Reflections on the "Liu Xue Incident"
When I talked about life with my friends before, I always said that people who commit suicide don't respect their own lives and won't respect others' lives. Until I saw Liu Xue's "suicide note", I suddenly had doubts about my once absolute views. Maybe we can't generalize. A teenager has his own life and a happy home he wants, which makes this child who should be sunny and happy for various reasons.
"The sun shines on the sea, and I also belong to the sea. Ending my life from here also took away the most beautiful scenery in the world. " He still hasn't given up his pursuit of a better life.
When I was a child, I was sold by my biological parents for a bride price. When I first heard about it, I was personally shocked. How can there be such a thing in this world? How hateful it is to have children without raising them!
The concrete content of Marxism includes dialectical materialism. The most basic requirement of dialectics, in the most popular words, is mutual and mutual, which is not only reflected in the social system and the principle of doing things, but also in all aspects of ordinary people's lives.
For children, parents should be grateful for their kindness in raising children, and they should know how to be filial and support their parents. The law also stipulates that it is their obligation to support their parents. For parents, they either choose not to have children. Since you choose to have children, you should at least raise them as adults. The law also stipulates that parents' obligation to raise minor children is unconditional. This is at least the simplest dialectics that children and parents should know.
It's hateful to have children without raising them. It is illegal to choose to sell when you can afford it, just in exchange for the so-called bride price. What qualifications do such parents have to be parents?
My adoptive parents died when I was only four years old. Maybe I was traumatized when I was a child, and I went to boarding school in the second grade. In this case, an adult will feel lonely, let alone a child. Along the way, I was helpless at school, and I also suffered all kinds of cynicism from my classmates and perverted indecency from male teachers. What kind of power do you expect from a child who has no sense of belonging, his parents died since childhood and has been suffering from various school bullying?
Take the simplest example: A few years ago, there was a video comparing Japanese primary school students in China, all of whom "vaulted" on the physical education class. A child in China class didn't jump over, so all the children in the class laughed at him "hahaha", and even a few of them were contemptuous, including the teacher who smiled and said nothing; Watch Japanese class again. When a child didn't jump, all the children in the class gathered around and said "Come on" to him, including the teacher.
This is just a very small thing, and most people may think it's nothing. They may have experienced it since childhood, and I certainly have, but for me, I remember it when I was a child because I felt ashamed. Maybe some people are broad-minded, while others are narrow-minded. I belong to the kind of narrow-minded person who thinks a lot and cares a lot, including what others think of me. Open-minded people and cautious people need to understand each other more, and the team can be more United, as well as the "short board effect". Do you think you can tell a teenager to relax and not think too much? Do you think he can do it? He is just a child, a flower of the "motherland", and an age that needs care, encouragement and guidance.
Therefore, almost a lot of school bullying started from a very young age, both for the perpetrators and victims. But it is obviously unreasonable to simply ask an abused child to have a hard and strong heart, as mentioned earlier. Is the crux of the problem the perpetrator? Perhaps it is a question mark that he knew whether his behavior belongs to violence when he was a child, so the root of the problem lies in "education" (here "education" refers not only to education in books).
In recent years, China has been advocating "quality education", but where is the "quality"? Don't you still "score" first? We should not let "quality education" be just a slogan, but where are our actions?
By education, I mean "school education" and "family education". I don't think it matters. Both are equally important to a child's life. To make children have a correct understanding of the world, families and schools need to work together. This kind of effort should not only stay in what is visible in books, but also what is invisible in books (things in the heart), which requires family elders and school teachers to do their best for their children. Family and school should not shirk their education, but should understand and cooperate with each other. Isn't this a dialectical embodiment? Imagine if every child had a correct understanding of the world, would the situation in the video mentioned above happen?
Many people used to say that Japanese citizens have high quality because their undergraduate education rate is the highest in the world, while nearly 70% of netizens in China have non-undergraduate education. But personally, I think there may be a small but not much essential connection between the high quality of Japanese nationals and their education level. It is true that as we all know, even housewives in Japan may have graduated from famous schools such as Waseda, Keio and Tokyo University, and some even become monks or doctors, but are they generally of high quality just because of their academic qualifications?
When I was in college, a classmate always couldn't see that I was better than him in any way, so he always tried to secretly confront me in various ways. Basically, from freshman year, he saw a classmate who had a good relationship with me and always secretly arranged bad things about me with that person. Some words are told to others, and others tell me that I am particularly meticulous and easy to think. He was almost a thief in front of the teacher's leadership, and then he caused me all kinds of trouble. Of course. This kind of behavior may not have much influence just because it is in college, but if it is a primary school student, won't it be bullied? And I think jealousy can exist. Everyone secretly competes with each other and makes progress together, which is benign. But if the heart is dark and the mind is so dark that people stumble, is this person of high quality? Although you may study well.
Let me give you another simple example. I used to mention someone to my friends. His name is Shi Ping. I studied in high flyers at Peking University as an undergraduate, and was later sent by the state to study in Japan at public expense. What was the result? So an overseas student from China who was considered to have excellent grades simply joined Japanese nationality and changed his name to "Aso Shiping". Every day, all kinds of bad words about China are arranged in all walks of life in Japan. Before he became a big traitor, he was not the mouth of that China parent. What happened in the end?
Imagine, if families and schools really guide and choose the correct outlook on life, world outlook and values for children when they are very young, how can so many so-called "excellent talents" stay? If so, why are there so many school bullying incidents? Don't parents and teachers who only value "scores" deserve reflection? The involution of "China Education" should also be enough!
Therefore, it is often said that the quality of Japanese people is generally high because people with high education can wake up. The high quality of Japanese nationals is due to the efforts of not only schools and education departments, but also their families. What is "family style" and "national style"? In the final analysis, isn't it the "influence" education of the elders to the younger generation? The Japanese are also learning from China's ancestors. Why are we all left behind?
Although Zhou Xue has left, I still want to say a few more words. As Wang Xing said before, "If you reason with a layman (or an unreasonable person), you will only be a layman (an unreasonable person)." Perhaps, as mentioned above, a teenager who is still in adolescence may find it difficult to change the huge psychological pressure he bears.
Mr. Lu Xun also said that "silence is the highest contempt and telling the truth is the greatest courage."
I once advised myself that when I was unable to change some social events I hated, I chose to be silent and save my strength until I was able to change them. I didn't decide to write anything until I saw the news of his death and learned all kinds of things today. Most ordinary people have only two choices when they come to this world: "Obey fate or be led by fate", but Liu Xue still chooses to resist unfair fate in the end.
In fact, after reading Liu Xue's "suicide note", the first sentence that flashed through my mind was "Why do good people get bad news, good people leave this world, and evil people are still alive?" I was chatting with a friend today, and he mentioned that "human nature is evil", which is Xunzi's theory of evil nature. But I think whether "human nature is evil" or "human nature is good", human character is completely understandable in many aspects, but it does not mean that every aspect is good. Are you among your boyfriend and girlfriend, parents, in-laws, in-laws, colleagues, teachers and classmates? Liu Xue had to leave his savings to his grandparents and Shijiazhuang orphanage before he left. Can't this behavior make some violent netizens hiding in the corner of the internet put away your "dirty" face? Can't such a kind child shame parents who have no children? Isn't it enough for a child who has been subjected to all kinds of cold reception, obscenity and bullying since childhood to keep a heart of chasing the light and let those former abusers and abnormal teachers realize their mistakes?
Finally, I hope Zhou Xue can go back to his happy home and pray!