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A name is a person's code name and a lifelong gift from parents to their children. Different names have different values, some names contain parents' expectations for the future, some names are particularly memorable, and some families have word generation considerations.
The ancients said: "Born in March, add a name, 20 crowns, and get the Tao."
It can be seen that a name is an important event in a person's life.
I don't think it matters who names the child. The most important thing is that parents can reach an agreement through consultation and carefully consider the child's name. You can't name it casually, otherwise it will affect your child's life. After all, names are with children all their lives. If two people have different opinions on the child's name and cannot reach an agreement through consultation, you can consult your family and ask friends and relatives to help you choose your favorite name.
For example, my old people believe in the eight characters of Feng Shui, so our children go to the Feng Shui master for fortune telling after they are born, saying that the children are short of water and soil. Then my husband and I didn't agree with this, but we were afraid to ignore the kindness of the old people and give the children water and soil in their name.
For example, the quadruplets recently born in the special period of coronavirus pneumonia, because the "four little princesses" were born in the special period and because the premature babies were all taken care of by medical staff, their parents named them "Burst, Yiyi, Xinxin, Shen Xin", which is homophonic "Newborns from the War Epidemic". When they published the birth names of their four daughters online, they collected names from netizens. Netizens brainstormed, and finally the couple decided on the names of the "Four Princesses", namely "Zoe, Guo 'er, Jiashan and Yousi", which means "Cheer for the motherland".
Moreover, we know a person in life by his name. Therefore, it is best to be cautious in naming children. When naming children, we'd better avoid some minefields so as not to bring bad influence to children.
1, it is best to read a good name that is unambiguous or embarrassed, otherwise the child will be laughed at by classmates after school.
There was a female classmate in my primary school who was casually named "Cai Wa" by her parents. She is very close at home, but she is often laughed at by her classmates at school. She often argued with her classmates about her name and was often upset about it, so she had to ask her parents to change her name. It is said that it is still very troublesome.
2, it is best not to use uncommon words, children are not easy to write, and teachers are not easy to read.
3, the name is best not to be male or female, for example, the tricks popular in previous years will make girls feel psychologically burdened and feel unloved.
So, how do we name our children?
If you want to give your children some poetic names, you can refer to The Book of Songs, Songs of Chu and Poems of Tang and Song Dynasties, all of which are beautiful sentences.
For example, Qionghua in Feng Qizhu: "It is still beautiful"; Travel: Wan Yan's Hua Ying and Wan Yan.
Lin's name comes from "Big Si, then Bai Si Nan"; Bump-ao comes from "Luming Literature, Yo Yo, potherb Artemisia".
In short, the name looks simple, but it also contains the expectations of parents and the brand of the times. Be careful when naming names, and don't let children "give bad names".
It's very important to give a child a name, because the name is with the child's life, and a good name can add points to the child's life. If the name is not good, people will laugh and say that they will have children and will not name them. The traditional names of Han people in China are generally composed of three characters, the first is surname, the second is seniority, and the third is first name. In the past, many newborns generally had a birth name first, and then they were officially named after school age, that is, scientific names. Birth names are often vulgar and cheap, meaning easy to raise and easy to grow. Scientific names are very important, so we should invite well-educated and respected family elders to name them. Some even pay a lot of money to the naming museum to invite the elderly to choose their names carefully according to the date of birth. Nowadays, people don't pay so much attention to it. Most of them are decided by parents and husband and wife. For example, surnames can be both father's surnames and mother's surnames, and the surnames of both husband and wife can form compound surnames. Another example is the name, which often leaves the brand of the development of the times. I remember that on the eve of reform and opening up, the whole country was implementing policies. A family named Liu gave birth to twin boys and came to the street to register their accounts. They are generations of Chinese characters. The twins are Liu and Liu. It is best to name your child with fewer strokes, which is called Shunshun. Don't use uncommon words, it sounds unlucky. In addition, try not to use names that are easy to repeat.
With this question, there are two possibilities:
First, we haven't started to name our children, but some people in our family think that we can only name our children ourselves, probably because there is a contradiction on this issue;
Second, different people have chosen different names, so there is endless debate about confirmation. Whether the name is good or not, they will all talk about the identity of the namer.
If you already have a good name, you may write it down and ask which one it is. According to the current way of asking questions, the possibility of the first case is relatively large.
In the first case, the key is to solve the problem. To solve the problem, there is no need to argue about who should name the child.
The problem description is not detailed, so it is impossible to judge the root cause of the problem, and it is not good to give specific suggestions. Please provide some ideas for your reference.
Step one: show your attitude.
If someone in the family insists on naming their children, first show their attitude and anyone can name their children. The key is to get the approval of most family members (it is best to win the support of more family members in advance).
Step two: make a concession.
Then he not only did not reject but also supported the member who insisted on naming his children.
First, anyone can accept it. There is no need to argue about who should choose the name before choosing it.
Second, after showing your attitude, take a step back, leave room for everyone to solve the problem and show your attitude to solve the problem;
Third, it is not ruled out that the member who insists on naming can take a name that everyone agrees with, so there is no need to argue about who should take it before that.
Step 3: Get to know each other.
If you choose a name, don't say it quickly, even if it doesn't sound good. You have to promise first. Even if the name is really useless, you should say that you have to bother and ask why you chose such a name.
First, it can eliminate the sense of opposition to the maximum extent, making people feel that you are standing with him without contradiction;
The second is to guide the other party to tell more information and prepare for the next communication.
Step 4: Specific comparison
The next step is to confirm what kind of name you think is better, compare it with the name taken by the other party, and confirm why it is better. The more specific the comparison, the better.
On the one hand, you can overcome your obsession, and it is very likely that in the process of this comparison, you will find that your name is not necessarily better than the other's;
Secondly, even if you want to deny the other person's name, you have to be convincing.
Step 5: Get ready.
If you have enough reasons to explain that the other person's name is inappropriate, you should also think about how the other person will react and how to deal with it when you come up with these reasons.
First, the way to deal with it must leave a step for the other party. If you don't stay a step, it makes sense, and the other party is likely to return to the unsolved problem of who to call;
Secondly, you can make yourself more confident and communicate with ease, instead of speaking with emotions, so as to achieve better results.
Step 6: Backup Plan
If no agreement is reached in the end, there must be a backup plan, such as suggesting that the other party consider their own opinions to modify the name, or ask the other party to take the name.
Generally speaking, who can choose a name is also a family contradiction, which can only be solved on the basis of mutual understanding and concessions.
Finally, let's share the names of our twin babies. I took them and agreed after taking them.
Baby names: Zhong Ming, He Ming
Generally speaking, there are no uncommon words, and it is easy to read. We have few surnames and can't have the same name together, which means we think it's ok.
"Ming" comes from "University": "The way of a university is to be well-known and close to the people, and stop at perfection. Zhi Zhi then decided to be quiet after having a certain amount of energy; Be quiet before you can be safe; Worry first; You can get it if you think about it. "
"zhong" and "he" come from the golden mean: "joys and sorrows are in the middle; Sent in the festival, for and; If you are in the middle, you are the biggest in the world; He who is harmonious achieves the way of the world. Neutral, the status of Heaven is awkward, and everything breeds. "
Not only my expectations for the baby, but also my expectations for my family, because our family is a bit extreme.
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When parents give birth to a child, should they name the child, father or mother? This question is very interesting. In our country, we don't pay attention to father or mother, or others give children names. No matter who named the child, be sure to pay attention to what it means, and don't mess it up or pick one at random. First of all, there should be no uncommon words, nor should they be too popular. It can be hard to understand or tacky. Therefore, naming children should be upward, yearning, improvement, daydreaming, elegance and progress, and you can also write articles about memories, geography, environment and time. China has always used surnames to add words since ancient times, mostly three-character names, and there are also compound surnames, such as Sima, Zhuge and Shangguan. , but it must go through a few, or three-character names are in the majority, so there are too many opportunities for China/KLOC-0.4 billion people to have the same name. At least, when people advocate four-character names, the rate of duplicate names has decreased.
The children in my family over the years, including the children in the neighborhood, were all named by me. Names handed down by the ancients pay attention to adding birth name (nickname) before the name and adding word meaning to the surname. Since I started, I have changed it. You don't need a birth name, just a big name, and a surname in elementary school.
Anyone can name it. There's nothing wrong with it.
Two people can each take a few names, and then discuss who takes the better and more meaningful names.
When my friend was pregnant, her husband and I thought of names for the baby from time to time and wrote down all the good ones. When the baby was born, there were already more than a dozen names waiting to be chosen, and then we finally decided on a name after various discussions.
If both husband and wife are not good at choosing names, they can also ask their elders or relatives and friends for help.
When this classmate's baby was born, he sent a message to several of our close friends, asking us to help name the baby.
Some superstitious families also take these factors into account when naming their children.
Others will go to a specific person or place to name their children.
After the birth of a relative's baby, family members and relatives are dissatisfied with many names. Later, they went to a famous temple and spent hundreds of dollars to name the baby.
Although the child's name is a code name, it is also a good wish of the family.
Name your child. Pay attention to these:
1, when the name is read as a whole, it is best not to be ambiguous, lest the child be laughed at by other children.
For example, the word "wisteria" is not bad as a name, but if the baby's surname is "Du", the pronunciation is the same as "stomachache".
2, the name should not be too many strokes or too uncommon words, children who just learned to write are not easy to write, which greatly affects the learning mood; Moreover, many rare words are difficult to type by computer, and there will be a lot of unnecessary trouble when you need to print and add your name.
For example, some babies are called "Yong" and "Hu". Although the meaning is good, it is difficult to write, and many people still don't know it. If they don't know them, they will shout.
3. Don't be too awkward.
Some parents like to be maverick and give their children special names, but if the names are too awkward, they are often more likely to be nicknamed.
4. Don't take the name too directly.
Some parents give their children too much expectation and pressure, which is directly reflected in the names, and once the children fail to reach the meaning represented by these names, they will often suffer more ridicule and greater pressure.
For example, some children are called "Tsinghua" or "No.1 scholar". If they fail in the exam, other students will laugh at them.
Don't follow the trend too much or don't conform to the characteristics of the times.
For example, there are many "Xuan", "Zi" and "Xuan" now, and there are too many kindergartens with the same name.
Some names have certain characteristics of the times, such as "Jianguo" and "Chunhua", which were good names in previous times, but they are no longer suitable today.
In short, both parents or one parent, elders and peers, whoever gives the child a name will do. They all want the baby to grow up healthily and happily, and they all pin their best wishes on everyone. As long as the name is nice, unambiguous and catchy to read, what you like is a good name.
The above is my answer, I hope it helps.
Hello, I'm Qiqi's mother. First of all, I'm glad to answer this question for you. I hope my answer is helpful to you.
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From ancient times to the present, because of the influence of traditional culture, it is a great event to name children, because names are not only the labels of children, but also the expectations of parents for their children can be seen through names. The most important thing is that we have all heard a saying that "a man is as his name suggests", that is to say, in many people's minds, a name represents what kind of person he will become in the future.
Then back to the question itself, parents are born of love, so who should name the child?
Strictly speaking, no matter who names the child, it is ok, because after all, they are all immediate family members of the child, but now that it is mentioned, if you have to choose one, you might as well look at these three options.
1, who is more educated?
As I said just now, naming a child is a big event, which may also affect the child's life. Therefore, if you want to give your child a tall and outstanding name, you must ask the person who takes the name to have a certain cultural accomplishment, and you can't just give your child a name like "two dog" or "Nothing".
Therefore, whoever has a high level of education can name the child. As for father or mother, PK it.
2. Who got the good name?
In fact, after the child is born, as long as it is the child's immediate family, everyone wants to give the child a nice name, so let's brainstorm and see who gives the child a better name, and we will choose who gives the name. This is the responsibility to the children.
3. Who has more status at home?
Some families have different personal division of labor, which leads to different family status. For example, in some families, the parents of the older generation have the most say, so instead of the husband and wife naming their children, it is better to give this decision to the parents of the older generation and let them contribute to their grandchildren.
Finally, I also want to tell you that no matter who names the child, it is not the most important. The most important thing is to choose a suitable name for your child and avoid homophones and uncommon words.
Of course, I also remind every family not to break up in discord in order to name their children.
"Family name" is a sign of blood relationship. A person's name will always be with him all his life, and each name also contains the good expectations of his relatives for the future of the newborn baby. Therefore, naming is a top priority at the beginning of life. Let's see how the name of the great family came from.
In ancient China, people had different names.
In the early days of primitive society, mothers usually named their children. According to Historical Records, Hou Ji, the ancestor of Zhou Dynasty, was named "Abandon" by his mother Jiang Yuan.
Probably in the era of Qu Yuan, there was a record of fathers naming their children. "Li Sao" cloud:
"Huang Lanyu Chu Xi, Zhao Xiyu Guming. The name is corrected and the words are more clever. "
My father guessed my birthday carefully, so he gave me a corresponding reputation. My father named my name "Routine" and my word "Ling Jun" at the same time.
There are also many records of other ancestors naming newborns. Biography of Li Bai's Medicine in the Old Tang Dynasty: "Li Bai's medicine characters are re-regulated, and he was born in Anping, Dingzhou, and served in Sui Dynasty, and Anping made meritorious deeds in Linziye. When I was a child, I was sick, so my grandmother Chair Zhao was named after a hundred medicines. " It can be seen that it should be an ancient naming custom in the whole human history for ancestors to name their grandchildren.
In addition, the ancient emperors named people who were not relatives of the country, and invited uncles, friends and benefactors of their fathers to record them.
It can be seen that since ancient times, there is not only one answer to who should be named.
No matter who gave the name, the meaning, expectations and wishes contained in the name are the most important.
Lin, for example, got its name from "The symbol of a great man is a hundred men". Emblem is beauty, sound is reputation, emblem is reputation and virtue.
Tu Youyou comes from "Luming Literature, Yo Yo, wild herb Artemisia". Yo yo, the fawn's chirping and the wormwood that the fawn feeds on probably didn't even think of that famous person. Tu Youyou's failure to sing was a blockbuster.
Named after generations in genealogy, it has also lasted for thousands of years in China. People of the same family but different generations should be named according to the generations in the genealogy.
For example, Confucius' family has always followed the tradition of naming after genealogy. People of the same family and generation have the same word for their generation and another word for themselves, so they are named together. For example, Kong in Qing Dynasty, the author of the drama Peach Blossom Fan, was called the 64th generation grandson of Kong.
Some names are given by people who have a certain origin with family members or other relatives, or at a special time, which will have special connotations and great significance.
After the newborn is born, it will bring hope and joy to the whole family. Parents, grandparents, grandparents and other relatives are in high spirits and often participate in the big project of naming. Many families will also ask a naming consulting service company to advise their children, which is no longer limited to the old tradition. These are all manifestations of loving the baby.
In fact, as long as parents and other family members communicate well, there is no mutual consultation about who will name them and which way to name them is important. It's more important for Qi Xin to choose the loudest and most meaningful name, don't you think?
Names convey the mystery of heaven and earth. The name is the comprehensive achievement of the essence of psychology, sociology, philosophy, history and folklore, and it is a symbol of a person's image, quality and taste. A good nickname that suits you can give you hints and guidance, give you confidence and help you succeed. Master Lin Hongtu shared how to give a baby a good name in the Year of the Rat.
It doesn't matter who gave the name, what matters is the constellation when the child was born. First, fill the vacancy, second, mathematical theory, third, cherish the meaning of words, fourth, create words, and fifth, it is different from celebrities.