The phenomenon of second grade: the watershed of children's life
? The phenomenon of the second day of junior high school: it is the watershed of children's ideological and moral character, academic performance and ability training.
1, about grades
? As the saying goes: there is little difference between the first day and the second day, and the third day is in the ground. Children are in the watershed of the second day and are also in the period of puberty, which has various possibilities for development. Therefore, the second day is a critical period for children to learn.
2. About ideas
Children in Grade Two pay more attention to their evaluation among classmates, teachers and friends. Their view of right and wrong is vague and their psychological endurance is poor. On the one hand, they are self-righteous, on the other hand, they are unwilling to leave their peers, and their herd mentality is obvious. They are also very face-saving, often feel nervous under exam-oriented education and feel inferior under the pressure of scores. Therefore, they have their own opinions on many things and are unwilling to communicate with their parents, especially their accusations and criticisms.
3. About ability
? Senior two children regard themselves as adults, hoping that they can be recognized by the people around them, expecting the opportunity to express themselves, but they are afraid of expressing themselves too much, so they often fall into self-contradiction. They don't want to be known by too many people, so they choose silence. When one of your abilities can't meet your expectations, there will even be broken pots and falls.
How should our parents deal with the above phenomenon in order to help their children to pass through the critical period of pain normally? The following ideas and countermeasures are for your reference:
1, accept children's various changes and understand that children's current changes are normal.
2. Respect and understand children and be their friends. Even put down your posture and turn yourself into a child, with more recognition, more encouragement and less criticism.
3. Try to cultivate children's interest in learning. Fully understand children's various interests, conditionally help children to provide an environment for cultivating their interest ability, and unconditionally accompany children to do things they are interested in. Let children fully trust their parents and let go of their fears!
4. Trust your children. Believe in children's abilities, their efforts and their choices. Always go to see the children and give positive feedback and communication in time. Look for children's bright spots, praise more, affirm more, urge more, criticize less, interfere less and attack less.
5. Be patient with children, be careful, spend more time with children and be less anxious. We should not only pay attention to the results, but also pay attention to the process of children's efforts. There should be requirements and supervision for children's homework and study. It is necessary to look at children's homework and test papers on weekends, and we should not relax our concern and concern for children's learning, so that children can develop good study habits.
The key to not demanding children's grades is to see if they have really tried their best in their studies, to be able to see their efforts, to care about their personality development, to strive to accept all the good and bad things of their children at present, and to guide their positive development.
There are still many problems in adolescence. I hope everyone will take their time and discuss it slowly, so that we can all have a healthy and hardworking child!