There is a kind of nostalgia called "friends who are not often contacted" in WeChat

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The night before yesterday, a WeChat friend H suddenly talked to me. H is my high school classmate and has been in my WeChat group for almost two years. We lost contact after graduating from high school. When WeChat became popular a few years ago, we added each other as WeChat friends, but we never exchanged a word.

H never posts to Moments, and never likes on my Moments. For a long time, I forgot that there was such a person among my WeChat friends.

H said, in fact, I haven’t talked to you because I feel that after so many years, you are so outstanding, but I have accomplished nothing. I don’t know what to say to you, but in my heart, I still think of you. As good friends, I hope you won't misunderstand me.

H has not been very happy for so many years and has experienced ups and downs. He also cares about the friendship between his classmates. They would often go out to eat and drink together, but he found that some of the friendship had already changed, and it was a little different from what he imagined.

H had mixed feelings. He said, I just got off the wine table today and drank some wine before I had the courage to say this. I feel that life has changed us all. I hope you don't mind.

I told him that I didn’t mind. Everyone is growing up and it’s normal for them to change with the environment. After all, over the years, everyone has completely different priorities in life and different routes. It’s okay. There are naturally fewer topics to talk about. We must accept each other's changes, and we must also believe that the friendship between classmates will not fade away over time.

And such a chat made me start to sigh. Although some people have never met each other in life and can no longer talk together, they are still missing in your WeChat. Reminds you of the past.

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Recently, it is said that WeChat will launch a new feature: friends who are not often contacted.

Through this function, you can better distinguish your circle of friends. WeChat lists the following three situations:

First: No single chat within half a year

Second: No social groups

Third : He or she has not replied to his or her circle of friends in half a year

This function may be able to delete friends who are not often contacted at once.

I don’t know if this feature will really be launched, but I know that I will definitely not use it. I am a person who has used my mobile phone number for more than ten years. There are still many friends from more than ten years ago in my mobile phone address book, many of whom I may not have contacted for a long, long time. I always wonder, maybe one day, they will contact me suddenly?

Some time ago, I met a classmate whom I had not seen for twenty years. The moment we hugged her, her eyes were moist. We talked about the past, and our former classmates seemed to have never been far away. However, there are a few classmates who cannot be found. Their mobile phones have been changed, and their QQ has also been changed. We miss them and look forward to the day when they will suddenly appear.

The same goes for WeChat. There is a kind of nostalgia for friends lying in WeChat who are not often contacted. Not contacting does not mean alienation. Maybe someone is paying attention to you silently, maybe you are also paying attention to someone silently, but you just don’t know where to start.

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I once wrote an article "Why you blocked my circle of friends, but I didn't block you" and said:

In You will meet all kinds of people in life, some are just acquaintances, some are just passers-by, some are just work partners, and only a few people can be the ones you talk to, accompany you crazy, and accompany you to laugh. , cry with you.

WeChat is no longer the simple private space it was at the beginning. Who doesn’t have hundreds of work partners on WeChat now?

In the past, when WeChat only had real friends, my circle of friends was very dynamic. I wanted to post to my circle of friends when I ate delicious food, took pictures of beautiful scenery, or even picked up leaves. I could post whatever I wanted. Don't worry about being disliked. I know that there are my real friends there, and they will understand my little feelings, and they will often post them and receive constant likes.

Nowadays, the number of WeChat friends has increased dozens of times, but I have to think twice before posting to Moments. I am afraid that posting food pictures or family photos will be considered unprofessional by my work colleagues. I'm afraid that if I post my work status, my friends will think I'm posturing.

I finally carefully selected a photo and posted it, but found that the number of likes was very few, less than one-tenth of the previous number. Over time, I simply didn’t bother to post on Moments.

04

Many people wonder why it seems that the more friends we have, the fewer people we can talk to.

WeChat Moments is a condensed life circle. The more people you know in life, the fewer people you can chat with. There are only a few real friends, and the rest are just passers-by.

We live in Shanghai, although the subway and transportation are so developed, but many friends and I have not seen each other for more than half a year or even a year.

Everyone is busy doing their own thing. If something happens, just say hello and do your best. I have a friend who works until early in the morning and wakes up again at six in the morning. Basically, we have little time to chat. But when you encounter something, as long as you ask her for advice, she will try her best to help you analyze the pros and cons, and she is a true mentor.

Of course, most of the friends in WeChat rarely chat and only appear suddenly when they need to be liked. Please help me be the first to like the post in my circle of friends. These people get to know each other because of likes. So, I went in and clicked a like, then browsed through her circle of friends without saying much. Maybe I won’t notice her presence again until the next collection of likes.

For those "infrequent contacts" lying in WeChat, I thought of this poem as the best explanation:

You see me, or you don't see me

Am I right there, neither sad nor happy?

Do you miss me or not?

Love is there, neither comes nor goes?

Things in the world must be reunited after a long time, and they must be apart after a long time. I don’t want to miss any of my friends, so let them continue to lie down. How do you know if that friend you don’t talk to often will wake up and come to you one day?

Pretending to be a sleeping cat

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