Feng Shui says you don’t change beds when you remarry (why do you need to change beds and wardrobes when you remarry)
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There is an unwritten rule in my rural hometown that remarried families must replace the beds and wardrobes left by their exes. Many young people are confused. The furniture left by my parents in the last century has long been worn out and I can’t bear to throw it away. Wouldn’t it be a waste to replace the furniture that was just bought? This will undoubtedly make the family that is not already wealthy even worse. Several mothers told the truth.
When Aunt Liu’s daughter got married, her son-in-law didn’t understand this very well and threatened that her mother-in-law was deliberately making things difficult for them.
"Mom, I said it harshly. Don't be upset. It's unreasonable for you to ask our family to buy new furniture. We just bought the furniture at home a few years ago. Wouldn't it be a pity to throw it away? Besides, our family "It's not that you are too rich. If you have this money, it's better to honor your old age." "Child, it's not that mom is being unreasonable. If mom disliked your marriage, she would not have agreed to your marriage in the first place. Mom also doesn't want to increase the burden on your family. In other aspects, There is room for negotiation, but the bed and wardrobe at home must be changed." The son-in-law was very puzzled by this, Aunt Liu said. Reason
The furniture you are using was left behind by your ex-wife. The furniture is the result of your ex-wife’s hard work and has been covered with her shadow over the past few years. When you are in such an environment, you will intentionally Unintentionally thinking of your ex-wife will seriously affect your future life as a couple. It is okay to live in harmony with each other in normal times. However, once a dispute occurs, a contrast will be formed in your heart, which is not conducive to the harmonious relationship between you.
Since you are now married to Ruoliu, your future life will be a new beginning. Do you hope that your future life as a couple will be filled with her shadow? Unless you are nostalgic for it, you have to replace it. This has nothing to do with whether the furniture is good or bad, new or old.
In the end, the son-in-law did not resist Aunt Liu’s insistence and replaced the furniture in the house. Everyone may have different opinions on whether there is a "shadow", but as long as it seriously affects the harmony of the family, it is not a bad idea to replace it. Harmony is still the most important thing in married life, and some potential negative factors should be eliminated. I Personally I think it's worth it.
An An filed for divorce yesterday because she could not accept that her husband always compared her with his ex-wife.
When An An met his lover, he had a short marriage before. After the divorce, the room where his ex-wife and he once lived has been empty, almost no different from a newly renovated room. The reason why the room has always been empty is because An An's husband also thinks so. When he gets married again in the future, there is no need to relocate to a new wedding room.
When she got married, An An didn't care too much about these details. Unexpectedly, it was these seemingly insignificant details that paved the way for her future married life.
To say that my husband is not bad, he is just talkative and likes to talk about nothing, especially when compared with his ex-wife. As long as An An is not as good as his ex-wife in life, he will talk about his ex-wife, which makes An An particularly troubled. An An: "Since you spoke so well of your ex-wife, why do you want a divorce? Since you are with me now When you live your life, don’t talk about your ex-wife from time to time. Who can bear it in the long run? No one wants to live in the shadow of others."
Every woman has a princess dream. Since she is a princess, she must bring it with her. Some people who are squeamish should not be able to use what others are using. Your compromise will be misunderstood by others as easy to talk to. An An's "carelessness" at the beginning made others mistakenly think that you don't care. Using things left by her ex in life will inevitably leave her shadow. When you can't get around the other person no matter what you do, life It is difficult not to have conflicts.
Uncle Wang: Furniture must be replaced after remarriage
Beds and wardrobes are private items in the family. Many people will not take the initiative to sit on the host's bed when they go to a friend's house. Others misunderstand it as a kind of impolite behavior, especially the hostess of the family will definitely mind, let alone something left by her ex. I believe no woman can accept it. If a man is still worried about this, or he doesn't have it. He loves you so much, or he is nostalgic for his ex.
Aunt Li: If you want a person to always think of you, give her something that she needs frequently. Whenever she picks up the thing you gave her, she will naturally think of you and want to forget someone. , you should destroy everything that is connected between you and her. Only in this way can you completely break it off.
If two people get divorced and want to eliminate the shadow left by their ex-wife, they have to work hard. If the family remains unchanged and remains the same as before, it can be basically concluded that the shadow of the ex-wife will look like " "Ghost" is everywhere, haunting the lives of two people.
Conclusion: Every piece of furniture has only one owner, that is, the person who first owns it. No matter how well maintained or used for a long time by subsequent people, it is still inseparable from being second-hand. Getting married means buying new furniture. It does not mean that you like the new and hate the old, but that is the only way to feel at ease.