The ending of "Everything is OK" is actually like this, and the reconciliation with "Origin and Death" is actually like this.
Su Daqiang, an old father who had been doing various jobs before, began to have symptoms of Azhamo himself after witnessing his old friend Nie's stroke. Normal things, all kinds of amnesia, but the tearful plot of suddenly coming out to buy exercise books for my daughter Su Mingyu. Then Su Mingyu was actually moved. Su Daqiang made a will and gave all the money to her second brother Su Mingcheng. She didn't complain, and even quit her super-high-paying job, willing to go home and take care of Su Daqiang.
No wonder @ Deng Deng's one-week short comment on Douban: "It's annoying to see such a story of son preference and reunion" was clicked 1339, which shows that many viewers really don't like this ending.
@' s Samsung film review Jingjing Jingjing said:
I couldn't accept such a disgusting ending, so I went to search the original book and found that the real ending of Everything is OK was not like this at all.
What is the ending in the original?
It was Su Mingyu who married Shi Tiandong, but Su Mingcheng still failed to "psychologically wean" after getting Su Mingyu's help. It was Su Daqiang who spent the New Year alone and wanted his son to pay for books. As a result, he ate his stomach and pulled a room full of smelly shit, so Su Mingzhe had to direct Su Mingyu to clean it up in the United States. ...
In this seemingly more realistic ending, Su Mingyu didn't reconcile with Evil Descendants.
Finally, although Su Mingyu was forced to take Su Daqiang to live in her seaside villa, she has clearly realized that "family ties can't be taken away. Let's communicate as lightly as water. She doesn't hold out much hope and hates it. Just do what you want, and she and Shi Dongpo will be happy. "
I like this real ending, because reconciliation with my family is not important, but reconciliation with myself is important.
There are several keys to Su Mingyu's reconciliation with himself.
The first key is that Su Mingyu realized that she has almost become the same person as her mother Zhao Meilan.
In the play, Su Daqiang, after being growled by Su Mingyu, points out that Su Mingyu is her mother Zhao. This accusation scared Su Mingyu silly. What she hates most in her life is her mother Zhao, but she unconsciously becomes the same person as her mother.
In the original work, Su Mingyu has this reflection:
When Su Mingyu realized the existence of reincarnation, she could jump out of it.
Mr. Shen Jiahong, the chief psychologist of Guangzhou Baiyun Psychological Hospital, also pointed out in his book "Born into a Family: the Motive Force Affecting People's Life":
People's inheritance will be influenced by family dynamics, so there will be two situations: refusing to inherit or contacting parents. Some people who can communicate with their parents unconsciously become the same people as their parents, and some grow up, get married and have children and become independent individuals. Those who have problems with their parents may refuse to get married or are unwilling to have children after marriage.
To jump out of the influence of family motivation, one is to see and see clearly the motivation of family background. The other is to accept and accept the influence of family motivation on oneself. Then, there is the possibility of reconciliation with yourself.
The second key is to realize that you have become a strong person.
Both the TV series and the original work mentioned that Su Mingyu told his own story when he helped Manager Cheng and Manager Zhou to resolve conflicts.
Su Mingyu said that she once thought that she had offended the female boss, and afterwards she realized that "whatever I think is good, I will enthusiastically impose it on her, and I don't know the truth that bear's paw is like arsenic." Later, she worked hard to run the business, and gradually got promoted and made a fortune, becoming the boss of the boss of the female boss. The female boss needs a stable job, but she still has to be subordinate to her.
At this time, she turned around and realized, "First, I feel invincible. After going upstairs, my eyes are wide open and I don't care about trivial things; Second, I don't want to lower myself to the past level, and being scolded by a female boss is always petty; Third, I don't want the wind to make all the sails. Who knows if there will be a day of feng shui reincarnation, leaving a room for being a man is equivalent to leaving a room for yourself. "
This story is not only for Manager Zhou, but also for herself. So smart Su Mingyu naturally understands the pain of being trapped in a family and unwilling to come out.
When Su Mingyu no longer pretends to be a weak person and realizes that she has grown into a strong one, she can let go of her previous unwillingness and make a generous reconciliation with the weak.
The third key is Shi Dong's successful demonstration and the warmth of unconditional love.
In the TV series, Shi Dongpo's lines were deliberately weakened, and Shi Dongpo was portrayed as a dull person. In the original work, Shi's father died young and his mother remarried. He also grew up with the pain of being born in a family. But Shi Dongpo is optimistic and loving, melting the ice in Su Mingyu's heart like sunshine. Only when people like Shi Dongpo successfully demonstrate Su Can Mingyu's reconciliation with himself.
Shi Tiandong can always make all kinds of delicious food to fill Su Mingyu's empty stomach and soul, pull her to contact the novel world, and let her see that there is a harmonious family and unconditional love in this world. How can Su Can be indifferent to Mingyu?
For example, Shi Tian East arranged a seven-day Mid-Autumn Festival holiday for Su Mingyu, a workaholic:
On the first day, I searched for the source of the city's mother river with my friends and lived in a farmhouse. The next day, I breezed over a mountain and had a barbecue. On the third day, another group of people went to the island to fish and eat seafood, stayed at fishermen's houses, continued on the fourth day and came back on the fifth day.
For another example, the relationship between Shi Dongpo and Su Mingyu is like this:
Two people each have a computer. Shi Dongpo sits on the bed and draws up his menu. Mingyu sits at the table and does her work. Occasionally, she gets together and looks at another one in the room. The house can be seen at a glance, and it is very happy.
Most importantly, Shi Dongpo and Su Jia Sanxia are completely different people. He is broad-minded and devoted to Su Mingyu. The weakening of Shi Dongpo's emotional line in the play may be a dramatic choice, but it also makes the happy ending very unreasonable.
Without a process full of love and joy, how can one achieve a happy ending?
The TV series "Everything's OK" really pokes a lot of relationship problems in family reality. But it also reminds us that as an independent individual, we must have a sustained and stable income to ensure a happy life for ourselves and our families; You should know how to love yourself and others, so that you won't be lonely during the Spring Festival. You must learn to go into battle lightly, jump out of the endless cycle of the weak, and make yourself a strong person with the ability to help others.
Only in this way can we truly "everything is fine".