The eight-character meaning of peace
In life, some women are little princesses all their lives and meet good men alive; Some women are not good-looking, and their families are average, but they have found a good husband; There are also some women from ordinary families who can marry into giants. Yes, giants are the real giants that many female stars can't marry even after sharpening their heads!
But some women think that heaven is unfair, unlucky and unlucky. They will ask why the same woman has different lives. Why are these women so lucky?
In fact, God is fair to everyone. "I have tasted the sweetness of the world, and I know it well." In fact, life is a journey, and only you know the bitterness and bitterness of your marriage.
Whether a person's life is good or not is not predestined, but decided by himself. The so-called good life is just that they know that people's life is short, they can't live on their own, and they don't expect too much from others. They can let go of unnecessary people and things and face the gains and losses calmly.
A truly lucky woman, no matter how old she is or what kind of life she leads, has these four characteristics.
If you know how to be grateful in marriage, happiness will knock at the door.
A woman with a happy married life often knows how to be content, how to cherish a man's goodness, and how to understand his hard work.
But some couples have been married for many years, but their feelings are getting colder and colder, even like strangers. In fact, this is because both sides are used to giving to each other, don't know how to be grateful, forget to give, and only know how to take.
In real life, many old couples are used to giving and being paid. It is natural for a wife to cook, and a husband should earn money to support his family. After a long time, there will always be a person who will feel tired and will be crushed by the fatigue and cold of life.
We are all busy working to make money, socializing, and brushing our mobile phones. We have long forgotten to say "thank you" and "sorry" to the people around us.
In fact, it is very important for couples to get along and be grateful to each other.
The famous director Ang Lee once said: Love means kindness before love.
It means gratitude, so it is easy to have love with each other. In this way, even if life is dull and boring, it will feel good.
This is because two people form a family, no one should do anything, and everyone needs to bear their own responsibilities and obligations.
Many people may think that saying "thank you" between husband and wife seems different, because our culture and people are different.
We can change, it's good to have you, thank you for everything you have done for me, and let the other person feel your gratitude. More importantly, let the other person know that you know what he did and that you are a grateful person.
I have heard such a passage:
Not knowing how to thank others for their efforts is a manifestation of their arrogance, and they will gradually disrespect and despise each other, so many people's family disharmony has a special relationship with this aspect. Who can stand a selfish and arrogant partner forever? Therefore, if one party has this tendency, then there is already the origin of emotional breakdown.
It means that women can't appreciate men's efforts, which will affect the happiness of marriage.
My husband is our bosom friend, and he will accompany us for a lifetime, even for a lifetime. Women should learn to cherish such people and appreciate their blessings. After all, people who love you will protect you.
A marriage expert once said: "A woman who is easy to be happy must be a woman who knows happiness and gratitude."
I think this sentence is very reasonable. Because a grateful woman must be good at accepting others' kindness to her, know how to express her joy and gratitude, and manage her marriage well.
Second, don't expect too much from people.
Hu Yinmeng wrote in The Incredibility of Life: If you want to maintain an emotion, expect as little as possible. If you have no expectations, you can love unconditionally.
The older I get, the more I understand that in this world, except for life and death, everything else is insignificant.
Don't overestimate your position in other people's minds.
This is because the trouble of many people in life is that they always overestimate their position in each other's hearts in a relationship. However, the greater the expectation, the greater the disappointment.
In marriage, many people always hope that the other party will spoil themselves into a little princess, that everything will be as they wish, that everything will be covered by the other party, and that the other party will make a lot of money. As a result, everything is not satisfactory. When you want a nanny husband, it means that the other person's attempt to make a lot of money will fail.
When hopes fail, they will be tortured by disappointment and regret, which causes many people to feel unhappy.
On the contrary, in marriage, expectations are not so high, but it is easier to be happy. Because the easier people are to be satisfied, the happier they will feel.
A smart and intelligent woman will manage her expectations, prevent herself from falling into emotions and make herself feel insecure. On the contrary, she knows how to take happiness into her own hands.
Third, don't leave the bad side to someone you love more.
Yi Shu said: The bigger mistake people make every day is to be too polite to strangers and too hard on people close to them. Change this habit.
This sentence is easy to understand. There are many people who are kind to their relatives and friends, but they are harsh, angry and wanton.
In fact, home has a bottom line, and there are untouchable places. In this world, no one will spoil and love you for no reason, and people's hearts are mutual. Only when you are kind to the other person will the other person return your sincerity.
Love is not a reason to hurt others at will.
A wise woman is not only warm as sunshine to others, but also gentle and quiet to her family. Naturally, her life will not be bad.
Fourth, don't argue with each other about right and wrong.
Lin Yutang once wrote in "The Wind is Trembling": No struggle is a great struggle. If there is no dispute, then the whole world will not dispute it.
The older you get, the more you understand that it is meaningless to argue with others about right and wrong. It is the wisest behavior not to make noise.
Especially in marriage, I argue with my lover about right and wrong. Even if I won, I lost my feelings, and finally I got hurt.
One day, a man asked Confucius' students, "How many seasons are there in a year?"
The other party replied: "Spring, summer, autumn and winter." The guest shook his head and said, "No, there are only three seasons in a year."
The two men couldn't argue, so they decided to bet that if anyone made a mistake, they would knock each other three heads.
Then Confucius came and the students came forward: "Teacher, how many seasons are there in a year?"
Confucius glanced at the guest and said, "There are three seasons in a year."
Although the students are puzzled, they still have to kowtow three times.
After the guests left, the students couldn't wait to ask Confucius, "Teacher, there are obviously four seasons in a year. What do you say in the three seasons? "
Confucius said, "Didn't you see that man was all green just now?" He is a grasshopper. Grasshoppers live in spring and die in autumn. They have never seen winter. No matter how much you talk, he doesn't know there is winter. "
In life, it is inevitable to meet "three-season people". If you have to compete with each other in everything, your troubles will be endless.
This is especially true for family members. Happy families never argue about right and wrong.
There is no dispute, no noise, it is a dose of affection.
When you get along, you will be more understanding and considerate; Between hearts, there is more tolerance and love.
What's wrong with eating a little? What's wrong with letting him shoot three points? Learn to control your emotions, hold back your anger, let go of your obsession, and have a peaceful mind.
The older you get, the more you understand, and the greatest wisdom in life is not to argue or make trouble. Life is hard and short. Be kind to life, to others, to yourself, to everything around you, to be quiet without arguing, to be quiet without making trouble is a rare great wisdom!
The so-called fate is just the embodiment of personal conduct, habits and connotations. A woman with a good life, in marriage, knows how to be grateful, does not expect too much from others, is good at being kind to each other, and does not argue with each other about right and wrong.
In fact, whether your life is good or not depends entirely on yourself. You can also be a woman with a good life if you like.
The above is about the eight-character peace of women's life and the sharing of marriage. Read the free calculation of Zhouyi's eight characters, I hope this will help everyone!