Will a man cherish a truly good and competent wife?
A friend who studies metaphysics said that women are the feng shui of the family. Whether a family is harmonious, happy and prosperous, women play a big role. I don’t understand metaphysics, and I don’t know if what he said is completely correct, but metaphysics aside, based on my experience in researching and writing emotional articles over the years, I also recognize the importance of a wife in a marital relationship.
A smart woman will use her intelligence to resolve family crises and make the relationship between husband and wife more harmonious. And marriage has always been a matter of two people. Women should know how to get along with their husbands, avoid his sharp edges, overcome toughness with softness, and straighten out the marital relationship.
In marriage, a truly competent and good wife will not do these things in marriage, and of course, she will not do these things to her husband.
Things that hurt the relationship between husband and wife
A smart wife puts the relationship between the two of them first in marriage, because she knows that emotion is the basis for the survival and maintenance of the marriage relationship. Therefore, no matter what she does or says, she will never hurt the feelings of two people. Even if you have a quarrel, no matter how angry you are, you will not lose your mind and say hurtful words.
When some women quarrel with their husbands, they always talk about divorce, or else they say they are blind for marrying such a man. Although these words were said in anger, they hurt feelings. And a smart and wise woman knows what to say and what not to say, knows how to control it, and knows where the lifeblood of maintaining the relationship between husband and wife lies. So, they won't do that.
Things that hurt men’s self-esteem and face
Some women in life lack experience in running a good marriage, and one-sidedly believe that if they can control a man, they can control the family. overall situation. In fact, this kind of idea is really simple and crude, and it is often counterproductive. Maybe a man is controlled by you, but his heart is getting farther and farther away from you.
A smart and wise woman knows how to be humble, and she also knows how to protect her husband's self-esteem and face. Men need face, and at any time, especially in front of outsiders, they will always give the man enough face, letting the man hold up his chest in front of others and play the role of a virtuous wife.
Even at home, she will not say anything that hurts her husband's self-esteem and face, and will definitely establish his authority at home. This is not because she is afraid of her husband and is submissive, but because she respects her husband and understands that mutual appreciation and respect between husband and wife are the secret to maintaining a long-term relationship between husband and wife, so she will not offend her husband.
Men have to be in charge of everything
No one wants to be managed by others every day, and listen to nagging and complaints every day, especially married men. Men in marriage are most afraid that their wives will control everything and have no freedom at all. He had to hand in his salary card, report when he went out to eat with friends, and was scolded if he smoked at home. In short, he had to live a cautious life. Finding a wife was more difficult for him than finding a mother.
A smart and intelligent woman, she understands that everyone has their own space, and she also believes in her husband. She will not control everything about her husband, nagging and complaining when he doesn't do what she wants, and makes him unhappy. He lives with criticism and complaints all day long. Because she understands the principle that things must be reversed when they go to extremes. As time goes by, her husband will sooner or later resist and get bored. This is not good for herself and is not good for the two of them getting along.
Comparing with other people’s husbands
There is a saying that the easiest way to offend a woman is to praise other women in front of her. The same applies to men. If you want to make your husband angry and feel inferior, just praise other men in front of him. Many women often make this mistake in marriage. They usually like to tell their husbands that their husbands are capable and that their husbands can make money. The speaker is unintentional, but the listener is intentional. If you talk like this too much, it will be strange that your husband will have no ideas.
A smart and intelligent woman will not do this, because she knows that she chose her husband. Saying that her husband is not as good as other men not only belittles her husband, but also means that she has no vision. She would not do anything that would harm others but not benefit herself.
She will only continue to encourage her husband. No matter how good other people's husbands are, it has nothing to do with her. She can always discover the advantages of her husband as a reason for her to continue to love him.
Half of love is appreciation. The secret to a long-term marriage is appreciation and love for your spouse. With this cornerstone, many conflicts and setbacks in marriage will be easily resolved. A good marriage is the joint efforts of two people. Women are water and men are mountains. The dependence of mountains and rivers is the most beautiful painting and the best family relationship.