Only if you have the Tao can you have virtue, if you don't have the Tao, you will have no virtue. If you have virtue, you will have happiness, if you have no virtue, there will be no happiness.

The old man has no virtue, the family is in disaster, the children are unfilial, there is no blessing, the man has no ambition, the family is not prosperous, the woman is not gentle, and the wealth is driven away. (A woman’s temperament should be as gentle as water, so that her husband and herself will be prosperous, and money and luck will naturally follow; if a woman’s temperament is tough, fierce, overwhelming, stubborn, extreme, vindictive and malicious, gnashing her teeth and glaring in anger, the result will only be Hurting others and wasting oneself, overestimating oneself, losing all blessings, and looking haggard)

The elderly should promote the family tradition, the parents should model the family tradition, the husband and wife should control the family tradition, and the children should inherit the family tradition. Grandchildren should obey the family tradition, and brothers and sisters should compete with each other.

Morality is the law of heaven and earth, and duty is the law of individuals. If we violate the laws, people will suffer disaster.

Foreword

As the saying goes, everything prospers when the family is harmonious. The prosperity of the country, the harmony of the society, the happiness of personal life, the prosperity of the career, and the health of the body all depend on the foundation of a harmonious family.

This book is compiled based on the essence of the quotations, writings and lectures of Mr. Wang Fengyi and Mr. Shi Renhuan, the famous peasant thinkers and educators in modern my country, over the years. The article uses simple language to describe the duties that everyone should perform in the family from the aspects of ethics, traditional etiquette, etc.; it calls on everyone to do their own thing, act in their own way, and live in harmony with their families. What is harmony? Harmony means mutual respect, harmony means mutual courtesy. In this family ethics, we can only compare ourselves and reflect on ourselves; if we use this ethics to compare and criticize those around us, it will be counterproductive. In the family, we must know how to appreciate, be grateful, and repay kindness, and "don't care whether others are good or not, just whether we are right or not." For parents, "it doesn't matter whether their children are filial or not, but whether they are kind or not." For children, "It doesn't matter whether your parents are kind or not, but it depends on whether you are filial or not." In this way, the family can live in harmony. Today, the whole country is working together to build a harmonious family and a harmonious society. This book may be of some help and benefit to you and your family.

Only with the Tao can one have virtue; without Tao, there can be no virtue; only with virtue can there be happiness; without virtue, there can be no happiness.

The Way of the Old Man

1. The old man is the virtuous star of the family, with virtue as his root. "Virtue" means taking responsibility for one's faults and maintaining peace for one's faults.

2. The old man is as gray as ashes, gentle and non-irritated. He talks less, does not nag, and does not talk about family members. If you take the lead, you must take good care of each other, and you must take care of the whole family.

3. Being full of merit, gentle and profound is called sex as gray.

4. Be content and happy, and take care of your destiny at home. Promote family traditions, praise ancestors' virtues, and educate children and grandchildren to know how to appreciate, be grateful, and repay kindness.

5. Don’t meddle in other people’s business, and don’t worry too much about your children and grandchildren. “Children and grandchildren will have their own blessings.”

6. Don’t interfere in your children’s affairs, let your children take charge of the family, and don’t pretend to be senior.

7. When there are problems at home, the first thing to do is that the old man’s behavior is flawed. The first is failure to abide by one's duty, and the second is excessiveness.

8. When there are problems at home, the elderly should feel ashamed: I am the elderly who did not do well, was immoral, and failed to educate my family well.

9. No matter who is at fault in the family, no matter what disaster or right or wrong occurs, the family scandal will not be publicized.

10. Don’t create right and wrong, don’t say right and wrong, don’t preach right and wrong, don’t listen to right and wrong, take responsibility for right and wrong, and don’t be afraid of right and wrong. Harmonize the family and avoid any disputes, otherwise the old man will be immoral.

11. Whether a family is prosperous and whether its descendants are prosperous is directly related to whether the elders in the hall have good roots and merit. If the old man is virtuous, his descendants will be prosperous; if the old man is virtuous, the family will suffer disaster, the family fortune will be depressed, and the incense will fade.

12. How can the elderly make the family prosperous? That is to do more good deeds and accumulate negative virtues. On the one hand, you can cultivate virtue and avoid sin, on the other hand, you can cultivate virtue for your descendants and take root in them.

13. The old man supports the family’s blessing and creates the family’s merit. Merit is getting stronger from generation to generation, and blessings are getting more prosperous and prosperous from generation to generation. If your descendants are stronger than you, it means you are virtuous, otherwise you are devoid of virtue.

14. The old man is like the earth, silently carrying everything, tolerating everything, and cultivating everything. If an old man has a broad mind, his family will be blessed with great blessings.

15. If the elderly love people and things, the children and grandchildren of the family will prosper. If the old man is greedy, he will eat up all the blessings of the family.

16. It is the best Feng Shui and the highest Feng Shui for the elderly to be virtuous.

The Way of Parents (The Way of Middle Ages)

1. The lucky star of a family is rooted in ambition. That is, taking the happiness of the whole family as one's own responsibility and benefiting the whole family.

2. Respect the elderly when you are above, and love the young when you are below. Use gratitude to improve everything and make the family harmonious.

3. Promote the merits of the elderly and ancestors to their children, set an example of filial piety by respecting the elderly, and enlighten future generations by being grateful for the kindness of their ancestors.

4. Don’t arrange things for the elderly. Let them do whatever they like. However, you should pay more attention to the elderly and always advise them to rest more.

5. Parents are the beginning of human relations, the way of yin and yang, yin is the mother and yang is the father. Only when yin and yang are in harmony can all things grow. If yin and yang are not in harmony, mental pain will occur, and if emotions are not in harmony, the children born will definitely be of bad nature, or there will be a lack of children.

6. Parents are their children’s first teachers, and family is their children’s first school.

7. Whether a child is healthy has a lot to do with the mother, and whether the child has wisdom has a lot to do with the father. Whether the child has good fortune or not depends on whether the parents often act with joy and love.

8. If your children are disobedient and unfilial, you must first ask yourself whether you are also unfilial to the elderly and whether you have done something wrong. The superiors do not recognize the merits of the parents (the elderly), and the inferiors (the children) do not educate them well.

9. If the child does not understand, the fruit will be sour. If the fruit is sour, work must be done on the roots of the tree.

10. Don’t resent your children, let alone beat or scold them, because the success or failure of your children is also related to the parents’ own moral character. Secondly, you must consider whether your own education methods are inappropriate.

11. Five steps to educate children: raise, educate, teach, lead, guide, but do not control. The key point is to cultivate virtue and educate morals well.

12. "Guarding" means that parents let their children have their own way, find faults in their children, and go against their temperament. Therefore, the more they control, the worse they become. Because using temper to control children not only fails to control them well, but also arouses their children's tempers, conflicts, and even father and son become enemies. This is all because parents do not understand the truth.

13. There is no need to control the children, it all depends on the influence of virtue. Understand his personality, help him cut small branches and leave big branches. Don't spoil, don't spoil, don't hit, don't scold. Encourage more, affirm often, criticize less, and use no material temptations.

14. To rectify others first, rectify oneself. Parents should first transform their nature into nature and cultivate their nature. Know how to discipline yourself first before you can educate your children. Regardless of whether your children are filial or not, ask yourself whether you are kind or not.

15. Children belong to themselves, society, and heaven and earth. If children are not taught well, it will affect their own family if they are small, and it will affect society if they are large, and they will also be a debt of gratitude from heaven and earth. Educating children well is a heavy responsibility.

The Tao of Husband and Wife

1. Husband and wife are the auspicious stars of the family, with love as the root.

2. The entire family is based on love. A family cannot be established without love. Love is the first condition for starting a family.

3. If you are destined to love someone, you must first understand the other person’s nature. Fulfill each other and complete your duties. Enlighten the other party to play their part. Regardless of restricting the other party's freedom, you should give the other party happiness and not cause trouble to the other party. Complement each other and understand each other's physiology and psychology.

4. The standard of love: true love is selfless, conscious love has no pretensions (price), fraternal love is unconditional, and true love has no prejudice.

True love is selfless: respect each other and do not cause trouble to each other.

Love without pretense (price): Do not elevate your status, do not treat love as a transaction. Understand the other person's good points and praise the other person's good points; understand the other person's difficulties and forgive the other person's mistakes. If the other party has made a mistake, you can enlighten and guide the other party to correct it.

Fraternity is unconditional: no matter who the person is, it does not bind the other person. Give the other person freedom.

True love has no preconceptions: sincerely believe in each other and do not doubt the other person.

If you can do this, your family and everything will be prosperous.

5. Love is the origin and general outline of harmony. It is impossible to build a harmonious family without love.

6. There are three reasons for the union of husband and wife: first, to take care of and care for each other in life; second, to have children, carry on the family line, and leave a good human root for the world; Third, it is to better care for and take care of both parents, so that the elderly can feel relieved and happy.

7. Husbands and wives should make up for each other’s mistakes instead of blaming each other.

8. If it is the husband’s business, but he forgets to do it, the wife should not complain, but should conscientiously do the things well; conversely, the husband should do the same. Make up for what the other party cannot do. This is to make up for each other's mistakes.

9. After getting married, if a man cannot lead a woman to the right way, be filial to parents-in-law, be close to brothers and sisters, and be kind to children, then even if he is very filial, the elderly will not be at ease. If a woman cannot help her husband become a virtuous person after marriage, she will be filial to her parents-in-law, and the old man will not feel at ease.

10. The husband should take care of his father-in-law and his mother-in-law, and the wife should be filial to her father-in-law and mother-in-law. For example, when buying things for the elderly, the son-in-law should give it to his father-in-law and mother-in-law in person, and the daughter-in-law should give it to her father-in-law and mother-in-law in person.

11. Equality between men and women means equal rights and equal enjoyment. There is absolutely no equality in duties and etiquette.

12. Men have their duties as men, and women have their duties as women. Yin and Yang each have their place. Men are based on uprightness; women are based on gentleness. "Strength" means immobility (not losing your temper), and "zheng" means conforming to the right principles. "Softness" means being like water, and "harmony" means being reasonable. Therefore, uprightness means gentleness, and softness means uprightness. Although the terms are different, the spirit is the same.

13. When husband and wife have conflicts, one is to violate the grace bestowed by heaven and earth; the other is to violate the affection bestowed by parents; the third is to violate one’s destiny of many lives and tribulations. If one violates the destiny of life, life will lose its reliance on positive rewards. The division between husband and wife is the division of life.

14. The way of husband and wife, that is, the way of yin and yang, if the husband and wife are in harmony, the yin and yang qi are in harmony, and they cannot restrain each other, not only will they not get sick, but they will not die young. The family can be harmonious and the descendants prosperous. Therefore, men must understand women's ways, and women must understand men's ways, so that the family can be happy.

15. Harmony of sex (nature), harmony of heart, and harmony of body. This is the true harmony between husband and wife.

16. Zhijie couples are grateful to each other and never blame others. The couple in the mind realm are happy. The husband leads his wife to enlightenment, and the wife helps her husband to become virtuous. They are never angry. The couple in the heart world are a ceremonial couple, so they will have jurisdiction over each other! A couple in the body realm is a couple who beats and scolds them, causing trouble throughout their lives.

Husband’s Way

1. A man must mean what he says, one means one, two means two, and he must do what he says.

2. If you can’t do it, don’t say it. There is no dignity if your words don’t count.

3. Men belong to Yang, and Yang means selflessness. To be selfless is to express love for a family.

4. If you are selfish, you will secretly do things that go against your conscience and make the whole family troubled. This is not a good man.

5. Men should be "strong". It’s not just that you beat and curse people, the man who beats and curses you is an incompetent man.

6. "Strength" means not only not hitting or scolding others, but also not answering, retorting or getting upset when being scolded. Being immobile and being inflexible when being scolded (not losing one's temper) is Just. Take the lead in adversity and be at ease. If you do this, you will be a man.

7. There are three kinds of men: weak husband, violent husband and husband.

8. A weak man is also called a coward because he cannot support his family. Being submissive, saying things but not doing them, not daring to take responsibility, pushing women to the front, and only listening to women's orders.

9. A violent man beats or scolds him and is unreasonable. They don't understand where their responsibilities lie, so they dare to act recklessly.

10. The husband has the courage to take on the responsibilities of the family and persuade others with reason. If the family makes mistakes, he will feel guilty.

11. As a husband, you must base your position on the "three cardinal principles". The three cardinal principles refer to the sex cardinal guide, the heart cardinal cardinal guide, and the physical cardinal cardinal cardinal cardinal guide; being immobile (not losing your temper) is the sex cardinal guide; and not having selfish desires. The heart is the guideline; the absence of bad habits is the body guideline. Being angry is a violation of one's nature; swearing is a violation of one's heart; hitting someone is a violation of one's body. "Gang" means to lead, and a woman must be led on the road, filial to her parents-in-law at the top, harmonious to the sisters-in-law at the middle, and loving to the children at the bottom.

12. A man is the backbone of the family. He must be sensible, ambitious, and take care of his wife regardless of his wife.

13. If a man does a good job, there will be fewer disasters in the family; if a man does not do a good job, there will be many disasters in the family.

The Way of a Wife

1. Women are the mother of the country, the wife of the family, and the wife of people.

2. A woman should be gentle, have a peaceful smile, and be popular with the family.

3. Like water, it follows a circle and becomes a square. It combines five colors and five flavors, and its original essence remains unchanged. It is a woman's duty to be at peace with the situation, to be poor or to be rich, to be high or low, just like water that can nourish all things, but not to compete with all things. When you are in the lowest place, if you are low, you will be low, and you will always admit that you are not good enough.

4. If a woman is busy, a man will be silent; if a woman is not gentle, the family will not be prosperous.

5. Don’t be violent, impatient, wordy, and don’t meddle in men’s affairs. You should help your husband without tiring him out.

6. As a wife, you must first settle on the "three obediences" before you can help your husband become virtuous. "Three Obediences" means that one's nature follows the laws of heaven, one's heart follows the principles, and one's body follows the principles of emotions. What does it mean to “follow one’s own principles”? What needs to be done, do it yourself. It is your duty to be filial to your parents-in-law, to be at peace with your sisters-in-law, and to teach your children at the bottom. Don't be afraid of hardship, don't be afraid of difficulties. Don’t get angry, complain, or regret after doing it. "Heart follows the truth": means to get rid of the selfishness that is entangled by greed and interference. All I think about is how to repay the old man's kindness? How to live in harmony with your sisters-in-law and how to teach your children? Keep the good of the whole family in mind, and everything you do will naturally be in line with the law. "Nature follows the laws of nature": Focusing on the immovable nature, we must also eliminate the innate nature and perfect the nature before we can be virtuous.

7. Women have three wives: strong women, weak women, and daughter-in-law.

8. Women are fierce, control men, bully men mentally, speak like thunder, are very strong, cover the sky with one hand, and are called shrews. In such a family, if the yin is strong and the yang is weak, the husband will become prematurely old or even die young, and the children born will be useless.

9. A woman who does nothing but relies entirely on her husband and parents is called a weak woman.

10. A woman who is lazy and blaming is the spoiler of the family. Neither a strong woman nor a weak woman is a daughter-in-law.

11. The meaning of a daughter-in-law is to calm down the discord in the family, to be the auspicious messenger of a harmonious family, to treat everyone equally and harmoniously, and to bring blessings to the whole family.

12. A daughter-in-law’s nature should be like water. Her nature is like water, she should be content and always happy. She means to be the root, to support the whole family, and to be harmonious and cheerful. As the happy star of the family, she is filial to her parents, harmonious to her sisters-in-law, and kind to her children, who can help her husband become a virtuous person. So that the husband has no internal worries, can contribute to the society, establish himself in the right way, and become famous and show his family. Not only in running a family, but also in social work, one can abide by one's duties and make contributions. Only then can you have a long-lasting family fortune and long-term happiness.

13. Whether a family is happy, quiet, and prosperous, the role of the wife is very important. If a woman can be a wife who is as good as water, she will surely have a son, help her husband become a virtuous person, and have a happy family.

Mother-in-law and Daughter-in-law Tao

1. Mother-in-law and daughter-in-law in the family are all from other surnames. When they come to the same home, they are like mother and daughter.

2. The Tao consists of kindness and righteousness. If you get along with the Tao, you can serve for life.

3. If they are not in harmony, the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law will not get along, causing disagreements in housework and living separately, the family will fall apart, and the family will not be prosperous.

4. Mother-in-law has been a daughter-in-law for many years. When she marries a daughter-in-law, she becomes a mother-in-law. The daughter-in-law is a girl at home, and as soon as she leaves the palace and goes to her mother-in-law's house, she becomes a daughter-in-law.

5. The mother-in-law comes early and understands everything; the daughter-in-law comes late and doesn’t understand everything. The mother-in-law should lead her daughter-in-law to the road, treat her like a daughter, tell her what she doesn't know, guide her, and don't make things difficult for her.

6. A daughter-in-law is not born to her mother-in-law. If the mother-in-law does not understand the truth, she will show her shortcomings before showing favors, or use her big words to suppress her small ones, or use her temper to control her, and her words will only sow evil causes. How can a mother-in-law and daughter-in-law have a good relationship?

7. Every family should imagine that their daughter is marrying into the family, and the mother-in-law should love her daughter-in-law as much as she loves her own daughter. If this is not possible, the daughter-in-law will treat her future daughters-in-law in the same way, creating a vicious cycle.

8. Always mention your daughter-in-law’s strengths when speaking, and be grateful to her mother-in-law for her education. If the daughter-in-law makes a mistake, the mother-in-law will quickly come over and be tolerant first, and then teach her behind her back. She must not quarrel with her, and the daughter-in-law will naturally be grateful and repay her kindness.

9. As a daughter-in-law, if you love your husband, you must love your parents-in-law. I understand that without my parents-in-law, I would not have my dear husband. I sympathize with my mother-in-law's previous hard work and hard work to raise her son. You can no longer burden your mother-in-law, tell her to do things, or make you resentful of your mother-in-law's words and deeds.

10. Daughters-in-law should respect their parents-in-law as their own parents. The ancients said: Everyone in life has double parents. So both parents should be treated equally.

11. I should love the things my mother-in-law loves; I should respect the people I love. You will surely make your mother-in-law happy. If you can understand the old man's heart and obey the old man's wishes, you have attained the Tao.

12. As a daughter-in-law, you should understand: parents-in-law are a real blessing to the family.

Not caring about the elderly, resenting the elderly, and refusing to be filial to the elderly means that you do not want blessings and will have no blessings.

13. If you are unfilial to your parents-in-law and sow the seeds, when your children grow up, they will definitely receive the consequences of their unfilial parents.

14. Parents-in-law are like the roots of a family tree. If you want luxuriant branches and leaves, fragrant flowers and sweet fruits, you must treat the roots well, fertilize, water and loosen the soil.

15. If you want your family to be harmonious and everything to be prosperous, if you want your husband to be noble and your children to be virtuous, you must teach them to respect your parents-in-law, and your life will be prosperous. Otherwise, the dew among the flowers and the frost on the grass will not last long.

The Way of Son and Daughter

1. Children are the most precious star of a family, with filial piety as their root.

2. As a child, when you are young, it is difficult to help your parents with their livelihood. The most important thing is to make your parents less worried. Not letting parents worry is the greatest repayment of kindness. When you reach adulthood, you should do your best to be filial to your parents physically, mentally, and mentally.

3. As children, it is your duty to be filial. Be able to inherit the ancestral legacy, carry forward the family tradition, and be determined to surpass the predecessors.

4. Providing material satisfaction to the elderly is an obligation and is not considered filial piety. "Filial piety" means perfecting one's duty, giving parents peace of mind, not causing trouble to parents, and not looking at their parents' faults. This is true filial piety.

5. "Shun" means accepting the parents' instructions and making them happy and at ease. Even if your parents are obviously wrong, don't contradict them face to face. If your parents have it, not only do you not blame them, but you also improve what your parents should do. This is called making up for your parents' omissions.

6. If parents have their faults, and their children can make up for them, then they are truly the stars of the family. If you blindly obey, you will inevitably fall into unrighteousness, and it is not considered true filial piety.

7. When our lives come to this family, it is equivalent to having a destiny with the life of this family. Good things are the blessings of your destiny, and bad things are also your fate. There are pains and troubles. It is this family that is fulfilling you, training you, and fulfilling your own karma. We should also be grateful and repay the kindness.

8. Regardless of whether your parents are kind or not, ask yourself whether you are filial or not.

9. If you want to fulfill your filial piety, you must start from the three realms of nature, mind and body. You cannot be filial to your nature if your nature is not transformed, you cannot be filial to your heart if your heart is not sincere, and you cannot be filial to your body if your body is not cultivated. If you want to be truly filial, you must clear the three realms.

10. "Filial piety will lead to the three realms of filial piety." The Three Realms refer to nature, mind and body. To be filial, you should pay attention to your parents' clothing, food, housing and transportation, and support your parents. Filial piety means obeying the hearts of my parents everywhere. Whatever my parents love, I must love them; Filial piety should make the old man's nature harmonious, keep his face clear of sadness, prevent his temperament from being irritable, entertain his grandchildren with pleasure, and live happily in his old age.

11. Filial piety can be divided into rational filial piety, practical filial piety, and heart filial piety: rational filial piety means respecting and understanding the elderly; filial piety by doing things means doing everything one can to provide material needs for parents; filial piety by heart means forgiving parents' mistakes, which is great filial piety.

12． Giving food and clothing to parents is filial piety; making parents obedient is filial piety; keeping parents' aspirations in mind, making parents feel at ease and happy, and not making parents worry is filial piety (the realm of sex).

13. If children are not filial, they will not be blessed. Complaining that your family is poor will make you poorer.

14. If the children are filial, the parents will naturally live longer; if the parents live longer and the children are not filial, it will bring great troubles to the parents throughout their lives. Such children will become a prodigal star.

15. If the old man can make him feel at ease and happy when he is alive, this is filial piety; if the old man can make him die peacefully and smile, this is the end of filial piety.

Brothers and sisters

1. Brothers and sisters are the celestial auxiliary stars of a family, with righteousness as their root.

2. "Yi" means unconditional help at all costs. When one person is in trouble, others should be there to help. Those who are in good condition should try their best to help those who are in poor condition.

3. If you are in the same room and fight against each other, you will make your ancestors fall into disgrace, and you will be weak and helpless. If brothers and sisters cannot love each other, their parents will be worried and their filial piety will still not be fulfilled. Therefore, to honor your parents, you must live in harmony with your brothers and sisters.

4. Brothers and sisters love each other and must respect each other, sympathize with each other, help each other, and make up for each other's mistakes.

5. When receiving help from brothers and sisters, you must know how to appreciate, be grateful and repay kindness.

6. The elder brother is half the parent. He should set an example, help his father establish his career, and help his parents improve everything. We should inherit the aspirations of our parents and inherit the virtues of our ancestors.

7. Older brothers should be as loving to their younger siblings as parents are.

8. Brothers and sisters should regard their brothers as their elders. If your brother fails to do the job, you have to make up for him.

9. Don't gossip about right and wrong, don't blame your brothers and parents.

10. Lively and frugal, do not hesitate to accept orders, and do their best when they are righteous.

11. Determine to learn the virtues of the whole family and carry forward the good family tradition. If you can do this, your family will prosper.

12． After you start a family, don't compare with wealth, but compete with each other for family tradition. Each family will do better than the other.

13. Brothers and sisters should not fight over family property, nor should they hurt brotherhood by marrying a bride. The word "fraternity" is the word for brotherhood. The word "fraternity" is endless and involves filial piety. To harm the family relationship between siblings is to defy heaven and you will definitely be punished by heaven in the future.

Girls’ Tao

1. Women are the source of the world. If you want the world to be good, the country to be good, the society to be good, and the family to be good, it must be good from girls.

2. If you want to be a good girl, you must understand the way of a girl.

3. The girl is the noble star of the family, with ambition as her root, her nature as cotton, and her support fills up the family.

4. Taking ambition as the root means being determined not to fight or be greedy, to be filial to your parents, to respect your brothers and sisters-in-law, and to love your nieces and nephews.

5. Those whose nature is like cotton are as white as cotton, and their body is like jade; as soft as cotton, their temper should not be irritable;

6. As warm as cotton, don't be cold to others; as long as cotton, don't give up.

7. You can do anything, there is no choice, no discrimination, this is the reason why sex is like cotton.

8. A girl is half guest and half host at home. She should be aware of everyone's interests, be able to bring up the harmonious spirit of the whole family, and build a family bond.

9. Girls are the key to a harmonious relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. When you encounter a disagreement between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, you should try to persuade them from both sides. Talk about the good things about your sister-in-law in front of your mother, comfort her heart in front of your sister-in-law, understand your sister-in-law, and mention the good things about your mother in daily life.

10. In this way, you have fulfilled your filial piety in front of your mother and your brother and sister-in-law, and your family will be happy and your family will be filled with happiness.

11. If you talk too much at home, you will not only be ignorant and unable to settle disputes, but will expand them, causing disharmony in the family and restlessness. This will kick the whole family and break up the hearts of the whole family.

12． If you can be a good girl at home, you will definitely be a good daughter-in-law when you leave the court. You can help your husband achieve enlightenment, respect your husband, be harmonious to your sisters-in-law, honor your parents-in-law, and the whole family will be happy. This is truly a happy star.

13. Later, when you have children, you will naturally teach them to become famous and be good mothers.

14. When she gets old, she will definitely become an old lady, and she will be able to support the whole family and be a blessing to the family.

15. If the girl understands and knows how to do it, her true nature will be clear.

16. When you are a girl, you must practice and understand the principles of being a daughter-in-law in advance, so that you can grasp the happiness of your future marriage.

17. Parents are close relatives to their daughters, and most of them are very harmonious. Therefore, their daughters' speech and behavior are very free and unrestricted. In addition, women's nature is weak in self-control. In front of their parents, they can't help but act coquettishly, which is unbearable for parents. If you go against her will and always obey her when things happen, you will inevitably develop the habit of being lazy and making demands. If you don't get what you want, you will lose your temper and make your goals unfulfilled. If after getting married, you still persist in your cowardly and lazy habits, it will inevitably lead to family conflicts and you will be in great pain. Therefore, when a daughter is in front of her parents, she must first learn how to serve the aunt.

18. A girl in her natal family is not responsible for the financial aspects. If she worships enjoyment and develops luxurious habits, and then starts her own family, she will be absolutely or relatively responsible for the family's finances. However, if he does not change his extravagant and wasteful habits, he will inevitably cause family conflicts and suffer himself. Therefore, in the girl's period, developing simple living habits and cultivating the virtue of diligence and thrift are the cornerstones of building a happy and happy family in the future.

19. When you are a girl, you should practice housekeeping. Such as financial control, housework management, children's education and guidance, etc., are all things that you must face and bear after you get married in the future, and they are also your own responsibilities. If you are lazy and avoid it, and your parents indulge in favoritism, you (the girl) will be the one who suffers in the future.

The Way of Friends

1. Those who share the same views are friends, and those who share the same meaning are friends.

2. A gentleman makes friends based on morality, while a villain makes friends based on his right.

3. Being able to encourage good deeds and correct mistakes is a moral friendship and a friendship between gentlemen; if the focus of making friends is on snobbery, wine and meat, and friendship can be beneficial, then the friendship will be lost. Friendship between people.

4. Profits are detrimental to justice, and snobbish friendships will never last long.

5. As the saying goes: "If you are close to vermilion, you will be red; if you are close to ink, you will be black." Therefore, we should stay close to beneficial friends who are benevolent, righteous and moral, and stay away from harmful friends who only know how to live in debauchery.

6. When getting along with friends, choose the good ones and follow them, and change the bad ones, so that you can benefit from your friends without being harmed by them.

7. If you are blindly promiscuous, do not distinguish between good and evil, and follow the crowd, your friends will suffer.

8. A virtuous person will not be burdened by friends, but can also change his mistakes. Not only can he correct himself, he can also use morality to save his friends, and he has fulfilled the way of being a friend.

9. It is the way of a friend to rebuke good friends, but you must only do so in moderation, otherwise you will not be happy if your friends do not like you. The number of friends is so sparse.

10. If you want to correct others, you must first correct yourself. Only if you are well behaved and convincing can your words be effective.

11. When you hear the praise, you will be angry, but when you hear the praise, you will be happy. It will bring harm to your friends, but it will bring you good friends.

12. It is important for friends to get along on the same page and leave appropriate space for each other.

13. The way to be a friend is to trust each other first, so that you can work in the same direction and work together. Don’t keep your relatives alone, don’t keep your children alone. We are all brothers within the four seas.