The process of burial ceremony
1, goodbye.
When the old man was dying, his children and other immediate family members stood by him and listened to his last words until his loved ones passed away, which was customarily called "farewell". It's a big deal to die for an old man. Being able to die for the elderly shows that children have done their last filial piety. Failure to die for the elderly often becomes a great regret in one's life. Whether children die or not, whether all children come to die, is also a criterion to judge whether the elderly are blessed. In addition, firecrackers were set off to show that the deceased had died in the West, and funeral services were offered to neighbors. After a person dies, family members should wail around the deceased.
2. mourning.
After death, family members should send funeral stickers to relatives and friends as soon as possible, or report their death at home. For distant relatives and friends, tell them the date of burial. A filial son should wear mourning clothes and a Dai Xiao hat. They can't get in when they go to other people's homes. Anyone who comes to pick it up, regardless of age, kowtows.
3. Enter the funeral.
Before the deceased enters the coffin, he should be given plastic surgery, such as shaving his hair, changing his body, wearing a shroud, and then covering his face with white silk (paper money is also used in some places). According to folklore, you can't wear leather pants for the dead, otherwise the dead will be reincarnated as beasts; When dressing the dead, don't shed tears on them, or you won't see them in your dreams. Some places need a wooden comb and a mirror for the dead and the old.
4. Keep the store.
During the period from the death of the old man to the official funeral, the family members of the deceased should take turns to stay at the edge of the dead old shop day and night to show filial piety, which is called "guarding the shop". After the deceased enters the coffin, his family guards him and sleeps next to the coffin, which is called "wake" or "trapped coffin".
5. Put it aside.
Because you want to choose an auspicious day to bury the dead, you may have to stop at home. This is called "putting coffins" or "stopping coffins". The custom of "putting coffins" was very common in ancient times, usually seven days, and some even put coffins for more than ten days or months. It's not common today, even if you put a coffin, it won't last long.
6. mourning.
Mourning means that the descendants of the deceased's family mourn after the death of the deceased. Men don't wear gorgeous clothes, but sandals (not common now); Women should take off their ornaments and colorful clothes. Men and women wear mourning clothes and teaching hats according to their relationship with the deceased. During the mourning period (usually January or 100 days), the dutiful son can't have a haircut, share a room, meet relatives and friends, attend banquets, enter temples, etc. Especially before burial, these customs must be strictly observed, otherwise it will be unlucky.
7. condolences.
Mourning is an important part of funeral custom, and the ways of mourning vary from place to place. The relationship between mourning and the deceased is different, and the ways and methods of mourning are also different. After receiving the news, the children of the deceased should first cry and mourn, then ask about the cause of death and make every effort to get on the road as soon as possible. Go home to "cry at home", and some married daughters even cried all the way. When you get home, kneel before the spirit and cry until someone comforts you. Relatives and friends, although not as sad as the dutiful son, should try to be sad.
8. Pick up three.
Receiving three is also called "welcoming three" and "sending three". According to folklore, three days after a person's death, his soul will officially go to the underworld, or be greeted by gods, buddhas or their messengers. Not everyone can go to heaven after death, but if the soul of the deceased leaves three days after death, you can ask a monk to recite scriptures or set fire to exorcise evil spirits, so that the deceased can redeem himself and accumulate virtue and enter heaven. Compared with god, it is to welcome the souls of the dead into heaven; Relative to the relatives and friends of the deceased, it is to bid farewell to the soul of the deceased and enter heaven. Therefore, this ceremony is called "Welcome to San", also called "Send San".
9. Funeral.
Funeral is also called "going out of the mountain". Please ask the teacher of Yin and Yang to choose an auspicious day first. This is called "opening a disaster list". You should say goodbye before the funeral. Put the "stuffing jar" first, put the last memorial food in a porcelain jar, hold it by the eldest daughter-in-law at the funeral, and finally bury it in front of the coffin. Then there is "sweeping materials", that is, lifting the coffin head, the dutiful son puts some copper coins in the coffin, and then uses a new broom and dustpan to sweep away the floating soil on the coffin cover and pour it under the kang mat, which means "taking money to be an official".
10, buried.
After arriving at the cemetery, arrange the tomb again, put the buried stuffing cans and ever-burning lamps in the niche of the tomb wall, sweep away the footprints, and then slowly put down the coffin. Master Yin and Yang used a compass to correct the direction, and the mourner shoveled the earth to cover the coffin and piled it into a grave.
1 1, mourning.
For a period of time after the death of our loved ones, we must exercise restraint in many aspects of our lives to express our condolences and thoughts for our loved ones. This is mourning. Funerals are stricter for dutiful sons. In ancient times, a dutiful son was in mourning for three years. Why three years? Because according to custom, a child will stay in his mother's arms for three years after birth, and a dutiful son will mourn for three years after his parents die as a reward.