Why did Lin Hui marry Liang Sicheng instead of Xu Zhimo?
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How important is Pindad?
Just look at why Lin Hui married Liang Sicheng instead of Xu Zhimo.
Liang Sicheng’s father, Liang Qichao, was a modern Chinese thinker, politician, and educator; Xu Zhimo’s father, Xu Shenru, was an industrialist who served as the prime minister, president, and chairman of the Xiashi Chamber of Commerce for nearly 20 years and was famous in Zhejiang.
Objectively speaking, even though the two fathers have different reputations and achievements, they were both outstanding leaders of their era. They respectively educated the most famous children of that year - the Liang family's nine children and three academicians; Xu Zhimo was an only son and the most famous poet in modern times. Both fathers had unusual achievements.
It’s just that masters compete with masters. What does high-level “fighting” look like?
Liang Qichao
The first fight: wealth.
Both of these two are rich dads.
Liang Qichao had a generous income. He once said in a letter to his eldest daughter Liang Sishun: "If I depreciate myself a little, it is not difficult to earn ten thousand gold a month."
What is the concept of ten thousand gold? ? At that time, the monthly income of ordinary employees or workers was about 8 yuan. Our leader Chairman Mao's monthly salary was only 8 yuan when he was a librarian at Peking University Library. Therefore, a monthly income of 10,000 yuan is absolutely an astronomical figure.
How do you earn this money?
Liang Qichao’s income channels at that time include: first, holding office. When he was a professor at Tsinghua University in 1925, his monthly salary was 400 yuan, and his income as a government official would be higher; second, author’s remuneration. Most of his books were in business. For press publishing, manuscript fees and royalties are at the highest level; third, various speech and lecture fees; fourth, stocks and investments. He is a shareholder of Tianjin Zhongyuan Company and has also invested in other companies.
Such an economic foundation allowed him to support Liang Sicheng and Lin Huiyin to study in the United States. In particular, Lin Huiyin lost his financial resources after the death of his father Lin Changmin. He once planned to return to China to make a living or work in the United States to earn tuition fees. Liang Qichao was determined not to do so. Yes, he said in the letter: "The tuition fee is not a problem, even if I have one more daughter studying abroad."
He used the stock interest to support her to continue her studies, and encouraged her to "get through the difficulties and cheer up." Courage and make some contribution to the Chinese art world."
If you were a girl in her twenties, would you love such an elder?
As for Xu Shenru, he owns a power plant, a plum sauce factory, a silk shop, and a small bank in Shanghai, and he has great business vision.
When the Shanghai-Hangzhou Railway was built, many people were afraid that expropriating a large amount of farmland and demolishing houses and tombs would damage the local feng shui. However, he insisted that "people will benefit and goods will flow smoothly" and actively lobbied the local gentry to raise funds. The intensive planning eventually led to the Shanghai-Hangzhou Railway running through Kip-Shik and Haining, creating huge business opportunities for the local area. He himself was called the "richest man in Kip-Shik".
Being the richest man is not a down payment. Imagine being the richest entrepreneur in an economically developed area. The image of Father Xu will pop up on the page, right?
Duang, in terms of economic foundation, the two fathers are basically even.
Objectively speaking, children are indeed lucky to be able to grow up in a wealthy environment when they are young.
Liang Qichao, his second wife and their two young sons
Second episode: the relationship between husband and wife.
Isn’t there a saying, “The best love for a child is for a father to love his mother”?
The relationship between husband and wife is the core of the family. However, the two fathers handle family relationships in completely different ways.
Liang Qichao had two wives. His first wife, Li Huixian, was born in a well-known family and was the cousin of the Minister of Rites. She was the mother of Liang Sishun, Liang Sicheng and Liang Sizhuang. Their children called her "mother"; the second wife, Wang Guiquan, was Li Huixian. She was a dowry maid who married Liang Qichao at the age of 18 under the arrangement of Li Huixian. Her children called her "Mother". She was the biological mother of Liang Siyong, Liang Sizhong, Liang Sida, Liang Siyi, Liang Sining, and Liang Sili.
In the old days, the two ladies had different backgrounds and naturally had different statuses. It would be easy for them to become grudges if they were not handled well, but our Master Liang had his own sense of proportion.
In his letter to Li Huixian, he praised them for their "happy marriage and centuries of love"; every time he went out, he would buy gifts for Mrs. Li, and he was very confident in conveying his love to Mrs. Li through his eldest daughter Liang Sishun. "The things your mother wants are nothing more than kyaktu hot pots, vegetable jars, brass pipes and the like. I have been with your mother for twenty years, and I would rather not know that." As long as you live at home, you will be able to communicate with her. Li Huixian chatted for a long time at night; she often showed off that Mrs. Li taught her Mandarin.
How can Mrs. Li be unhappy if she understands your preferences and your kindness?
Liang Qichao used the word "dependence" on his second wife, Wang Guiquan.
When he traveled far away, he often took Wang Guiquan with him. During the War to Protect the Country, Wang Guiquan was not around, and he joked that he "missed 'Aunt Wang' almost every day." He was in poor health in his later years, and Wang Guiquan took good care of him; during his stay in Japan, he taught Wang Guiquan learned Japanese quickly and once became the translator for the whole family.
Knowing that your dedication is inseparable from you, how can Mrs. Wang not be moved?
Therefore, Mrs. Wang was kind and tolerant in the complex family relationship. After Mrs. Li's death, she treated all her children equally, and the children of the Liang family loved her sincerely.
Recognition, companionship, and praise are the only ways for a husband and wife to get along with each other. If the father does a good job, the mother deserves it. A harmonious and happy relationship between husband and wife is the greatest blessing for the child.
It’s just that for men in the old days who had multiple wives and children, Liang Qichao was too rare.
Xu Zhimo’s parents are a traditional old-style couple. There is little information about their relationship. However, Xu Zhimo’s ex-wife Zhang Youyi recalled that after marrying into the Xu family, she spent most of her time in the boudoir. It can be inferred that the interaction between Xu Shenru and his wife is not as loving and interesting as Liang Qichao.
In terms of the intimacy of the relationship between husband and wife, Father Liang should be better.
Lin Huiyin, Liang Sicheng, the eldest daughter Liang Zaibing and Wang Guiquan
The third challenge: education and experience
Fathers in the East are easily absent from the daily education of their children. Either he "managed" too much, or he couldn't "manage" the children at all, but Liang Qichao managed them comprehensively and correctly.
Liang Qichao’s granddaughter Wu Liming wrote in the book "Liang Qichao and His Children": "(Childhood) He was a loving father and friend to the children. He paid attention to guiding the children's interest in knowledge. , and respects their individuality and aspirations very much, teaching students in accordance with their aptitude. He has thoughtful considerations and arrangements for each child's future, but does not force them to follow their own intentions."
He gives 5. The children who were studying abroad at the same time wrote a lot of letters, calling them "big baby Sishun", "little baby Zhuangzhuang", "so good" and "a bunch of children on the other side". , many contemporary fathers can’t do it either.
Lin Huiyin and Liang Sicheng are both beneficiaries of "Liang-style education".
Liang Qichao and Lin Huiyin’s father, Lin Changmin, were close friends. They had long wanted to form a family, but Liang Qichao did not want to follow traditional marriage customs. He clearly told Liang Sicheng, who was only 18 years old, and Lin Huiyin, who was 15 years old at the time: Although Both fathers approved of the marriage, but in the end it was up to them to make the decision.
For children who have not yet formed independent judgments, a father’s opinions and suggestions and principled letting go are extremely rare support.
Lin Huiyin herself agrees with this kind of well-matched match. She respects the opinions of her two fathers and feels that the same family background and common interests will make each other more understanding and the relationship will be stronger. Liang Sicheng’s excellent academic performance and sharp thinking , versatile sense of humor, and open-minded fun, all come from the unique "Liang family education", which Lin Huiyin particularly likes and appreciates. The harmonious atmosphere of the Liang family is also something that her own family of origin does not have. What does she have? Why not choose a lively and handsome young man, but go into Xu Zhimo's old-style marriage and get into troubled waters?
After Liang and Lin got married, Liang Qichao even made thoughtful arrangements for their honeymoon and plans to return to China. He encouraged them to take a cultural inspection trip to Europe to see the natural beauty of Switzerland and the Renaissance paintings of Italy. Such specific suggestions as architecture and Nordic municipal layout came from Liang Qichao’s own erudition and vision. He was full of interest in European culture and municipal construction.
The father has hills and valleys in his heart, and it is easier for his children to see mountains and rivers in front of them, instead of being limited to seven or eight people on a short three-five-step road.
Although Xu Zhimo's family is rich, there has been no fame for generations, and it is difficult to compete with the famous families who have been scholarly for generations. His education process was full of the expectations and favor of his father Xu Shenru.
However, like most fathers in China at that time, Xu Shenru did not know what specific educational advice he should give his son. He sent his son to the best schools one after another: Hangzhou No. 1 Middle School, Peking University , Clark University, Columbia University, and Cambridge University, they try their best to provide the best conditions, but the most fundamental starting point is to gain fame and honor their ancestors, which is not much different from today's fathers who hope that their children will be admitted to key universities.
In Xu Shenru’s businessman’s thinking, Xu Zhimo’s marriage is also an extension of family interests.
Xu Zhimo and Zhang Youyi
So, he did not hesitate to let his son marry Zhang Youyi, whom he had never met before, because the Zhang family was prominent and one of his brothers included the vice president of the Bank of China. Manager, Secretary-General of Feng Guozhang Presidential Office, General Manager of China Vegetable Company, etc. Marriage with such a family will not only help to improve the status of the Xu family, but the prestige and social influence of the Zhang family brothers will be of great help to the future development of the Xu family's industry. beneficial.
Is this really so? How happy would Xu Shenru's favorite son be if he married a woman he didn't love at all?
Sometimes, the deals that appear to be the best deals in the short term are the ones that lose money in the long run.
Xu Zhimo died young at the age of 34, and Xu Shenru’s elegiac couplet from the white-haired man to the black-haired man made people cry:
According to the epic poem, Shen Xiang caught the moon, and the scholar died violently, Everyone has his own sadness, and you are aloof. Unexpectedly, you encountered Gangfeng and suffered a tragic disaster;
Ever since I was a child, I have been studying and following teachers, and my husband and wife have stayed together. I pity my only son the most. My mother has passed away now, and I have to endure the desolation of my old father. Re-assignment to summon spirits?
Every father, whether right or wrong, whether understood by his children or not, has done his best as a father. In this round of comparison, even if Father Xu is not as good as Father Liang, he is still a respectable father. good father.
Xu Shenru
In all eras, people fight for their father, but they fight for more than just wealth.
There are rich second generations in all eras, but wealth is more than just money.