"When people are poor, it is best not to visit relatives or attend various weddings and banquets." What do you think?
There is a saying in "Zengguang Xianwen": "Don't talk when a person is poor, and don't persuade others when he is in a humble position."
People are cold and warm, and the world is cold, often only those who have experienced it Only people will have a profound experience. If you have money, everything you say is right; if you have no money, even breathing is unnecessary.
Since the world is full of sophistication, we must also understand some principles of dealing with things. As the old saying goes, when a person is poor, he speaks little, when he is in a humble position, he does not persuade others, when he is weak, he does not bear a heavy burden, and when he encounters difficulties, he cannot find them. Dear, after all, human relationships are as thin as paper and everything in the world is like a new chess game.
In the face of human nature, we should also understand a truth: the poor live in the busy city and no one cares about them, and the rich live in the mountains and have distant relatives. If you don’t believe it, just look at the wine at the banquet. Cups are served to the rich first.
There are fewer topics to talk about. There is nothing to talk about when we meet. Many people just cope with it.
If you are poor, you will be very unpopular with the people around you. If you go to visit relatives during the Chinese New Year, your relatives will be indifferent or even dislike you. The relationship between relatives is maintained not only by family ties but also by the balance of economic exchanges. If you give me a small gift, you will naturally not be welcomed. What rural people pay attention to is that you respect me one foot, and I respect you one foot. Once this balance is achieved, It would be strange if you were broken and your relatives would not dislike you.
A very popular saying recently: "If you don't have money, what can you do to maintain your family ties, stabilize your love, and connect your friendships? Do you just rely on your words? Stop making trouble, everyone is very busy. !
In today's world, most people dislike the poor and love the rich. When you go to visit relatives, they think you are borrowing money. Because you are poor and worried that you can't afford it, they will naturally give it to you. It's human nature.
You have to rely on yourself for everything. If you are really in trouble, don't expect your relatives to help you. Only your parents will sincerely help you. If you are poor, work hard to improve yourself and improve your status. Friends will come naturally. "If you don't believe it, just look at the wine in the glass, and serve the rich first."
Life is like a tree full of monkeys, look up. They are all monkey butts, only when you look down can you have a smiling face. A man with money is hard to be a man without iron. If you have money, you can make a fool of yourself. If you don't have money, you will make a fool of yourself. If you have money, you will sit on the table.
Shen Fu wrote in "Six Chapters of a Floating Life" that he and his wife were in urgent need of a sum of money, so they borrowed money from their relatives, but they received cold looks. From then on, he vowed not to ask for money again. Any relatives or anything, so as not to be humiliated again.
Someone asked Guo Degang: "Does it take time to live well?" He replied without hesitation: "It doesn't take time, it takes experience." Someone said: "I used to think that what Guo Degang said was a cross talk, but now that I have grown older, I hear it again, and it turns out that it is a tragic life.
As the saying goes: "Poverty does not have long legs, and wealth does not take root. In ten years, the east of the river will turn to the west of the river. Don't laugh at the poor wearing rags." Being poor means wanting to change. Temporary poverty does not mean eternal poverty, as long as If we work hard enough, it is not difficult to change the current situation of poverty. "If you are rich in the mountains, you have distant relatives, but if you are poor in the city, no one cares about you." When people are poor, no one cares about them. This is someone else's business, but we have to care about it ourselves, learn more about the outside world, and be aware of it. If your relatives and friends really look down on you and ignore you, it doesn't matter. At least you will recognize someone clearly and the relationship will end there.
If a person is poor, his ambition cannot be short-lived. Life does not favor us. As long as we work hard and behave upright, we will be respected by people. Strengthen your beliefs and do not bow to fate. You cannot give up this world to people who despise you. Life is about constantly meeting new possibilities. Loving someone, climbing a mountain, and chasing a dream will make life more meaningful.
When people are poor, it is best not to visit relatives or attend various weddings and banquets. I think that's quite right. If you have money, what you say is right, and some people will agree with it. If you have no money, you will be insignificant and have no weight. People will look down on you and think you are incompetent and incompetent.
When my cousin got married, the husband’s family had no house or car, and her husband still owed the school’s student loan. At that time, my aunt's family and all relatives did not agree with their marriage, but my cousin recognized love and married her husband. In the two years after they got married, their relatives would criticize the cousin and his wife when they saw them, thinking that they were incompetent. Every relative who saw the cousin's husband would give him a few words of advice and point fingers at the couple. They also feel inferior because of their lack of money, so they work hard and minimize the visits between relatives.
Later, a friend of his cousin-in-law asked him to go to Inner Mongolia for development. He worked hard to specialize in technology. In just two years, his boss took his technology as a stake and gave him 15% of the company's shares. All of a sudden, My cousin's husband was also rich, but at that time my cousin was unwilling to leave home thousands of kilometers away. When I asked my cousin-in-law to return to his hometown, he said: I am afraid of living without money. I am rich and others still remember my last name. But without money, I am shorter than others among my relatives. At the cousin's insistence, the family of three bought a house in Inner Mongolia and settled down.
Now that my cousin and his family are back, relatives in their hometown are vying to treat them to dinner, and their cousin's husband is always allowed to sit at the table. Don't visit relatives when you are down, but if you ask about the wine in your glass, every glass will be served to the rich. When you are poor in the busy city, no one cares about you; when you are rich in the mountains, you have distant relatives.
If you are poor, you should not visit relatives. A poor person is worse than a ghost, and tea is not as light as water. When you are poor, in front of your relatives and friends, no one thinks what you say is right, and no one listens to you. When you have money, everything you say will be good words.
This statement can be taken as a joke, but it must not be taken seriously, let alone practiced in this way. If a person is poor and does not visit relatives, he will isolate himself. It is obvious that he looks down on himself. Isn't this right? The useless mother cried in the middle of the night - one by one, the useless person died.
People who are poor cannot have short ambitions. People often say: 'You can only be poor for three generations, and you can be rich for ten thousand years.' Which person can guarantee that there will be no disasters in his life, and which family will always have smooth sailing? As usual, it is said that "every family has a sutra that is difficult to recite." People and wealth are not prosperous. As long as there are people, there is a world. Poverty is temporary. As the wind and water turn, there will always be a day of prosperity.
If you don’t visit relatives or attend relatives’ weddings and banquets because you are poor, that means cutting off contact with relatives. What should you do if you are a direct relative? Ask your relatives how to evaluate you, and your relatives will definitely not think that you cut off contact because you are too poor to pay for gifts. If it's a neighbor's or ordinary friend's wedding banquet, it doesn't matter if you don't go. If you have no energy to attend the wedding banquet, it's called making a fool of yourself, losing face, and losing money. If you don't make it, others will make fun of you, and you are trying to take advantage of others. banquet.
Real relatives will not look down on poor relatives. Only distant relatives who are more than three generations have been disconnected. If there is any trouble, contact will be cut off. This is a real situation.
No matter how poor you are, you should keep close contact with your true relatives and keep in good contact with them. Don’t cut them off abruptly, lest your relatives come to criticize you!