What is the concept of "being in charge"?
Rainwater can flow into the pond smoothly; In the dry season, we will take water from Tangkou canal or pump water with mechanical wells, so as not to worry about irrigation water. Such a pond is called the main pond by the villagers.
Dangjiatang
□ Li Lei
Rural people can't live without a backbone, and this backbone is the master. If the woman is in charge in a family, then the child is the second in charge and the man is the third in charge. The man introduced his wife to the outside world: "This is my wife, master." With this introduction, there will naturally be no quarrel at home.
The master, as the name implies, is the head of the family, who not only controls the right to speak at home, but also dominates the political, economic and reproductive rights of the family. For example, the master said, "I'll give you 100 yuan. You can buy three pounds of meat for my mother, two packs of cigarettes for my father and a bottle of fragrant incense for me." Then you have to buy it like this. There's nothing wrong with that. For example, the husband said, "I'm going to have a baby in the second half of the year. From today on, you should quit smoking and drinking, stay up late, get up early and get up late to exercise. " If you don't agree, then you can try. When a child is born, if the child doesn't eat Chili, the hostess usually slaps him: "Give it to me quickly. Eating spicy food can make the decision. You can't eat spicy food. When you grow up, you won't be blank with your father. You are all afraid of your wife. "
The life of rural people is more traditional, and there are many primitive worships, including parents' worship. When her daughter was about to get married, her mother said to her earnestly, "When you sleep at night, you must cover your mother's quilt on it." Whoever covers the quilt on it is the master. " That's what the man's mother said. Be sure to put the quilt on it so that you can live without getting angry after marriage. There was a rural couple who quarreled the next day after they got married. It turned out that the quilt was built by the man's house the night before, but it was secretly changed by a woman at night. Raw rice has been cooked, men have to admit their cowardice, and women have begun to be masters of their own affairs. The woman said, "Empty the urinal quickly, and relatives will come to see us soon." That's what all men do. After returning home for three days, the woman said to her family and village girlfriends: This is my second husband. The boy knelt down. The bride's family felt ashamed, praised her daughter's ability to meet people, and pawned her home just after the door.
In Li Zhuang, the word "master" has the same value and weight as gold. Li Zhuang is called the head of the family, not the parents, but the master. Two children fight, one gets punched, the other kicks, and the two adults judge together. If Party A takes charge and Party B leaves it alone, Party A will say to Party B, "What you said is to put lime on your mouth, but it's no use talking about it. Go back and call the master. " When the two heads of families arrive, if they still can't solve it, they will find the heads of families. But the patriarch is not called the patriarch, but the master. Of course, the level of being a master is much higher, and we must come up with a compromise plan to safeguard the interests of the family. The loser quit and ran to the village head. The village head is not called the village head, but the head of the household. Masters are much more coordinated with such problems, and their mediation skills are not much lower than the international level. He can accurately find the weakness of the victim's family. He often suggests: don't all your cows have to be bred, and use his bulls in autumn; His bull seeds are good and are recognized by the whole village. I'll talk to his family, for free. That's how things are usually solved.
In short, small families should have small husbands, and everyone should have big husbands. If a person has not found a husband when he is old, it is really something that worries his parents. Isn't your product so ugly that you haven't found a buyer for twenty or thirty years? His parents must think so. In another case, the original owner ran away from home or went to the west, and the remaining one tried to find another owner every three to five years. On the table, some people say that a person's life is not rich; Privately speaking, a person is not even hot in bed, and his body is cold from black to bright all night.
In addition to being the masters of others, villagers also like to find something to be their own masters. When a man can't find a partner, it's no use asking others for help. He has to find something, usually the oldest locust tree in the village, and ask the old man to be his own master and get married. If you have a disease that the doctor can't cure, then find a fortune teller to pinch your bones and get to know the feng shui situation in your body. Recognize a river as a foster mother when it is short of water, and kowtow to the foster mother every time you cross the river. If you are short of gold, you will recognize that the wok is michel platini, and you will carry a michel platini when you go out of town. Villages in the north lack water, people live by water, villages are built around water, and all activities are carried out around water. Since ancient times, people like to climb a "water" relative, and they like to find this relative to save the scene when they encounter any disease, difficulty or disaster. The problem has been solved, which is undoubtedly due to water. If we don't solve it well, the reason will be more clear. If even the water can't be solved, who else can?
The water in the north is too small to become a lake, nor can it flow freely in the form of a river. Most of them exist in the form of ponds and waterstops. The water in the north is different from that in the south. If the Huaihe River is the boundary, the water south of the Huaihe River is soft, warm, light and cheerful. From birth to death, the same stream often crosses hundreds of streams and walks on Wan Li Road. The water north of Huaihe River is hard, cold and heavy, and likes to be silent and unhappy. Often the starting point is its end point, and it will not move for a lifetime. At four o'clock in the year, there is little rain to replenish the ponds in the north. They are consumed by evaporation and slow metabolism, and the minimum consumption is kept for many years. Sometimes, the amount of water in the pond remains the same for several years. If you take a bamboo pole, it won't increase an inch or decrease an inch. If poured out, there won't be many drops. The shapes of these ponds are round, square, oxhoof, crescent and gourd. Their names may be called Niutitang and Xinyuetang because of their shapes, Lijiatang and Xingjiatang because of their villages, Baxiantang and Longwangtang because of their legends, and Anfengtang and Xingfu Tang because of people's wishes. But in addition to these names, these ponds have a * * *.
Dangjiatang is generally located in the middle or south of the village. Located in the village, it is mostly used by several families. Everyone builds villages around the pond and prospers. Finally, the pond is surrounded by layers. The pond is hidden in the depths of the village, like the stomach of a cow and the water sac of a camel. Living by water is the most common way of life for northerners. Living in this way is not only convenient for taking water, but also conducive to mutual supervision and checks and balances on water use. For example, the Li family held more weddings this year, built more new houses and used more than half of the water in the pond. Then next year, the right to use water will be transferred to Wang Xing's family, and next year, it will flow downwards. Everyone takes turns to control the right to use water, which not only saves water, but also benefits the management and protection of water sources. Another location of Dangjiatang is just south of the village. Since ancient times, the south has been a place of honor and inferiority, usually a place to worship ancestors and gods, so water is also among them. People carry buckets to get water every day, and then retreat behind the pond to live. This life of opening the door to see the water has always been the unremitting dream of northerners. It can be said that there is a village where there is water and pond. Being in charge of the pond is the same drinking water source for people and livestock, a necessary element for the establishment of villages, and also the spirituality and soul of the thirsty northern land.
The role of the main pool is mainly reflected in the "main". Responsible for other ponds. In the rainy season, it is open-minded and accepts all rivers. Some wander, pass by, are excluded and expelled from other places, dragging their tired bodies, gathering in one place with tortuous experiences, calming their restless emotions and turbulent hearts, taking the pond as their home and living a quiet life. In the water shortage season, the main pond, like an old woman, plans and coordinates the distribution of water resources. If the adjacent ponds dry up, it will send a beam of running water across the river, leaving a breath of life for those ponds; If the seedlings of any land are thirsty, they will scramble to support them in different ways to solve the urgent needs of vegetation. But in the dry season, Dangjiatang will cut off its tributaries, just like an old tree, and will collect itself at the bottom of the pond, live within our means, haggle over every ounce, protect the creatures in the pond and stick to the final bottom line of the pond.
Dangjiatang will also take care of others. How many people and animals can be accommodated in each village, and the scale of development is not decided by people, but by the pond. When the village grows like a vine and the main pond is unable to supply, people will leave the village. They either choose a new pond, dig it wide and deep, and set up another portal; Either take your wife and children, leave your hometown and start wandering around. When the population of each family changes, it is also necessary to report to the pond manager. For example, some families marry their daughters-in-law, and after visiting the church, the newlyweds come to visit the pond; Newcomers sign up and apply for water for one person in the Dangjiatang. Every New Year's Eve, Dangjiatang has a holiday and leisure. If you want to get water from Dangjiatang, you must bring a string of firecrackers to Tangqian to set them off. First of all, please forgive Dangjiatang for carrying water to disturb his good dream and thank him for silently nourishing his family this year.
In Lizhuang, or because many women are heads of families, people usually regard the pond owner as a woman. Women, compassionate and short-tempered, are no exception. One year, during the drought, Zhuangli people carried water to water the land and even picked up the main pool. Just then, a fire broke out in the ancestral temple in the village. The fire started with the wind and burned half the village in an instant. At this time, some people thought that there was a puddle the size of a pot cover at the bottom of the main pond, so they rushed to the bottom of the pond to get water to put out the fire. But the water in that puddle can grow automatically and is inexhaustible, so the Zhuangli people saved the village by relying on that puddle.
Later, news came that a big river called Hui River, ten miles away, had dried up, and even the Huaihe River was missing a circle. It turned out that Party Tang Jia sympathized with the villagers, opened an underground passage and moved in to save water. The villagers lamented: Fortunately, they left a sigh of relief for Dangjiatang. If Dangjiatang dies, Li Zhuang certainly has no way out. Another year, in a village where many surnames live together, several families had an argument over water, and the feud of the last generations turned into a duel. When the winner raised his glass and sang a song to the pond, he suddenly found that the main pond was empty, and there was not even a fish and shrimp. It turned out that Dangjiatang was angry and all the shrimps, soldiers and crabs with it moved to other places.
Time flies, fleeting. Today, Dangjiatang is still lying quietly in the village, but people are gone. Zhongchun returned to the village, bowed to a relative in the grass, and then went to visit another relative Dangjiatang who raised me. I asked a fellow villager who was herding sheep: The whole village is empty. Where did everyone go? The villagers said: most young people have gone to work in cities; Old people either go to town to send their grandchildren to school or live in the soil. I asked the man who was in charge of my family around me: If someone is out of town and encounters anything urgent, difficult or dangerous, who will make the decision for him? The husband said, isn't it enough to have a daughter-in-law in charge? That sounds reasonable.
The writer is a member of the interview group of Bengbu Daily writers.