Ah, the fortune teller, Ah, the fortune teller

I'm Izzie, and this is the day127th of my daily article.

Recently, I am reading Zhang Defen's We Will Meet Love and Loneliness. Teacher Fan Deng and teacher Zhang Defen talked about the book together. There are many wonderful ideas in it. Let's have a taste with you.

Teacher Defen concluded that the biggest negative emotion of men is inferiority complex.

I believe that many people have seen this view, and their first reaction may not agree with it, because men as a whole feel very masculine, powerful and confident. How can they feel inferior?

Because these men are more rational and have no ego in their hearts, they are easily taken away by the external environment. When they meet excellent people and things, they will compare them. If they are better, they will have an inferiority complex, but this inferiority complex is often hidden deep and will be expressed in the form of negative emotions, such as complaints, responsibilities, tantrums and so on.

Nine times out of ten, life is unsatisfactory, so to really solve the problem is to be responsible for yourself!

If a man wants to overcome his inferiority complex, the first thing he should do is to face his own heart, find the source of his inner inferiority complex, and be responsible for himself and his emotions.

Many men with low self-esteem finally turned into their own relationship because of their relationship with their parents. It may be that my parents were very critical of themselves since I was a child, saying that they were not good enough. Growing up is like robbing from the outside, proving yourself good enough.

A truly strong and calm person is not for others, but for himself. While pleasing himself, he will attract the recognition of people around him.

Teacher Fan realized that many books also talked about the same point:

Shiarongbo Kampo said: Inferiority is another form of arrogance.

Wang Yangming said: as long as there is no private intention, there is no need to prove that it was seen by others.

Adler said: inferiority needs to be surpassed, and transcendence needs the right method.

Why are fortune tellers always accurate? It is because the believer has a victim mentality in his heart and feels that everything is aimed at himself, so he can poke his heart in any way.

Teacher Zhang Defen suggested that when men encounter problems in life or work, they generally don't want to talk about them, but they can refer to other people's success stories, how others spend their time when they encounter problems, and the most important thing is to have a strong heart.

There is a popular saying that work is the best practice.

Cultivate people, cultivate hearts. We practice together.