In "Parental Love", why can An Jie be favored by Jiang Defu throughout his life?

If we say who is the most enviable woman in "Parental Love", it is undoubtedly Anjie.

In that era, many women in the same situation as Anjie did not live as happily as she did. In terms of Teacher Ge's personal conditions, she was not inferior to her in any way, but in the end, in order to survive, she had to marry Wang Debiao, who had bullied her. An Jie's sister, who has the same mother as her, has a much better temperament than An Jie, but she is not as happy as she is.

Anjie has lived a free life, doing whatever she wants. The most enviable thing is that she has a husband who loves her. Because of her husband's "protection", she has not been punished in any way. At that special period, An Jie, who was born as a capitalist, was able to meet the officer Jiang Defu, which can be said to be the luckiest thing in her life.

Although Jiang Defu had an ex-wife, she was only in name only. All his love was given to An Jie, who lived a plain and ordinary life on a small island. He has lived a life that most women would envy. It is not difficult to see that the relationship between two people is like a glass of fine wine, becoming more mellow as time passes.

In fact, whether a woman lives a happy life depends on marrying a good man. The more important reason lies in herself. As for Anjie, you may think she is a bit pretentious, but have you really seen her great wisdom in managing marriage? Looking through the entire TV series, it is not difficult to find that Anjie’s way of survival and the secret to a happy marriage stem from the following three good qualities.

First, know how to please yourself

Judging from the particularity of the times, the background of the capitalist girl An Jie is not particularly good. Being able to marry Jiang Defu is like marrying Cinderella. Rich family?. If a girl from a not particularly good background marries into a relatively high-ranking family, usually in this case, in order to survive, they may need to "please" their parents-in-law.

In fact, true love does not need to deliberately please others, everything should go as it is. To obtain happiness, it is more important to please yourself. Anjie is undoubtedly an example of this.

After marrying Jiang Defu, Anjie's life changed a lot. I used to be a pampered young lady, with a nanny taking care of me at home and not doing much housework. After getting married, many things have to be done by oneself. Even though life is like this, Anjie still hasn't given up his love for life.

When preparing to live on a backward and barren island, she did not forget to bring those exquisite cups with her. Jiang Fuhai laughed at her at that time, but Anjie never cared. No matter what others thought, she just wanted to live the way she liked. On the island, she often sat in the pergola with Teacher Ge and drank coffee, and her life was very pleasant. This also enlightens us that even if the environment is particularly bad, we must persist in facing it with optimism.

In addition, Anjie is not a person who does not know how to be satisfied. She does not have high requirements for life. She just hopes to live on a small island near the sea and live a comfortable life as a family. Anjie worked hard to manage his life according to what he thought and expected, and he really lived the life he had always dreamed of.

Second, know how to save face for men

When An Jie and Jiang Defu get along, most people see Jiang Defu doting on An Jie in every possible way. In fact, if you look closely, When two people get along, Anjie is the one who is measured.

When the two first got married, Anjie's attitude was always relatively strong, especially when it came to correcting her husband's bad hygiene habits. He really spared no effort in correcting his husband's bad hygiene habits. But when in front of outsiders, Anjie really gave Jiang Defu face, which Jiang Defu also felt deeply.

Her husband’s comrades came to play at home, and Anjie cooked a large table of delicious dishes herself, just like a virtuous little daughter-in-law. Even if he no longer dislikes Wang Xiu'e, he never shows it in front of outsiders. Even when I go to Lao Ding's house for dinner, I eat what she cooks, and I don't feel disgusted at all.

An Jie knows better than anyone else that Jiang Defu loves face more than anyone else. Sometimes, no matter how unhappy I feel, I won't embarrass my husband, especially when it comes to the issue of Jiang Defu's nephew. It’s really admirable how many women can be so knowledgeable!

An Jie is sincerely grateful to her husband Jiang Defu's family, even De Hua, who has caused many problems for him.

For no other reason than because the other party raised his children, especially in front of his old family, he actively protected Dehua, actively arranged for his sister-in-law's marriage, and prepared a rich dowry.

There are no couples who don’t quarrel. When a couple quarrels, they just talk too much, and anything they say carelessly can be very hurtful. Anjie has a clear understanding of this. When the two quarrel, they never touch her husband's bottom line and can shut up in time. In a certain situation, this general character also alleviated Jiang Defu's "trouble".

Third, insist on having a job

Anjie has always insisted that women should remain independent. Even if her husband has the financial conditions, he never gives up. When I am not on the island, I still work even if I am pregnant. For her, she is not her husband's vassal, she must have her own independent personality.

Don’t underestimate this job. It not only improved Anjie’s knowledge, but also gave her extraordinary eloquence. In some cases, things that Jiang Defu couldn't solve were easily solved by her.

Many women’s misfortunes began when they gave up their jobs and became full-time housewives. If you are not financially independent, you become a dependency of men. You often have no right to speak, and gradually lose yourself. If your contribution to the family is not recognized and respected by your husband and in-laws, then the rest of your life will be in sight. of despair.

An independent and confident woman will never place all her hopes on others. So, don't believe "I support you" gullibly, this is a very poisonous love saying.

Many people say that Anjie is so lucky to marry such a good man like Jiang Defu. In fact, how can he be the same for Jiang Defu? I am lucky to marry such a good woman like An Jie. The feng shui of a home is really inseparable from a wise woman.