How did Liang Shuming, a master of Chinese studies who was preparing to become a monk, play with flash marriage?
Liang Shuming was born in 1893, one year before the Sino-Japanese War. He is the same age as the founding leader Mao Zedong. Liang Shuming is a famous thinker, philosopher, social activist and patriotic Democrat in China. He is one of the early representatives of modern neo-Confucianism, and is known as "the last Confucian scholar in China".
Liang Shuming didn't intend to start a family at first, because he wanted to become a monk, worship the truth about the birth of Buddhism, fast and learn from Buddhism. He didn't get married and have children for nearly 30 years, and he became a "leftover man" carelessly.
Ten years after the Republic of China, that is, 192 1 year, Liang Shuming delivered a speech entitled "Eastern and Western Culture and Philosophy". He began to think about everything and wanted to get married and have children. After all, I am not a professional monk, but my hobby is related to Buddhism. In the end, his physical desire triumphed over his spiritual belief, but his secular desire and humanity were understandable.
Knowing Liang Shuming's wish, friends began to help fix him up. Liang Shuming's friend Wu Yongbo asked him what his mate selection criteria were. Liang Shuming's answer is simple, but not as simple as a woman's. Liang Shuming said that age, appearance and family should not be ignored, but they must be generous and kind.
However, it is impossible to be inclusive and lack super interests. If you only have super interests and lack courage, you can't be his wife. So, in a word, he is looking for broadness, vulgarity and courage. God, is this the standard for finding an old nun or an old nun?
Liang Shuming finally knew that such a person was hard to find, otherwise he really had to find a nun. So I added, it doesn't matter if I have the same talent as myself. Wu Yongbo's sad face suddenly lit up. He asked Liang Shuming, can he really be so thorough and simple? If this is true, there is a more suitable candidate at present, and that is Mrs. Wu Yongbo's sister Huang. Later, Liang Shuming was renamed Huang Jingxian.
The Huang family is the standard-bearer of the Han army in Beiping, and their ancestral home is Wu Zhi. Huang Jingxian's father, eldest brother and third brother have all passed away. The Republic of China gradually refused to hand in the national flag, and the family situation was very miserable. Huang Jingxian didn't go to school, just got a general understanding. She was 28 years old at that time. She never defined herself as a "leftover woman" and a "single aristocrat".
But Liang Shuming didn't like these banners and immediately expressed doubts about the woman introduced by Wu Yongbo. Wu Yongbo said that Huang Jingxian did not have the habit of being a flag bearer. They often meet. At this time, Liang Shuming proposed to meet first, get along well with friends first, and then talk about marriage. Wu Yongbo is stubborn about Liang Shuming, but he must find a way to let them meet first. Liang Shuming's heart is really big.
Finally, under the arrangement of Wu Yongbo, Liang Shuming met Huang Jingxian. Liang Shuming saw that she was dressed in rustic clothes and looked like a big man. She looks older than her sister, and men have no place to move. But the meeting was too hasty, and Liang Shuming agreed and got engaged.
Liang Shuming's decision shocked many relatives and friends. However, Liang Shuming also has his own views on this, and he also decided because of his fever. First of all, he can't grow his own grass or choose from the women he knows, so he can only make others pay attention to him. However, although there are many relatives, they are all related by blood, and no teacher or friend knows each other accurately. So the words of teachers and friends are more worthy of consideration.
Secondly, Wu Yongbo's words are credible and true. Even if more than half of Wu Yongbo's eyes are reliable, this woman has advantages. At the same time, Liang Shuming believes that if his father is still alive, he will agree with his son.
Finally, when we met that day, Wu Yongbo announced in advance that we were meeting to discuss the engagement. Now that a woman has erased this face, she will feel guilty about this woman if she doesn't get married. So I decided to get engaged now. From the perspective of human nature, Liang Shuming is really stupid and naive.
That year 165438+ 10/0/3, they got married. At that time, the woman was 28 and Liang Shuming was 28. After the marriage, Liang Shuming changed her name to Huang Jingxian, hoping that she would be sensible. Gradually, Liang Shuming also found that his new wife did not meet his requirements.
When she gets along with her sister-in-law, aunt or others, she is a little petty and often gets angry about small things. Liang Shuming loves reading by nature, while Huang Jingxian can't read many words and can't say a word. They often don't talk like each other and talk too much. So Liang Shuming's feelings for Huang Jingxian were ups and downs.
When I first got married, men and women had strong feelings and many things at home. All kinds of trivial things often make Liang Shuming angry. On the other hand, Huang Jingxian often hates Liang Shuming's capriciousness. He broke his word on everything and made up his mind. Liang Shuming himself admitted this.
Huang Jingxian is quite different. She will not please people for no reason, nor will she be greedy for vanity. Liang Shuming is ashamed of these two points. Liang Shuming is often praised and respected by relatives and friends, even those who have never seen him praise him. However, Huang Jingxian did not take him seriously, and even felt that he volunteered to exaggerate the ethereal, not very practical and honest, and his heart was just as fragile.
Huang Jingxian often criticizes Liang Shuming's shortcomings, which can be summarized into three points: First, Liang Shuming is too arrogant, too self-righteous and too confident. Of course, this is a common problem of scholars since ancient times, but Huang Jingxian is extremely dissatisfied with it. She thinks that you Liang Shuming have no reason to be proud, which shows that your virtue is not good.
Secondly, Liang Shuming is not loyal to others, but on the whole he seems to be loyal.
Another point is that Liang Shuming never admits his mistake and never looks back when he hits the south wall. He is too stubborn to listen.
Liang Shuming gradually discovered his kindness in the last two years of marriage, but it was too late.
1935, Huang Jingxian died in childbirth at the age of 42. Liang Shuming thinks that he can't be blamed for his wife's death. 1930 winter solstice 193 1 spring, Huang Jingxian gave birth to two children in succession and was very weak. He once said that there would be no regeneration, and Liang Shuming agreed at that time. So I didn't get pregnant for more than three years, but I was careless later.
Liang Shuming joked: "We have two sons, which is very satisfying, but I would rather have a little daughter to wait on me when I am old." So Huang Jingxian was pregnant again, but it was a pity that it was difficult to give birth. This time, she died of placenta previa. Liang Shuming regretted this and said that he would not remarry to show his loyalty to his dead wife.
However, loyalty still needs to be proved, and inheritance still needs to be married. Liang Shuming later married a wife named Chen Shufen. This is a good thing. Liang Shuming has no intention of getting married and becoming a monk. He not only married a daughter-in-law, but also said that he would not remarry after the original match and marry another one. We have no comment on this matter, it's a private matter. But I think what we should remember more is the great spiritual wealth that Liang Shuming left to future generations.