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How should a man be responsible for his family?

The formation of sense of responsibility is a sign of a person's maturity. Its first meaning is to be responsible for oneself, that is, to know how to respect one's feelings, to respect one's ideals, to cherish one's precious years and vitality of life, to make efforts to arrange real life from one's own perspective and from one's own ideals, to learn to restrain one's instinctive impulses and resist all kinds of temptations from the outside world, and the second meaning of responsibility is to be responsible for society in a complex environment, under the impact of success and failure, and in the experience of joy and pain. This is by no means the product of anyone's fantasy, but the embodiment of the evolution of human civilization. Man is a gregarious animal. People are animals, different from plants. Of course, creatures between animals and plants also exist, that is, there is no absolute thing in this world, only relative responsibility. In today's various social forms, because men occupy the active position in society, it can be said that men are controlling the whole world. In this case, men naturally shoulder more responsibilities, and people with a little thought will have a sense of responsibility. From an individual point of view, men need to have a sense of responsibility to create social value. Men belong to this society and belong to the dominant society. This is the sense of responsibility that a mature man should have. From the perspective of a small family unit, due to physiological and cultural reasons, a man bears the minimum family responsibilities. A man who has no sense of family responsibility can't really have a family, let alone do anything, because he doesn't want to take any responsibility. From a social point of view, men should have a sense of social responsibility, because they are in charge of the mainstream direction of the world. Edit this paragraph 1 the concrete performance of a responsible man. A responsible person always puts his career first. What is emphasized here is that rich people are not people with careers, but people with enterprising spirit. Men who love, adapt, have passion and take their work seriously have basically the same responsibilities for marriage and family. It is hard to imagine that a man who is lazy at work can still maintain lasting enthusiasm and eternal responsibility for love and family. A really good man has a successful career and a warm family. If you meet a woman who blindly pursues money and power, you can leave her. A responsible man, loving his parents is his greatest virtue. Knowing that parents work hard, knowing that they should honor their parents through their own efforts, and knowing that they can sacrifice their career or love for their parents, such a man is the most trustworthy. Few men can do this now, but there are many older "boys" who squander their parents' blood and sweat in order to please their girlfriends and win jobs, and then complain about their parents' wrong behavior. Remember, a real man will create the blue sky through hard-working hands, smooth the broad road through solid legs, and win the girl's heart through sincere heart! A responsible person dares to admit his mistakes and get up where he fell and start all over again. If you blame all your mistakes on bad opportunities, bad luck, meeting bad people, or even "you are not bad enough", it is not what a good person thinks. If you don't reflect on yourself correctly, you want to correct your mistakes through more wrong means. Then it is hard for me to imagine that his future marriage life is healthy, happy and stable. A responsible man is very cautious in love. I won't have a girlfriend easily, and I won't deal with several women. When you are not sure, you won't misunderstand the girl with ambiguous words. Once you are sure, you will be honest with her. Whenever you need it, I will help you by phone or text message. Even if he is busy, as long as he has a woman in his heart, he can show his love to others at any time with the convenient communication method now. ..... every phone call will be on time, and every date can't keep your girlfriend waiting for a minute (girlfriend is also on time). I mean, every time, whether it's raining or windy, no matter how inconvenient the journey is, even if we meet again after breaking up, we will stand in the rain in advance. A responsible and intelligent man will take out photos of his elderly parents and poor family when he starts to associate with the woman he likes. She not only expressed her thoughts frankly, but also wisely tested her girlfriend's character: if she turns away after reading it, then she is a mercenary; If she is moved by this frank and true nonverbal expression, then she is a sentimental person. He is willing to tell everything about himself to the woman he loves, instead of ignoring him when his girlfriend repeatedly questioned him. There are two possibilities to refuse to answer a woman's question: first, he has something to hide, and he must stabilize the woman before getting her; Second, he doesn't care about the woman, and thinks it doesn't matter whether she knows him or misunderstands him, because it doesn't matter much to him, because her reaction will not affect the handling and development of major events in his life. Either way, it shows that this man has no sense of responsibility. 6. A responsible man will put "sweet words" into action. It's a pity that there are two kinds of men in society now: one is "the giant of words and the dwarf of action", and the other is plain words and deeds, waiting for women to confess to him. In fact, in the new society, women can confess to men they like, which is neither humiliating nor degrading. However, the latter kind of men often think: when women pursue them, they will immediately think: Is there something wrong with this woman? I can't get married, so I can't have it! Men at both ends are not responsible men, only the middle is responsible men! 7. A responsible man will not overestimate his ability because of his high academic qualifications, nor will he belittle people with high academic qualifications because of his low academic qualifications, let alone belittle himself because of his high academic qualifications, and at the same time say that he can "become highly educated by some means" in the future. No matter how strong a person's social activity ability is, it is not excellent. A man with a normal mentality is not proud (even if he is rich, educated and powerful) and does not feel inferior (even if he has nothing at present, as long as he is correct, sincere and motivated). It is difficult for people with inferiority or pride to manage a simple and warm marriage life! 8. A responsible man will stick to his virginity until marriage. Sex is a very serious and pure thing. A man who is casual about sex is definitely not a responsible man. People are animals, but men with self-control and men who can control their behavior through rational judgment of the brain are higher animals. Such a man has a stronger sense and ability of marriage, family and moral restraint, and understands that the harm caused by extramarital sex to both parties is not a trivial matter. A man who has had sex before marriage is definitely more likely to cheat again after marriage than a man who keeps chastity before marriage (note: the same is true for women. A truly responsible man will not make excuses for his impulses. A man who really loves a woman will let his beloved woman leave good sex for marriage. Jia Baoyu is frivolous to many women in the Grand View Garden, but he can always "show love and stop ceremony" to his beloved Lin Daiyu and Qingwen, and it is the virtue of "clean and honest" of these two women that increases the weight of love in Baoyu's heart. The difference between liking and loving depends largely on sexual attitude. Only those who truly understand love can understand this.