What does the old man in the countryside mean when he says that "the son-in-law goes to bed and the family is ruined"?

Many traditional concepts of ancient feudal society are still continuing in remote rural areas, especially for the older generation in rural areas, who are still convinced and stubbornly adhere to these customs. On the contrary, young people living in cities don't care much because they are exposed to more new concepts and information. For example, since ancient times, China has been very particular about weddings, funerals and weddings. Before marriage, birthday, who must be regarded as a couple, should also choose a good day to get married. Even after marriage, there are many customs to go back to your mother's house, such as the old saying in the countryside? The son-in-law goes to bed, and the family is ruined? Is there any reason?

So-called? The son-in-law goes to bed, and the family is ruined? It is pointed out that when a married daughter takes her son-in-law back to her mother's house, if she wants to stay at home at night, she will usually arrange a small room for her son-in-law, and a married daughter is not allowed to sleep with her son-in-law. In the traditional concept of rural areas, if young couples don't sleep separately, it is easy to bring bad luck, and it is also easy to make their parents bankrupt, or even bankrupt. Many young people don't understand the practices of the older generation. Why are there such regulations in rural areas?

This is because the living conditions of rural families in the past were not very good, there were not many rooms at home, and the sound insulation effect was poor. When newlyweds go back to their parents' house to sleep together, it is inevitable that they will be emotional at night. It is impolite to make some noise and be heard by their parents. And there are underage brothers and sisters at home, which is even more embarrassing if you hear or bump into them. Therefore, in order to avoid this kind of thing, elders usually euphemistically remind young couples with similar words, or simply arrange to sleep in separate rooms.

However, the main reason is feudal superstition, in the traditional concept? Marry a girl, splash water? . The daughter in the family belongs to the man's family at the moment of marriage, and the children born later also take the man's surname. If a daughter lives in her mother's house and sleeps with her son-in-law, the older generation will be superstitious about her family's wealth and take her baby to the man's house, which will easily lead to her home? Family destruction? . ? The son-in-law goes to bed, and the family is ruined? Such superstition can't be broken at present, but it can't change the concept of rural elderly in a short time. Although young people are reluctant, they still choose to respect the choice of the older generation to put down their sleep. However, with the progress of society and the popularization of education, these old ideas were finally abandoned by the times.