A real person with high emotional intelligence can tolerate others.
In real life, we often meet some invisible people and things.
For example, when someone sees a tattoo, they will feel that the other person is definitely not a good person. When you meet a person who is poorly dressed, you will look down on others' poor economic situation; When you see people who don't make progress and muddle along, you will look down on them from your heart.
If you live in the sea, you will inevitably meet people who are different from you or have no speculation.
People often think it's someone else's problem. In fact, it's not good to look at others' eyes because they don't practice enough.
A truly emotional person can see who is pleasing to the eye because they know how to observe their own hearts, respect the differences between people and be tolerant of others.
I have only myself in my heart.
Psychologists have a famous "projection effect":
People always habitually impose their knowledge on others, treating others as themselves and thinking that others should belong to them. In other words, the external world we see comes from the heart.
This is a little story:
A rich family held a full moon banquet for their children. Many people came to the banquet, but a beggar came to eat and drink during the dinner.
A young father licks calves, and others are not allowed to touch his children without washing their hands. He thinks beggars are dirty and smelly, so he drives him away and kicks him in desperation.
The child's mother said that beggars can be left behind, and a full moon will be wedding date, and secondly, it will be a blessing for the child. She asked the servant to take the beggar to wash clothes, and then gave him food and clean clothes after eating.
until one day, young parents took their children back to grandma's house and met robbers when passing through remote mountainous areas. While taking away the money, we must also save our lives.
At this time, a man with high martial arts skills beat away the robbers and saved the lives of their whole family.
The young mother panicked and recognized that it was the beggar who had been eating that day who saved them.
The husband and wife are grateful, and the young father is even more ashamed and blames himself.
In "Meeting Unknown Oneself", Teacher Zhang Defen said, "Dear, there is no one outside you but yourself.
a state of mind, seeing people at first sight.
many times, it's not that others are bad, but that we overestimate ourselves.
A muscular man with a tattoo on his arm may be a warm man who is enthusiastic about public welfare;
an old man in rags may be a rich man who pursues spiritual prosperity;
people who don't pursue progress can feel their own life value, and living in the present is the highest pursuit.
I don't like people, even look down on others, which is a sign of narrow vision and low emotional intelligence; This sense of superiority will collapse at any time.
with good thoughts, no distractions, no distractions, the world is empty and deserted.
True and supreme emotional intelligence means knowing your inner existence, letting go of your inherent stubbornness and prejudice, and getting satisfaction and value from your rich inner feelings.
People with rich emotions
know how to respect the differences between people.
The great philosopher Russell once said, "Uneven polymorphism is the root of happiness."
In the video, Teacher Li Meijin said:
"No matter who you are in conflict with, there are usually only 3-5 sentences. For example, if you are noisy, I will say something, you will answer it, I will say something again, and then I will come back. Don't say anything at this time, turn around.
in this way, the matter is unclear, and there is no need to argue further. "
I'm convinced that it's too much to argue in a few words.
when it's time to stop, it's a wise man.
In Qufu, Confucius' hometown, there is a famous saying "Three Seasons":
People come to ask Confucius for advice in several seasons a year.
Confucius' apprentice told the guests that the disciples thought there were four seasons in a year, while the visitors insisted that there were only three seasons in a year.
Confucius listened, but said to the guests, "Yes, there are three seasons in a year.
the guests left contentedly. The apprentices are confused.
Confucius explained, "Look, this man is wearing Tsing Yi. He was raised by a grasshopper and died in three seasons. He has never seen all seasons.
As the saying goes, always strive for heights with the same interests, not with fools.
there is no distinction between high and low, but there are differences in rank.
the grades are different, so don't force it; There is no need to argue because of different opinions.
Time flies, precious as a bead. Instead of wasting time on people who don't like it, it's better to turn around and improve yourself.
The world is ever-changing, everything is multifaceted, people are born differently, everyone has their own lifestyle and choices, and they are all "different fireworks".
As the author Yi Shu said: Everyone says, the truth is always a basket with eight lights, so you can see others, but you can't see yourself.
Seeking answers from others by your own standards always ends with zero; As the saying goes, "gentlemen are harmonious but different", there is no need to expect agreement on specific issues.
A philosopher once said: The people we meet in this world are what we meet, and these people who don't like it come to tell us some truth.
Smart people know how to respect the differences between people and don't interfere in other people's lives.
true emotional intelligence means tolerance.
Lin Zexu, a national hero, wrote in his self-encouragement letter: "There are hundreds of rivers, and tolerance is great.
A tolerant person must be an open-minded person. Being generous to others is a sign of self-confidence.
While studying at Yuelu Academy in Changsha, Zeng Guofan's experience caused me to think:
Zeng Guofan's desk was placed by the window, and one of his classmates deliberately found fault and said, Get out of the way, the light for my study came in through the window, and you blocked the sunshine!
This classmate is a lascivious lascivious and grumpy. Zeng Guofan studied hard, often stayed up all night reading, and thrifty housekeeping made him get good grades.
The classmate was obviously jealous of him, but Zeng Guofan did not argue with him. He silently moved the table and changed his position.
After that, Zeng Guofan won a prize. This classmate flew into a rage and resented Zeng Guofan for taking away the geomantic omen of the house.
The other students couldn't stand it any longer, and asked, Is Zeng Guofan going to change the table? Blame others!
Many people spoke highly of Zeng Guofan, but Zeng Guofan calmly advised his classmates not to quarrel.
Zeng Guofan thinks that it is better to read more articles or learn some new knowledge for a period of time after arguing endlessly about this trivial matter. As long as you don't delay yourself, what's wrong with letting him?
There is another word called "Even the wisest man is foolish". A tolerant person looks weak, but in fact, he has to master the highest wisdom and understand what is most important to him.
Sakre once said: The world is a mirror, and everyone can see his own shadow.
In the TV series Nothing But Thirty, the eldest sister dressed simply and bought the most expensive set of jewelry from Wang Manni.
she made it clear that I will only buy it for you. Only when you receive me warmly will I go to these high-end shops.
Another seller could see that when she thought she couldn't afford jewelry and didn't want to meet her, only Wang Manni fell in love at first sight. In her eyes, every customer was God.
nothing lucky can happen.
"The Second Flower Blossom" writes: When you put aside your prejudice and disguise, and stop being anxious and eager, your heart is truly open.
True high EQ means looking at people and things with "normality" and respecting others' choices with "tolerance".
blessings will come naturally.