Feng shui ba Jia
The glory of my brother may have stimulated Su Xun, and Su Xun turned to study, quite like a prodigal son. 1027, 16-year-old Su Xun also took the exam, but failed to advance to the next level.
The failure this time made Su Xun, who hated sentence reading and temperament, hate the imperial examination even more. After returning home, he stopped worrying about his studies and simply went to get married.
Su Xun married Cheng, the daughter of Dali Temple in Meizhou, whose name is unknown, and later generations called her Mrs. Cheng. The Cheng family is also a famous family in Meizhou, and its economic conditions are much better than that of the Su family at that time. It is said that Mrs. Cheng Canfu is married.
They are in harmony and have a good relationship after marriage. Su Xun still has the nature of a ranger. When he was not at home, it can be said that Mrs. Cheng took on the responsibility of housekeeping.
After coming to Sue's home, she was not well off financially, but Mrs. Cheng never talked to her family. Considering her husband's face, she would rather live a poor life than let her husband's face suffer.
For Su Xun's temper, Mrs Cheng never said anything. It was not until Su Xun woke up that she began to say, "I have said for a long time that evil made my son a scholar because of me. If you are ambitious, I am tired! "
She hoped that Su Xun would wake up on his own one day, instead of being forced by external pressure.
Mrs. Cheng has three sons and three daughters. The eldest daughter and the second daughter both died young, the third daughter and the eighth mother were one year older than Su Shi, followed by Su Shi and Su Zhe. Before Su Xun's "rage at the age of 27, thanks for associating with teenagers, reading behind closed doors is a literary expression", he either took the exam or traveled around the world. In the meantime, Mrs. Cheng took care of the children at home.
It can be said that the most important primary education of Su Shi and Su Zhe was completed by his mother, Professor Cheng.
Mrs. Cheng was born in a noble family and learned a lot. She teaches children to read history and encourages them with ancient celebrities in the book. Su Zhe wrote in "The Story of Welcome": "My mother is a married woman and the wife of the country. She is also good at reading, knowledgeable and upright."
Mrs Cheng read the Biography of Fan Pang and the History of the Eastern Han Dynasty to the Su Shi brothers. Fan Pang, an honest official, was framed and sentenced to death for cracking down on corrupt officials. Before the execution, Fan Pang said to his mother, "My son is leaving today. I hope you don't feel sad. "
His mother wiped away her tears and replied, "You are as famous as Mars and Du Mi. What am I sad about? " When Mrs Cheng read this, she couldn't help sighing and deeply admired Fan Pang and his mother.
Xiao Sushi was also infected. He threw himself into his wife's arms: "Mom, I want to be like Fan Pang when I grow up. Do you allow me? " Mrs. Cheng replied, "You can be like Fan Pang, why can't I be like Fan Pang's mother?"
Today, Mrs. Cheng teaches her son to read the story of Fan Pang Biography, which is as famous as "Meng Mu's Three Movements". She, Meng Mu (Mencius' mother) and her mother-in-law (Yue Fei's mother) are also called the "Third Lady". The world is moved by their wisdom and mind, and they will be immortal!
Mrs. Cheng is also generous and kind, and never kills anything. There are many birds in Sue's yard, and other similar families have been killed. Only Mrs. Cheng told the servants at home not to hurt any birds when they saw them.
In this way, there are often many birds in Sue's yard, and even the precious "Tung Flower Phoenix" has come. This gave childhood Su Shi and Su Zhe a lot of happiness. Observe the birds and nests in the yard after school every day.
After that, Su Shi also wrote a poem "Strange Magpie": "I used to be a gentleman and I was filial at home. There are five acres of gardens at home, and phoenix gathers tung flowers. " (excerpt)
Mrs. Cheng is knowledgeable and generous in wisdom. Since coming to Su's home, she has been diligent in housework, taking good care of the whole family, and fully supporting and understanding her husband. With such a housewife, how can this family style not benefit future generations?
In April of the second year of Jiayou (1057), 58-year-old Mrs. Cheng became seriously ill from overwork. At this time, the good news that Su Shi and Su Zhe were both scholars at the same time had not yet reached Di's home. In this way, Mrs. Cheng, who devoted her life to Sue's family, passed away with regret.
Two brothers, Su Xun and Su Zhe, heard the bad news and hurried home. They buried Mrs. Cheng beside the old spring in Li Kelong, Anzhen Township, Meishan. Since then, Su Xun himself and Su Shi's wife Wang Fu have also been buried here.
Later, Su Shi asked Sima Guang to write an epitaph for his mother, which was "Epitaph of Chengjun Family in Wuyang County": ... A woman who is gentle enough to be close to her family and smart enough to be close to her family is virtuous; If the situation is like a wife, she can develop counseling to achieve her husband and children, and make literature more important than the world. She didn't realize the high level. Is that okay? In ancient times, people said that there were state-owned families, and their ups and downs all originated from boudoir. Now, it is beneficial for my wife to see the credibility of the ancients. "
Among the eight masters in Tang and Song Dynasties, the Su family can occupy three seats, and it is inseparable from Mrs. Cheng behind them. As the saying goes, a good woman is the best feng shui for a family. Only with a virtuous and tolerant wife and mother like Mrs. You Cheng can the husband do well and the children get the best education. How can such a family not get better and better?
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