Japan; Finally, the spouse's eight characters, the Japanese branch and the wife star can not encounter serious punishment; And don't play peach blossoms too much. Such a marriage relationship can naturally be harmonious, and happiness can naturally be expected.
4, is to correctly control the balanced development of marriage and family, that is, how to carry out crisis management. In the final analysis, the essence of marriage is the balance of yin and yang. Because of the different laws of the five elements, we must correctly grasp the law of interaction between yin and yang when dealing with marriage and family relations. So, how to keep the balance between Yin and Yang? Yin and Yang found that Yin and Yang are opposing concepts, and the opposing sides can restrict each other.
However, there is a rule that the strength of mutual restraint between yin and yang is inversely proportional to their own rise and fall, and directly proportional to each other's rise and fall. That is, when yin and yang are out of balance, the weak side has greater restriction on the strong side than the strong side does on the weak side; Moreover, the restraining force of the weak side against the strong side will increase with the disparity of strength between the two sides; The restraining power of the strong side to the weak side narrows with the disparity between the two sides, thus disappearing.
This is why we often find: "There are contradictions in the marriage between men and women. Compared with the other side, one side seems to have a great disparity in strength. Often one side suppresses the other, which will only produce many contradictions, resentment, dissatisfaction and so on; However, the real divorce time is often the year when the weak side becomes strong. The reason is that the restrictive role played by the weak side in these years is even less powerful. "
The above analysis shows that female friends, in family and marriage relations, do not have to make themselves rich and powerful if the other party is very powerful or in a relatively favorable position. In this way, it is not conducive to the stability and control of marriage.