What is the difference between "getting married" and "getting married"?

Xiao Zhang graduated with a master's degree and his wife graduated with a bachelor's degree. Two people are free to fall in love and get married. They got married without a grand wedding or a dowry. After the marriage, the young couple both went to work. Of course, Xiao Zhang earns more than his wife. Two people usually live in harmony, but sometimes they quarrel. Once a young couple quarreled, Xiao Zhang's wife suddenly said, "I married you, not you!" " "Zhang froze. Afterwards, he asked his wife curiously, "Is there a difference between' marriage' and' marriage'?" The wife plausibly said, "Of course. Marriage is a combination of two people who want to live together forever because of the sublimation of their feelings. To say' marriage' means that two people are equal, both are family members, do not divide their work, earn money and keep the house. If you can't feel happy together, you don't owe anyone to each other, you can choose to let go, and everyone is relatively independent. " "Isn't it the same to say' marry'?" Xiao Zhang asked. The wife shook her head and said, "That's different. I say' marry' because the concept is old, and I feel a little patriarchal. The old concept of marriage is that men earn money to support their families and women have children to support their families. A woman's "marriage" means she becomes a man's family. For example, connecting one branch of a plant to another branch is called "grafting" According to the feudal patriarchal clan system, the wife takes her husband as the key link, and she becomes your vassal and your property. In this case, you can only marry the chicken and follow the chicken, and marry the dog and follow the dog. If the marriage is unhappy, you can't divorce. " The above story shows that in the real society, when it comes to the marriage relationship between men and women, the terms "marriage" and "marriage" will cause different repercussions among some people. So, does Xiao Zhang's wife's view conform to the fact of China? Usually marriage is relative, so is marriage. Next, analyze these four words respectively. The word "marriage", "Shuo Wen": "Marriage, wife's family is also. Ceremony, marrying a woman will make you faint. Women are also yin, so marry them. Marriage, in-laws also. According to this explanation, "marriage" refers to the wife's family, which is named after the wedding is held at night. Ancient books sometimes directly write the word "marriage" as "faint". The wife's family is headed by the father and is the representative of the family, so "marriage" also refers to the father. Er Ya: "A woman's father got married." "Explain the name and release the relatives": "When a woman's father gets married, her husband greets her with faintness, and the night always takes faintness as a gift. "The antonym of' marriage' is' marriage'. Shuowen: "Marriage leads to the husband's family. Because of women, it is called marriage. From the female, from the cause, from the sound. "Erya:" The father of a husband is marriage. " Accordingly, "marriage" refers to both the husband's family and the husband's father. This word is actually the word "because", which means obedience and obedience. It means that the man is the dependence of the woman, and the woman must obey the man. According to the above explanation, "marriage" refers to the woman's family or her father, named after the wedding is held at night; Marriage "refers to the man's family or father, and it is the woman's dependence to be named after the man." Together, these two words are equivalent to "in-laws" or "children's in-laws" in modern Chinese. According to Records of Historical Records of Xiang Yu, in the "Hongmen Banquet", in order to ask Xiang Bo for help to solve the contradiction between him and Xiang Yu, Liu Bang "married" Xiang Bo who came to report him, in fact "married his parents-in-law" and married their children. From this point of view, although "marriage" and "in-laws" are used separately or separately, they generally do not distinguish between men and women (such as "marriage", "marriage" and "in-laws"). The words "marriage" and "marriage" do not distinguish between men and women. But the idea that men are superior to women is still obvious. This is most obvious from the word "marriage": the reason why "marriage" is named is because the man depends on the woman, and the woman must obey the man. The word "marry", "Shuo Wen": "Marry, take a wife. "refers to a man getting married and bringing a woman to get married. It is quite common to write "marriage" directly as "take" in ancient books, so "marriage" means "take". The word "take", "Shuo Wen": "take, catch, take. The word "from, from the ear" together means cutting the ear by hand. In ancient times, we had to cut off the head or left ear of the enemy's body to calculate the credit; When hunting, you treat your prey like this. " In the twenty-second year of Zuo Zhuan, Xi Gong: "Those who are shocked today are all my enemies. Although it is related to Hu, if you get it, you must take it. Why is it twenty cents? "'capture' means cutting off the head or left ear after catching the enemy." Zhou Li: "The big beast is public, the bird is private, and the winner takes the left ear. "It is cruel and violent to cut off the head of a prisoner or prey, or to cut off their left ear. Using this word to represent a man's marriage shows that China experienced the stage of "robbing marriage" in ancient times, which is the residue of female prisoners captured on the battlefield. " Marry ","Shuo Wen ":"Marry, women are suitable for people. " "Marriage" is "home". Marriage means that a woman goes to a man's house, a woman is homeless, and a man's house is her home. Therefore, the ancients said that "men take women as their rooms and women take men as their homes". When a woman marries, she returns home, which is what the Book of Songs refers to. The Chinese character "home" has "rice" on it, which represents a house and is real estate; The "tapir" mentioned here is a pig and a movable property. It can be seen that "home" must be based on private property. When a woman gets married, she has a home, which means she becomes a man's private property. In this way, whether it is "marriage", "marriage" or "marriage", it is based on the premise that men are superior to women. This is because the marriage based on getting married comes from the male-dominated gender structure. This has not changed so far. Of course, with the improvement of women's status and the deep-rooted concept of equality between men and women, more and more people have abandoned the old concept that men are superior to women. This change in concept may be reflected in the use of words, just like the story told at the beginning of the article. Ps: The word marriage in ancient China originated from "unconscious reasons." Faint "was originally a concept of time, meaning" two and a half minutes after sunset ". Because "the marriage ceremony lasts for a period of fainting", that is, the wedding will be held at dusk, it has evolved into a behavior concept. According to Shuowen, "cause" means "positive". Because "the husband is faint, the wife will go because of it", so "the husband is faint, the wife is because of it". That is, the formal establishment of the relationship between husband and wife is called faintness for the husband and cause for the wife. From the composition and related explanations of this word, at least the following two points can be seen: first, "marriage" is a necessary behavior for a man and a woman to get married; Second, it is a combination based on husband, and men are in a dominant position, so women must follow men. This concept runs through the whole ancient society of China.