On Bing Xin’s tombstone, why was her grandson writing the eight characters “It’s a waste of time to be an example, and there is no way to teach a child”?
As a famous children's writer, Bing Xin concentrated on the study of children's literature. Everyone had read Bing Xin's works more or less during their childhood. Bing Xin has been highly respected throughout her life. In addition to her profound literary attainments, her noble character is also an important reason for her respect. But after the death of such an old man, someone randomly carved words on her tombstone, and the content was full of insults. What is even more unacceptable is that these eight characters, "You are not a good person, you have no way to teach your children", were still written on her tombstone. Her grandson Wu Shan carved it.
So what kind of hatred makes her relatives hate her so much. In fact, all this stems from the mistakes made by Bing Xin's son, Wu Shan's father. He was angry with Bing Xin because of his father's mistakes, so he did such a rebellious thing.
01 was abandoned by his father since he was a child, and he felt very resentful in his heart
Bing Xin had a son, whom she named Wu Ping. When Wu Ping was young, he fell in love with a woman at first sight. This woman was Wu Shan's mother, Chen Lingxia. At first, Chen Lingxia had no feelings for Wu Ping and even rejected him. But under Wu Ping's unremitting pursuit, Chen Lingxia was finally moved. At the beginning, Wu Ping was also a handsome and gentle man. After he married Chen Lingxia, his life was considered happy and ordinary. Soon the two gave birth to their son Wu Shan. But unexpectedly, after the birth of their son, the relationship between the couple gradually deteriorated. A family of two turned into a family of three. There were a lot more trivial things in life, and Chen Lingxia was getting older, so her appearance was no longer as good as before. Therefore, Wu Ping gradually lost patience with mother and son. There were more and more quarrels between the couple, and their relationship gradually faded. In Wu Shan's impression, his parents seemed to have never stopped making noises since he could remember.
In the end, Wu Ping and his wife failed to make it to the end and divorced early. Wu Shan was still young at the time, and he didn't understand why his father was completely different from the fathers described by his grandma. He didn't understand why his father treated himself and his mother in this way. Over time, this confusion and incomprehension turned into resentment. After the divorce, Chen Lingxia insisted on raising her children alone. She never said anything wrong with her father in front of Wu Shan, because she did not want her son to live in resentment all day long. On the contrary, Wu Ping found a new love soon after the divorce and immediately jumped into his next relationship. Wu Shan was very saddened by his father's attitude, and he vowed to repay his mother well when he grew up.
02 The mother was seriously ill and the father turned a blind eye, and the father and son broke up completely
After the divorce, Chen Lingxia raised her son alone, so she worked very hard. Before Wu Shan grew up, Chen Lingxia fell ill. And she had cancer at the time, so there was no good treatment. Because his mother was seriously ill, Wu Shan hoped that his father could help. After all, the two were once husband and wife. But he didn't expect his heartless father to flatly reject his request. At this moment, Wu Shan felt heartbroken. Later, his mother Chen Lingxia died of a serious illness. Wu Shan's hatred for his father reached its peak, so he sued his father in anger on the grounds that he failed to fulfill his duties as a father. However, after six years of litigation, Wu Shan still lost the case.
After losing the lawsuit, Wu Shan felt desperate. He felt that his hatred could not be expressed, and attributed his father's actions to his grandma's failure to educate him well, so Wu Shan acted impulsively under Bing Xin's care. Those eight characters were written on the tombstone. In fact, all of this was Wu Ping's personal doing and had nothing to do with Bing Xin. However, the angry Wu Shan could no longer think rationally, so he took all this on his grandmother. Later, after this incident was exposed, some people expressed sympathy for Wu Shan's experience, but at the same time, they also made it clear that this incident had nothing to do with the old man, not to mention that the old man had been dead for many years, and she really should not be disturbed by this incident.
After calming down, Wu Shan also realized his mistake, so he took the initiative to write a letter of apology and sincerely repented in front of the tomb. After final negotiation, the park management decided to forgive Wu Shan but required him to make corresponding compensation.
Wu Shan's childhood was full of shortcomings. It was his misfortune to encounter such an irresponsible father, but this did not become an excuse for him to make mistakes.
03 Summary
Everyone will encounter unpleasant things. What we need to learn is to treat it with a tolerant attitude. No matter what kind of problem we encounter, we need to deal with it calmly. Rather than resorting to extreme solutions. This kind of behavior not only fails to alleviate conflicts, but also violates the law. In the whole matter, Bing Xin was not wrong, but she was innocently implicated. Wu Shan was supposed to be the sympathetic party, but now he has become the target of criticism. Fortunately, he was able to face up to his behavior in the end and take the initiative to apologize. At the same time, he also hoped that after experiencing this series of things, Wu Shan's father could also repent.