A letter to a disobedient child
Letter to a disobedient child:
I am writing this letter to you for three reasons: first, you are standing at the node of life: looking back is a childhood that slipped away quietly, and then moving forward, the curtain of youth slowly opens to you. Second, there are some things we won't tell you, and no one will tell you. Third, mutual agreement: we work hard, you study hard, and no one will let anyone worry. About the goal:
People can live without great ideals, but they can't lose their goals. Under the system of one exam for life, no matter how hard you work, how hard you study and how powerful you are, as long as you fail the exam, you will be eliminated! You have to understand that too much homework, too heavy schoolbags and studying day and night are not cruel to adults, but to reality!
About positioning:
At home, all the only children are little emperors, but at school, there are too many emperors, and no one will take you seriously! Unless your grades are better, your talents are more outstanding, and your performance is better, the teacher will still regard you as a treasure. The same is true of society. In the future, whether you want to be rich or poor, whether you want to live in a bungalow or a villa, whether you want others to look down on you or respect you, you should be responsible for it yourself.
About learning:
In school, learning is the main thing, but it is not the only thing. What is the relationship between good study and poor health? Reading, reading, the more you read, the more pigs you get? There is no difference. Classmates get together more than themselves: 20 years old than academic qualifications, 30 years old than ability, 40 years old than experience, 50 years old than financial resources, 60 years old than physical strength, 70 years old than medical records, and 80 years old than the Gregorian calendar. After decades of life, in the final analysis, it is better than health, son. Have a good exercise.
About the future:
A person's future is determined by knowledge, ability and attitude. Knowledge can be acquired through study, ability can be increased through practice, but attitude is formed through habit. You sometimes lack the perseverance to cultivate good habits. It's not too late to correct your attitude. In the future, I hope that everything you do will benefit yourself and others. About yourself:
In school, teachers have no obligation to be nice to you unless you respect teachers first, and students have no obligation to care about you unless you care about your classmates first; In your life, no one has an obligation to be nice to you, except me and your father. Don't think that the world can't turn around without yourself, and don't give up and give up because you are young. About friends:
Making friends is like investing. Of course, you should consider the return on investment. If you find a friend, and this friend doesn't give you a return in the end, it can only prove that your investment failed. You should make friends with people who are better than you, especially remember to help your friends when they are in trouble. Because, people who laughed with themselves are easy to forget, and those who cried with themselves are the most unforgettable. This is that giving charcoal in the snow is more meaningful than icing on the cake.
About love:
Sooner or later, you will fall in love. As an experienced person, I suggest that it is always beautiful to walk before the flowers and after the moon, and sweet words are more charming. Don't forget that there are still wind, frost, rain and snow in reality. Love means that you love her, she doesn't love you, she loves you, you don't love her, and you love her. The third case is undoubtedly fascinating, but the probability is less than 10%.
Therefore, don't expect the beauty of love too much, and don't exaggerate the sadness of lovelorn. Shake hands with beautiful women, talk with profound women, communicate with successful women and live with ordinary women. That's the mentality. Good.
About distance
As parents, everyone is eager to shorten the distance with their children, but with the growth of children, the sky that belongs to you will surely become wider and wider, and the time and space distance from parents will surely become farther and farther. Of course, parents are particularly concerned about how much space they can occupy in the sky!
Because, the sky of parents and children is just the opposite, and it is getting smaller and smaller with age. I, as an ordinary person, also have a popular feeling and care whether you are always around. Son, parents are affectionate, can you read it?
About gains and losses:
A person can't be proud forever, nor can he be frustrated forever. Be sober when you are proud. There are too many people in this world who are better than themselves, so remember your smallness. When frustrated, don't back down, stick to it: how did you come here in the past and how do you come here now?
About relatives:
Relatives have only one fate. In this life, even if I can't accompany you all the way, I will always want to shelter you from the wind and rain when it is stormy! Even if I can't fight with you all the way, I will always want to share the pain with you when I encounter difficulties and obstacles! In this life, no matter how long we will get along with you, please cherish our time together. In the next life, whether we love it or not, we may never meet again.
In fact, many times a child's rebellion does not mean that the child will not listen. They just want more freedom and respect. When parents understand this, it is not difficult for them to communicate with their children.
I am here to convey
Salute!
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Letters to disobedient children. Second child:
The future and destiny are in our own hands. When we can change our destiny, we need to calm down and face it. Self-reliance, self-improvement and self-confidence are your mother's life principles, as well as your goals and directions. If we miss this prime time, will we fight for our lives? Even if you can fight, what price will you pay? Son, you are still young and have not realized the burden and hardship of life. Don't be childish and think about this problem. Put your mother through everything. Your mother will always be your big tree. Come back and don't make mom sad, okay? Mom's heart is already very fragile.
When you see mom's news, can you reply to it? Let mom know that you are safe, okay? How can you reassure your mother when you are dressed so thinly and have no money? Good boy, mom is waiting for you to come back.
You are a good boy, a good boy in mom's heart. Although I often lose my temper with my mother, although my mother is also angry and scolds you, you know that these are not what you and I want. You don't want to quarrel with your mother. You just can't control your emotions. In fact, you are more anxious than your mother. Mom knows you are tired, you have worked hard, and you still didn't do well in the exam. Your heart is under great pressure, so you are very upset. No matter what mom says, right or wrong, it will make you angry. But, son, worry can't solve the problem. Let's all calm down, analyze it carefully, face up to our own shortcomings, and then adjust our mentality to face it, shall we?
Some time ago, we had good communication. Every day when you come back from school, you are happy to chat with your mother. You have a good attitude. Think about it. Have you improved your test scores by more than 20 places? Recently, I am not happy when I come back every day, and I complain about some trivial things of my teacher. Will these affect my enthusiasm for learning? Will you carefully analyze the reasons for this retrogression?
In fact, after you came back yesterday, you said to your mother: You have set goals, arranged a timetable, made a study plan and made up lessons. Mom is sincerely happy, but she is still a little worried that you have no self-control. Every day when you do your homework, you will turn on the computer or TV, and even go to QQ. You said you don't chat, so what are you doing on QQ? It's grade three now. Can you watch TV or surf the Internet while doing your homework? When mom talks about you, you will argue with mom and laugh at her. Mom wants to stop the internet for a long time, and forcing to stop the internet is afraid of hurting your self-esteem. She always said that only those children who have no self-control will take coercive measures. I believe my daughter can control herself, but you let her down.
Daughter, mom always gives you face, enough face, including your leaving today. I didn't call your teacher, and I didn't want others to know, but did you know that mom's heart was broken?
Mom knows that you are in adolescence, and your rebellious attitude is very serious, so you need to understand, so you don't want what mom asks or knows, and mom will never ask you and respect you. You are uneasy. No matter what mom says, you lose your temper with me without saying a word to your heart or breaking your heart. You know, mom has a bad temper, so we fight, but as you know, mom is not an unreasonable person who can't communicate. Why can't we sit down calmly and deal with this matter?
Mom knows that your mind is confused now, and you are under great pressure from all sides, including yourself. You want to study hard, but you don't know how to work hard, so you make plans, set goals and make up your mind, but this can't reduce your irritability. You refute everything I say. Actually, you've thought about it. What should you do? You just don't want to tell your mother. If you don't want to tell me directly, write to your mother and we will change it together, ok?
Come back, daughter, take the problem seriously and solve it, face it with a good attitude and welcome the temporary new year of 2009, OK? I believe that anything is possible. Mom believes in you, and you believe in mom. Let's grow together and fly together, shall we?
Love your mother's hand-in-hand song
Come back, my child. Mom understands your difficulties and your heart. You're annoying and messy. You suppress yourself in front of others and can only vent with your closest mother. But, son, you know your mother's pain and fatigue. Who can your mother tell? I die easily, and living without you is meaningless. But I'm afraid you can't afford such behavior. Don't make your mother sad.
I am here to convey
Salute!
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A letter to a disobedient child Love your mother:
Son, you are ten years old this year. Have you grown up?
Every day when mom talks about you, you start talking, which is worse than me. You just talk? No? But I don't say why. Your unreasonable appearance makes me very angry. Is it because I nag too much? But do I have to say it if I can't speak it well? Mom is really nerve-racking! Your father said I made you like this before, didn't he?
I know you are a kind and considerate child. I am tired. You know you love me very much, give me back rubs, pour me water and enjoy your care every time. My mother is beautiful in her heart.
But mom always has higher requirements for you. Let me ask you if it's too much:
First of all, my mother wants you to pay more attention to your study. Every time I watch you do your homework, I feel anxious and slow. I can't concentrate on your homework well. As a result, I don't have enough time to play and my homework is absent-minded. This is a question of your attitude towards learning. If you don't realize this, it will affect your future study and life, so my mother is very anxious and doesn't know how to solve this problem, son. Can you do better?
Second, mom wants your handwriting to be better. Your handwriting represents your attitude. Although you can't write like a calligrapher, you should at least be serious and neat. Is that too much to ask? But it is too difficult for you to practice calligraphy every day. It's only ten minutes. You just don't want to do it. I'm really in a hurry! You see, my mother's handwriting is not good, and I am embarrassed to read it myself. Didn't I make up my mind to practice, too? How about we practice together later? Words are like people, you will understand when you grow up, but you haven't grown up yet. My mother tells you how she feels, because my mother has experienced more things than you. You can't say that what I said is unreasonable.
Third, mom wants you to spend more time doing physical exercise. Mom didn't sign you up for this class just because she didn't want to give you too much burden, but because she wanted to give you a free and happy childhood. But now you like watching TV and playing computer so much that you want to do these two things whenever you have time, which has affected your life. It's not that you are not allowed to watch or play, but that you don't want to do them as the main thing that consumes too much time. Who doesn't want to play? Mom wants to play, too, but if everyone does this, it is estimated that there will be no food and drink, and everyone will only play without working or studying. What do you think the world will become?
Maybe because I have requirements for you, I will take care of you from time to time. Are you impatient? Son, you can also give advice to your mother! Tell your reason, and your mother will accept it humbly. Your opinion will keep your mother improving. Do you believe that people will make progress only by constantly discovering their own shortcomings and constantly correcting themselves? Everyone has shortcomings, deficiencies, setbacks and misunderstandings. It is important that we have a positive attitude. I wonder if you can understand this?
Before I went to school this morning, you asked me what day it was today, and then said? June 1st? Next Friday, mom says you are a teenager, not a child. It's mom's fault. What my mother actually wants to say is that Children's Day is a festival for all children, not a child's festival, but a festival celebrated by everyone. My mother hopes that when you grow up, you will want to do something meaningful instead of just getting something for yourself. There are many unfortunate children! You don't know how happy you are without looking. How about we do something meaningful? As for what to do, will you think about it first?
I am here to convey
Salute!
XXX
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