"If I had known, I wouldn't have let her work in Shanghai": Young people in big cities are under great pressure to survive.
Since my sister told my parents the news of her love, my parents were surprised, happy and lost.
Of course, the surprise is that she has a date, and the loss is that her boyfriend is from other places.
Therefore, when my sister returned to Shanghai after the Spring Festival, my parents went to my uncle's house in Shanghai to pay a New Year call and "drop in" to see my sister as a boyfriend.
One: the living environment in big cities is cramped and too depressing.
The next afternoon, my parents rushed to my new home, and I teased how I came back so soon.
My mother said with a sad face, what is there to stay, or is it comfortable at home?
So my dad told me that my sister rented a house in the suburbs of Shanghai, which was just a single room with a bathroom and a small kitchen. There is no place to hang clothes, only 29 square meters, and it is difficult to turn around.
The monthly rent is 2800, and now her monthly salary is more than 6000. She still has to eat, wear and travel expenses, and there is not much money left. I really feel sorry for her.
When I arrived in Shanghai, I had dinner with my uncles that night. They wanted to go to the house rented by their sister.
When they arrived at the rental place, they saw a small room full of suitcases and sundries, which made the room even smaller.
In this case, my heart is really tight and I feel depressed and breathless.
The aisle is so narrow that you can barely walk alone. If two people face each other, you have to walk sideways.
In the evening, my parents crowded into my sister's 1.8cm wide bed, while my sister was thin and slept in the aisle with her sleeping bag prepared in advance, so the three of them slept all night.
Another point that parents are not satisfied with is that my aunt entrusted her cousin's work to Shanghai years ago, so she asked her sister to take care of it.
But my sister didn't understand this meaning well, and she has been very upset and unwilling, afraid of spending money and trouble. During the Spring Festival, she complained about it to her parents.
So my parents did a lot of ideological work for her, thinking that my sister took it too seriously, didn't know the rules and was too stingy.
Although I have entered the society, I still can't get rid of my inner childishness. My dad joked: I really became a real Shanghainese.
But more often, they still worry. They feel that they can't always teach their sister how to behave, and society is at stake. They are afraid that their sister is too young, and the future road will not be smooth enough, and even hurt themselves.
In addition, in a big city like Shanghai, consumption is also high. My sister has only graduated for two years, and her salary is not high. She is reluctant to eat and drink at ordinary times, and people are getting thinner and thinner.
And living in such a cramped environment, it is inevitable that the mood is not spacious, the work pressure is high, and things are easily blocked in my heart, which is really worrying.
Two: How big is the marriage test for people from different regions?
I was embarrassed to hear that, so I quickly changed the subject and asked my sister's boyfriend.
As a result, my parents were silent for a while and their faces got worse.
My mother said first, to be honest, she was really dissatisfied. That place is too far away. People are tall, but too thin.
My dad picked up his cell phone and showed me the photos his sister sent him. I looked at them. They were all tall and handsome.
After talking to my parents, I also know that my sister's boyfriend is from Anhui, my father is a middle school teacher and my mother is a full-time wife.
Moreover, we are located in a fourth-tier city in Zhejiang, and the place is fairly developed. Although my parents have no education, they are hardworking and capable, and they also earn a little petty.
Although my sister and her boyfriend are determined to buy a house in the suburbs of Shanghai, even in the suburbs of Shanghai, the housing prices in this place are really beyond the reach of ordinary people. At present, a house of almost 90 square meters costs about 4 million.
My sister also praised her for saving 200,000 yuan before she turned 30.
With the joint efforts of two people and the support of their parents, they can always make up enough money for down payment and decoration.
Although the house price has dropped now, it is a first-tier city after all, and no one can predict the future situation.
As an ordinary employee, the income will never be comparable to the future rise. Reality is still skinny after all.
Besides, their marriage is not a mystery.
My parents are always worried about my sister, whether I am married or living in Shanghai.
For example, different regions, different customs, and various trivial things may become a straw to crush each other's lives, and the road ahead is unknown.
After the Chinese New Year, there is a hot topic on the Internet, that is, going to her husband's family or her mother's family for the Chinese New Year, which has become the reason why many couples get divorced with high votes.
What's more, the situation in these three places is the same as theirs, which is really difficult for both parents.
The house is too small to live in, and the big one can't afford it.
In addition, most ordinary women are always in a weak position when and where, without the support of their relatives, they can only submit to humiliation.
Children's unhappiness, as parents, is also the most helpless and sad, because no matter how old, children will always be children and their own bones and muscles, which will affect the whole body.
And two years ago, my parents decided to buy me a house when the housing market in this city was in a downturn.
My cousin is also a salesman in the sales office and has many houses. As for the room type, my father is an architectural major.
So it took them less than two weeks to find me a three-bedroom suite with 12 1 m2, two bathrooms, two balconies, two stairs and three households on the first floor.
Although there is a pool area, the house is bright and large. At that time, I started immediately after reading it, only 4,900 was less than one square meter, and the down payment was only 280,000.
So I am afraid that the prices of building materials and decoration will rise as usual after the Chinese New Year. After we got the key, we quickly decorated it.
Decoration materials are friends and suppliers that my father has known for many years, so the price is much cheaper than others.
The decoration has been installed for almost five months, and it has been left for half a year. Finally, a year ago, I successfully moved into a new house and lived a free life.
Nowadays, the house price is like a roller coaster, but my house valuation is still maintained at 9000 yuan per square meter, which is the most cost-effective investment my parents have ever made.
Because I work in a foreign company in my hometown, in addition to mortgage, monthly salary and welfare subsidies. Although not as good as my wife's business, plus wealth management income, the overall income is not bad.
And there are many small and medium-sized enterprises, self-employed and foreign companies here. As long as they have the ability, many people have high incomes. As a local, the family always has a care in life.
My parents also regret it very much now. At the beginning, they had my sister put into a local design institute.
However, it never occurred to me that my uncle put my sister's work in Shanghai into practice and entered a design studio. At that time, he was also proud and happy that his sister was going to Shanghai.
But now all the year round, except for the National Day and the Spring Festival, the communication between parents and sisters can only be through WeChat video chat. My mother regrets that she should not have been allowed to work in Shanghai if she had known this.
With the growth of age, even if parents have a strong posture, they will become more and more lonely, fragile and dependent on their children, because their hearts and bodies are old.
Three: the mixing method in big cities is professional technology. Whether you mix well or not has become an inner mirror.
Actually, I still regret not working in a big city. After all, the people and the world that big cities contact are never accessible to small places.
Just like a beautiful scenery. If you only look at photos, you will never realize their true beauty.
Therefore, for me, a person who has never been in a big city seriously, at most, travels occasionally, without feeling too close to the skin, and can't appreciate the beauty or sadness of a big city.
So I turned to ask Xiao Yang, a colleague who has been in Shanghai for two years, why did he come back from Shanghai? Big cities are not good?
Xiao Yang told me seriously, but big cities are really good, so do you know how good big cities are and how cruel the survival of the fittest is?
Of course I don't know, but I think more people will make progress and work hard in the tense atmosphere of big cities.
Otherwise, when my sister first went to Shanghai, she always felt uncomfortable going back to her hometown. But three months later, she said that big cities were the best, and even because of the influence of people around her, she was determined to take root in Shanghai and buy a house.
But Xiao Yang didn't think so, and told me another truth: in a place like Shanghai, there is never a shortage of young people with academic qualifications and ability, and a large number of young people flock to big cities every year.
Because of this, you can imagine what it will be like for so many outstanding young people to take root in Shanghai, whether they are working or starting a business.
Needless to say, the workplace, but every enterprise or office will have a fight.
Either the intrigue is more turbulent, or the comfort is more marginalized, and then they become ordinary old people in the workplace, but the risk factor is higher.
Although the salary looks high, the rent, expenses and investment in big cities are also relatively high.
Influenced by the environment of big cities, many girls can't afford to buy a house, so they want to buy luxury goods and package themselves with famous brands to catch the rich, and many of them are more and more interested.
However, more and more people eventually become invisible poor, and there are too many people with bright surfaces.
Or like my cousin, because of work reasons, the circle and interpersonal relationship are single, and many people become otaku and otaku, and eventually become fat houses.
When I come back from work every day, most people are faced with the scene of renting a house in groups or a small single apartment. What kind of mood will it be, from loneliness to habit?
It is even harder to start a business. Office rent, utilities, employee salaries, project competition, network development, venture capital and so on are all more expensive than ordinary places.
Unless you are a rich second generation, or a financial liar, you will be blown up, otherwise the hardships of ordinary people's entrepreneurship will not even be counted as the beginning of Ma Yun.
So if you can't make money in a big city for a few years and come back to work or start a business in a city like ours, can you keep up with the environment of local characteristic industries?
What she said also has some truth.
But everyone has a dream of great future more or less, and the prosperity of big cities is always fascinating.
For many people who want to pursue their dreams, it is also an indelible experience to go to a big city for development or experience.
Nowadays, both young people and middle-aged people in big cities are facing the test of survival pressure.
No matter whether you have been in a big city or not, as long as you have pursued it hard, you will not be against your will, regret or lose, and you will also give yourself a happy account.