Families can also help each other.
A successful young female entrepreneur said when chatting with me, "My brother is so worthless. I have to buy him more houses in Beijing and help him get a wife. In the future, he can only rely on me. "
I said, "Your idea is terrible. This is typical of Jin Kemu! Your brother is the eldest son of the family, and the eldest son is wood, so it is necessary for your brother to stand on his own two feet while he is young. You should encourage him to start his own business. You are the daughter of the family, and you belong to gold. If you take care of everything at home and build a house for him to marry, that's gold taking the place of wood. Jin Kemu, it's dangerous. Your brother may be ruined all his life. Never lose hope. Your brother is worthless, can your father feel at ease? This is called wood can't make a fire. If the eldest son has ambition, it is called wood fire. Your father is not at ease, and your grandparents will not be very happy in their later years. This is because fire can't warm the soil. In this way, the family will always be unhappy and even sick. "
The relationship between family members can be summarized by five elements:
In a family, the elderly belong to the earth and are the main source of vitality. People often say that the advantage of family is to cheer up and be an old man who can give birth to everything; Father belongs to the fire, the main yuan god, when the ceremony is clear, he can guide everything; Mother belongs to the level, the main element is fine, she should take the responsibility of the whole family and support everything; The eldest son belongs to the wooden position, which is subjective. He should have a kind heart, not lose his temper, have ideas and be able to build everything. Everyone else in the family belongs to the golden position and is the master of love. They should be round, not gossiping and sharing everything. Only when people in the family adhere to their own standards and naturally have a rich family can they achieve the word "home" in the university.
Of course, some people will say that the situation of modern families is special, because they are all only children and have no brothers or sisters, and there are vacancies in gold or wood positions; Moreover, a family of three has no old people and no place for them. Some even have Dink (double income, no children) families and no children. What shall we do? In my opinion, if we only have one girl, we can put her on a wooden stand and she can stand very high. Now that men and women are equal, the only daughter must be able to stand on her own feet. The golden position can be held by a cousin or daughter-in-law or son-in-law; As for a family of three or a Dink family, I still prefer to have parents, parents-in-law, and other old people, but I don't live together. How can they be ignored? This involves a question of filial piety. A family of three or a Dink family with six parents who don't recognize or are unaccompanied is rare and certainly not very happy. A family is linked by various relationships and ties. The less ties there are, the more unstable they are. The rising divorce rate in modern society is also a reason.
If the relationship between so many people in the family is not handled well, the family will be in chaos. There must be patients in such a family.
Old people are in the soil, but many old people don't want to rest for a long time. They always like to meddle, especially to find fault with their daughters-in-law. This is called tuke water.
Daughter-in-law was grams, mother-in-law daughter-in-law discord, will inevitably tell her husband, blame her husband; In other words, if the husband is too brave and incompetent, the parents' yang fire will not rise. This is called water and fire.
When parents are bullied, it is inevitable that they will have a bad temper, and the younger generation in the golden position will be afraid; In other words, parents are too headstrong, feel good about themselves, worry about their children and do everything. It's called Hawkkin.
The second son, daughter and daughter-in-law in the family have become very disappointing, worrying that they are the eldest son of the eldest brother; In other words, these people on the golden throne are so brave that they occupy the position of the eldest son and let the eldest son be idle. These are all Jin Kemu. The eldest son was beaten, resenting the old man and not filial to him. This is another example of wooden soil.
When Clark goes, it is inevitable that the family will quarrel and have no peace. We often hear about wives and husbands, old people and children, children and parents, but this is not entirely superstition. It's just that it's not his birthday fault, but his personality. When you make a mistake, you must be in a bad mood. Someone must be ill.
How to adjust? In the process of chatting with patients, if people who persuade patients find that patients often talk about family affairs, they should guide them like this: Why is this son so filial when you are at home? How should a father behave? Is he kind? What is the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law? Is it unfriendly? If not, it is out of line, and the five elements are not correct! The five elements of the family are not correct, how can the five elements of the body circulate? How can you not get sick? So repent first.
Some people may say, "I'm right. My family's discord is all their fault. " Wrong again! It is still dangerous to see others' mistakes but not your own. We should quickly find our own shortcomings and find the advantages and benefits of others. In this way, the temperament can be melted, the mood will be bright, the heart will be bright, and the illness will be easy to get better.
Family discord is a hidden pain in many people's hearts. Physical illness is a hidden danger to many people. It never rains but it pours. Many people have both. Who has rationally thought about the connection between the two? I was ill at home in a daze, but I kept going to the hospital for treatment until I died. I didn't know the problem was at home!