"My mother has no obligation to help you with your children." The wife asked three questions. Why was the husband speechless?
But now the pressure of life is so great that the couple need to pay a lot of energy and financial resources to raise their children, which often makes the young couple feel at a loss.
Many couples are busy every day. If they want to live well in this society and give their children a better education and future, parents must pay a lot.
However, to earn money, there is not so much time to take care of children.
Therefore, more and more small families need the support of their parents from time to time, which has also become a reason for the deterioration of the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.
Of course, the mother-in-law has no obligation to help with the children, but is it more conducive to the future development of a family to help within her ability?
Xie Yutong is very dissatisfied with her mother-in-law, who has always been good at getting along with children.
The thing is, Xie Yutong and her husband Wen Liming began to get pregnant after they got married. After all, they are not young.
Xie Yutong, who knows that it costs a lot of money to train a child, has been sticking to his job and dare not slack off.
Even if she got pregnant later and her stomach was too big to walk, she still went to work until one month before the due date.
But now that maternity leave is coming to an end, the child is still young and must be taken care of all the time. Xie Yutong doesn't want to give up his job. After all, she has always been a very capable woman, and the money she earns every month is comparable to civility. She doesn't want to be a stay-at-home mother, so she needs someone to take care of her children.
Xie Yutong's parents are not in this city, but still at work. They only have time to look after their children on weekends.
On the contrary, my mother-in-law is retired now and has a lot of free time to use, so she offered to help her look after the children. She explained that she only needs to watch it during the day and bring it when she gets off work at night.
Although this request is reasonable, Xie Yutong still feels a little embarrassed to take up her mother-in-law's time, so she proposes to give her mother-in-law 3000 yuan every month in the future.
But her mother-in-law flatly refused, saying that she wanted to retire and didn't want to be disturbed by junior students.
Xie Yutong was a little anxious, and went to the door at two ends in three days to trouble her mother-in-law to reconsider. She modestly said all her good words, and her mother-in-law didn't refuse. She thought it was solved.
But she didn't expect that her mother-in-law turned around and went to Wen Liming, saying that she had worked hard for most of her life and finally reached the age of receiving a pension. It's time to live a wonderful life of traveling and dancing with her sisters. I didn't expect her daughter-in-law to play her mind and want to kidnap her pension with her grandson.
Wen Liming, who was originally in favor of her mother-in-law taking care of her children, felt that every sentence made sense after listening to her mother's words, and felt that the couple really shouldn't do this, causing such great trouble to the elderly.
Wen Liming lost his temper when he got home, saying that Xie Yutong was not sensible. No one took the child, so he asked Xie Yutong to resign and go home to take it himself. He even told Xie Yutong: "My mother has no obligation to help you with your children."
Xie Yutong didn't expect to be taught such a lesson by Wen Liming. She was so angry that she even asked Wen Liming three questions that Wen Liming was speechless.
She asked, "Can you afford the children alone?"
Xie Yutong simply calculated the cost from pregnancy to now, and the figures that the child may use in the future. It is difficult to raise a child on one's salary, not to mention that the couple still need money, and she has to go to work to share the economic pressure.
She asked again, "Before I took maternity leave, I always took care of my children by myself. You haven't had a day off. Now I have to get back to work. Does your mother help me with my children or help you? "
During confinement, my mother-in-law said that she would travel with her sisters and had no time to look after Xie Yutong's confinement. Later, Xie Yutong's parents paid for it, and she went to the Yuezi Center near her home.
Except after confinement, she never bothered her mother-in-law, even if she was too busy to eat.
The child is not her own, and both of them have the responsibility to take care of the child, while Wen Liming has never taken care of the child and never fulfilled his obligations as a father and a father.
Every day when he comes back from work, he falls asleep. My mother-in-law seems to be helping her now, but she is actually helping Wen Liming to do her duty. Besides, she also promised to give her mother-in-law 3000 yuan a month, which is actually equivalent to paying her salary. And she just hopes that her mother-in-law can help take care of her children on weekdays and take care of herself at home on holidays. Xie Yutong ask yourself too much.
Finally, she asked the most helpless question in her heart: "Your mother has no obligation to take care of the children, that's fine. Don't I have an obligation to support her? "
Xie Yutong said that if her mother-in-law really doesn't want to take care of her children, she won't be forced, but her mother-in-law will get sick when she is old, and Wen Liming is too busy to take care of her. Even if Wen Liming begged her, she wouldn't take care of her mother-in-law, let alone provide for her old age.
The law does not stipulate that a daughter-in-law must support her in-laws. Since mother-in-law stood by when she needed it most, don't expect her to support the elderly in the future.
After Xie Yutong finished, Wen Liming couldn't refute, and all kinds of reasons in his stomach were untenable. Wen Liming felt that what Xie Yutong said was more convincing and more in line with their current situation. They all have to work and really need their mother-in-law's help.
Of course, Xie Yutong also promised many times that if her mother-in-law is willing, she will do her best to be filial to her mother-in-law when she needs it, so that her mother-in-law can live a carefree life in her later years.
Later, Xie Yutong also analyzed the pros and cons for her mother-in-law. Even though her mother didn't want to live in retirement, she nodded in agreement.
As the saying goes, "I haven't seen my mother-in-law for ten years, and I haven't seen my daughter-in-law for ten years." For a daughter-in-law, it is no less than the support of parents. Naturally, a daughter-in-law will try her best to be filial to her mother-in-law because of gratitude. Isn't this a much-told story?
Of course, the mother-in-law also has the right to refuse her son and daughter-in-law, but the wind and water turn around. One day, she will need the help of the younger generation. Don't regret your tough refusal now, which will make life difficult in the future. At that time, no matter how hard we try to make up for it, it will not change the hearts of the younger generation.
Of course, the mother-in-law has no obligation to help her daughter-in-law with her children, and the daughter-in-law has no obligation to support her in-laws.
Can get along with people, don't you give me a foot and I'll pay you back? Mutual respect is the premise.
If the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law can understand each other and look at the problem from each other's point of view, don't be so aggressive, I believe that the problem of mother-in-law and daughter-in-law will no longer be a problem.