Andy was praised for talking: the talker won as soon as he opened his mouth.
Countless netizens are crazy about Andy and Li Xian, especially Andy.
Andy put her attitude very low in the face of praise. In an interview, she said:
Andy said that as long as the audience likes Li Xian's gun, the play will be successful, because she is not aggressive, and many girls will bring themselves in.
After reading Andy's interview, I feel that Andy is so talkative!
A real talker always knows how to put himself in others' shoes. They can make people around them comfortable and not tired themselves.
Cai Kangyong said, "The more you can talk, the happier others will be. The happier others will be, the more they will like you. The more people like you, the more help you will get, and the happier you will be. "
People who can talk can talk.
Looking back on the recent rights protection incident of Mercedes-Benz female car owner "4S" store, we can see how important it is to be able to talk.
Before the new car left the 4S shop, the engine of the vehicle began to leak oil, and the female car owner sat on the hood and began to defend her rights.
First, she took the lead in paying a service fee of 15000 yuan, and asked the sales staff to guide her to use the loan service of Mercedes-Benz Finance:
"Whose pocket is the service fee of 1.5 million?"
Then, the person in charge said that "the national three guarantees regulations can only replace the engine", and she immediately questioned:
"There is no choice but to change the engine?"
Finally, she seized the loophole of the other party's "three guarantees" policy and demanded reasonably:
"If the 4S shop cheats, can you claim triple compensation?"
And ask the other party to apologize solemnly.
The two sides finally reached a settlement agreement, including an apology, a new car, a refund of financial service fees, and a birthday supplement for female car owners.
In the whole process of safeguarding rights, there is not a word of foul language or foul language, but every word is persuasive and powerful. The talking female car owner won the interest and respect of Mercedes-Benz.
As written in Cai Kangyong's Way of Speaking:
"Talking is something that you can improve yourself with snacks. And what we say well and gain the most is of course ourselves. "
Chris, the hero of the movie Chasing Happyness, was detained by the police when he went to an interview that might change his life, until he appeared in front of the examiner in a dirty suit the next morning.
The examiner asked contemptuously, "Why should I hire someone who doesn't even wear a shirt?"
Chris responded humorously, "I guess he must be wearing a pair of nice pants."
Chris got the job after a burst of laughter.
Chris's witty remarks made everyone laugh and skillfully resolved the embarrassing atmosphere. This is the importance of being able to talk.
A person who can talk, you can feel the ingenuity between the lines, and you can solve problems as easily as four or two.
They can turn decay into magic, often accompanied by success.
Many people like Chen Ming not only because of his eloquence in the debate, but also because of his witty remarks about doting on his wife.
Let's not talk about how he was as sharp as a shrine in the debate field. Finally, he won BBKing in the fifth season of "Qi Pa Shuo", only to see how he used his eloquent eloquence to "shun" his wife.
Still chasing the goddess who is eight years older than him. When the goddess hesitated, Chen Ming opened the golden mouth:
"If you are not with him, you should find someone with three qualities, but after analysis, the conclusion is that such a person does not exist objectively, and you can only stay with me."
In the end, Chen Ming got his wish and regained the goddess.
After marriage, Chen Ming always puts his wife in the most important position and everything follows her.
Even when quarreling, his wife told him to "get out, as far away as possible." He rolled from his wife's left hand to her right hand, and then said to her:
"I listen to you, go as far as possible. You are my world, so I rolled from one end of the world to the other and couldn't walk any further. "
The angry wife immediately smiled through tears.
Do you want it to be sweeter? He is a crazy man who dotes on his wife.
There is also a story in Zhihu. A classmate thief B will say that every time someone spits at him, he is like an invincible Xiao Qiang. On the other hand, he tried his best to hack himself. In the end, everyone is happy.
After graduation, I was promoted from an obscure grass-roots employee to a company director with an annual salary of10.6 million because of my ability of "talking".
And got the heart of the original girlfriend as a superior, and really realized the double harvest of love career.
Chen Ming and this classmate B can say what others want to hear, not what they want to say. Because of this, what they say is always acceptable and sounds comfortable.
"Talking" is an important core ability. A talkative person will not only make others embarrassed, but also warm himself and bring more smooth roads for himself.
Daniel Gorman wrote in EQ: "People with low IQ and high EQ should be helped by noble people".
Talking is the most cost-effective thing in the world, and it is the magic weapon to get a double harvest in love.
There are people in this world who have a wide range of contacts because they can talk. Some people have lost many opportunities and even lost their jobs because they can't speak.
My friend's eldest brother is a person who doesn't know how to speak.
This eldest brother, Xiao Chen, works hard as a salesman in a foreign trade company.
Once I found a big order, and with the early efforts, it was almost time to sign the contract.
That day, he faxed the contract to the other party, but he didn't tell the other party after sending it.
After the other party came to urge the contract, he casually said:
"You go to the fax room. I have more important things to do here. "
The other party asked the Xiao Chen Football Association to call him after signing the contract, but Xiao Chen said:
"This is your own business. I sent it to your fax room. Can't I see for myself? "
Each other nasty, don't want to send the contract in the past, chenchen not to be outdone, responded:
"I just have no time! Do you want to get it from the fax room? Look at you. "
The other party is so angry that it doesn't work. That's a business of more than 5 million! Xiao Chen, the boss, fired him.
Xiao Chen didn't pay attention to his speaking skills, because his outspoken mouth screwed up the whole thing and lost his job.
According to the analysis of 0/0000 personnel files of Linston University/KLOC, the results show that "wisdom", "professional skills" and "experience" only account for 25% of the success factors, and the remaining 75% depends on good speech skills.
At the same time, a survey by Harvard University shows that 82% of the 500 dismissed employees are incompetent because they are not good at speaking.
In the workplace, many people will anger their bosses or colleagues because of their own indiscretions, causing many unnecessary conflicts;
In life, some people have offended many people because they can't speak and their cultivation is not high. The road gets narrower and narrower.
People who don't know how to speak often "do bad things with good intentions", which leads to failure becoming the norm.
Don't let your mouth get in your way.
There's a question on Zhihu:
What can I do to make my life better immediately?
One of the answers is impressive-talk well.
As early as the 1960s, Americans regarded "talking, money and computer" as the three most powerful magic weapons, and "talking" has always been the first of the three magic weapons, which is enough to show the role and value of talking.
Talking is the golden key to success and can bring unexpected results. The ability to speak can become a person's life wealth! ?
No one is born with the ability to speak at the beginning, but everyone can learn to speak through the acquired study and get their own happiness.
Speaking is an art, which has at least the following characteristics:
First of all, the logic is meticulous, highly generalized, and can communicate efficiently;
Secondly, quoting classics can accurately express what you want to express.
Thirdly, he is good at observing words and feelings, and can control the rhythm and scene of the speech.
Finally, I can stand on the other side's knowledge level and understanding level and express my thoughts in a way that the other side can understand.
Besides, I won't get stage fright or Tik Tok on any occasion. I am confident.
It is worth mentioning that when confronting people, they can quickly find the key points of rebuttal and have strong dialectical ability.
As the saying goes:
What is unfamiliar is not as good as what you can do, and what you can do is not as good as what you can say.
A truly open-minded person will not only take time to improve his personal value, but also take time to learn the art of speaking.
They know:
Ability determines how fast you can walk, but whether you can speak or not determines how smooth your future will be.
People who can talk are the winners in life!
About the author:
Li Jiang Feifei, left-handed poetic life, right-handed human fireworks, focused on writing emotional articles and opinions with temperature. Personal WeChat official account: Li Jiang Feifei reading and seeing the world (jianglifeifeidushu).