Regional customs of Calais town
First, the marriage procedure.
(1) engaged. The matchmaker uses the woman's "eight characters" (date of birth) as a medium to give the man a fortune-teller. If you are not in a hurry, the man chooses an auspicious day of the zodiac to give the woman Geng Tie, cash, steamed pigs, pork, cakes and other gifts. If the woman has grandparents, add a pair of pig liver and pig lungs. Send two bottles of glutinous rice wine to the coastal areas of Xinying and Diaolou. After the woman received the gift, she filled out the Geng sticker and returned a part of the gift money. Since then, the two sides have become in-laws.
(2) giving gifts. When the child reaches marriageable age, the man asks the matchmaker to ask the woman for advice, and will give her a big gift (cash, pork, cake, etc.) after agreeing. ) another day. In addition, three days before the wedding, send some cakes and cash, which is called "sending steamed buns".
(3) get married. Before marriage, the bride quietly guarded the boudoir, the ground was covered with straw, and the sisters came to sleep with her; Sing a song "Crying for Marriage" to express gratitude to parents for their parenting, or to cry about their own life experiences. When getting married, the man hired a sedan chair band, which was taken to the woman's house by the matchmaker to pick up the bride. Then a ceremony of worshipping the church was held, accompanied by two friends, kneeling three times and worshiping nine times; And congratulate my parents on three glasses of wine, and the wedding is over. In the middle of the night, friends and the groom quarreled, and the bride invited them to eat areca for cake and tea. In Xinyinghe Diaolou, it is the custom for the woman's sister and the man's friend to sing the folk song "Li Limei". Three days later, the bride's brother or sister welcomed her back, which is called "sending oil bottles"; The groom also followed the woman to visit her parents-in-law, which is called "coming forward".
Second, the child bride.
This woman can't live because of poverty or family changes. She was brought up by her husband and then married.
Third, continue to get married and remarry.
After divorce, if a man and a woman want to continue to get married or remarry, they will become husband and wife after being introduced by the matchmaker and given some gifts. Weddings are not usually held. When a widow gets married, she has to pay interest to every household in the village. When she meets an acquaintance on the road, she will also benefit her husband's family and enter her husband's family from the wild at night.
Four. Adoption adoption
Lingao County does not have the habit of a man settling in a woman's house. Only in market towns and coastal areas, there are some widows' practices, which recruit people to become sons in law. As long as both parties agree, they can live together as husband and wife.
After liberation, publicize the marriage law and put an end to child brides. Marriage between a man and a woman is voluntary. Generally, after introduction or mature love, they will register with the government to get a marriage certificate and hold a wedding. The age of marriage is generally 20-25 years for men and 0/8-22 years for women. In the procedure of getting married, it is generally the same as in the old society, deciding fate and giving gifts, but the sedan chair is cancelled when the wedding is held. In the early 1950s, weddings were held in the form of yangko and waist drum. In the 1960s, I went by bike. In the 1980s, cars were used to greet relatives. It was easier to give a bride price in the 1950s. After the Cultural Revolution, people began to pay attention to "giving bride price". Like to pay attention to ostentation and extravagance, give hundreds of thousands of bride price, buy sideboards, wardrobes, sofas and furniture. Rich people get together to treat guests and buy tape recorders, electric fans, televisions, etc. Bigamy and concubinage occur from time to time in some places, and marriages are often not registered. Before liberation, people gave birth, and the first child was a boy. Three days after their birth, they reported good news to their families. At the same time, cut off the head of a wild pineapple, wrap it in red paper and hang it outside the door, marking "No Entry" after entering the forbidden area. No outsiders are allowed to enter, and no noise is allowed indoors or outdoors or nearby. It will be banned after seven days. 10 days later, choose a day to put the child in the cradle and invite her sister-in-law to congratulate her. Except for coastal fishermen, pregnant women are forbidden to eat fishy smell. When a child reaches the age of 18, it is called "anti-age". My parents-in-law sent silver to fight Kirin, collars, anklets and so on. For their children to wear; Rich people also send fields, plow cattle and so on. On the day of "anti-year-old", at the right time, the child put on the new clothes and silverware sent by the family, which were held by the elders and let him sit on the table. Write pens, ink, inkstones, abacus, dice, money, chickens, cakes, etc. Put it on the table to see what the child catches first as a symbol of his future career.
After liberation, maternity hospitals were generally established, and women went to maternity hospitals to give birth, and the "ban" basically disappeared. The habit of "entering the basket" and "relative age" still exists in rural areas 13 days. First of all, birthdays
Children usually kill chickens or boil eggs on their birthdays. Adult's birthday, the whole family held a banquet to celebrate, and the married daughter bought all the pig livers, pig lungs, pig hearts and 100 jiaozi to congratulate her, to show "long life".
Second, birthdays.
A few people with status, rich family and complete children and grandchildren hold birthdays and banquets. Calais, Heshe and Xinying are more popular. Most of them wish 6 1 year, 7 1 year, 8 1 year and 9 1 year. When celebrating a birthday, please ask the literati to make a birthday preface, write birthday couplets, and send birthday glasses and cakes to congratulate relatives and friends. Sing a toast to show longevity. Before liberation, funerals were complicated and simple, but they were all buried in coffins. When a person dies, he will be buried at the right time. First of all, he will clean the body, put on new clothes, new shoes and socks, and carry it into the coffin by his children without nailing the coffin cover. Rich people ask Taoist priests to be filial for three days and nights. Directly under the son, daughter-in-law, daughter, grandson, the younger generation of a new collateral family all came to perform filial piety. Those who enter filial piety should wake up and not eat fishy food. I chose an auspicious day to hold a funeral after I made meritorious deeds in Chao Zhai. Generally, a ceremony of "opening the spirit" and "being a little master" is held at the funeral, and celebrities are invited to "call the ceremony" and write inscriptions, such as posthumous title, God, and eulogy. Relatives and friends came to offer their condolences and send a funeral, and invited Fang to accompany them. When you come back from the funeral, you have to cross the fire in front of the door to enter the house. Then, carry out "cleaning" (changing mourning clothes, sweeping the floor, washing the clothes, quilts and mats of the deceased, etc. ) and "blessing" (placing the Lord card). Three days later, undertaker chose the right time to go out. Some keep the system (filial piety) for three years, during which it is forbidden to hold happy events, set off firecrackers, post Spring Festival couplets and build new houses.
Those who die outside should park their bodies outside the village for burial. Those who are killed at sea and can't find their bodies will wait until fasting to summon their souls to build graves. During the funeral in Xinying area, the "three sacrifices" (pigs, sheep and chickens) were carried by relatives and friends, and women carried coffins and set off firecrackers all the way, which was quite lively.
After liberation, the funeral custom was reformed. A memorial service will be held after the death of a government official or employee. Funerals in rural areas are basically like this.