There is a kind of self-cultivation, that is, not arguing, not showing off.
Source | Taste Zunyi
There is a saying in Caigen Tan: "Where the path is narrow, stay one step and walk with people; When the taste is strong, subtract three points to make people eat. "
People's hearts are full of flesh. If you are convenient to get along with others, others will give you a way out. The heart is one foot wide and the road is ten feet wide. It is indisputable that it is the great wisdom of life.
Lin Yutang wrote in "The Wind is Trembling": "If you don't fight, it's a great fight; if you don't fight, the whole world won't fight with it." Admittedly, it is not cowardice, but generosity and foresight.
I read a fable: There are two little ants, and they see two pieces of bread on the road. But the two pieces of bread are not the same size, and everyone wants to fight for the bigger one.
one said, "I'm young and I eat a lot, so I should take the big one." The other one said, "I am old, so it is not easy to find food. I should give the older one to me."
none of them would give in, and none of them would suffer, so they were red in the face. But no one can compete with anyone, so it is deadlocked. At this moment, a stray dog came, picked up two pieces of bread and ran away quickly.
two ants regret it. If we can be humble to each other, we won't end up with nothing.
in life, we are always like this, often fighting for a sigh of relief, but we both lose. And those who know how to make timely concessions seem to suffer, but they are the big winners in the end.
In the food market, a woman's stall was very popular, which attracted the envy of many colleagues. Those stall owners swept the garbage and fell in front of the woman's booth. But the woman didn't get angry or stop, just cleaned herself up silently.
The stall owner next to the woman couldn't stand this situation, and felt aggrieved for her: "Why don't you get angry and stop them?"
The woman replied with a smile: "In our hometown, during the Chinese New Year, we always sweep the garbage at home, which means that the more garbage there is, the more money there will be at home. Now people send me money every day, how can I be angry! Besides, harmony makes money! If you hurt your harmony, you will also destroy your fortune. "
The stall owners who embarrassed her were particularly ashamed when they learned about it, and never took out the garbage in front of her booth again. And women's business is getting better and better.
As the saying goes, "Take a step back, the sky is wide." Women don't argue, but win the hearts of the people.
There is a saying in Caigen Tan: "Where the path is narrow, stay one step with the pedestrian; When the taste is strong, subtract three points to make people eat. " People's hearts are full of meat. If you are convenient with others, others will leave you a way out.
the heart is one foot wide and the road is one foot wide. It is indisputable that it is the great wisdom of life.
It is said in Augmented Xianwen: "Be patient for a moment, so as not to worry for a hundred days."
as long as people live, it is inevitable that everyone will be angry and sad sometimes. When some people get angry, they make a scene with others, while others can calmly reflect and make themselves stronger.
a long time ago, there was a man named Aidiba in Tibet. When he was angry, he never quarreled with others, but ran silently around his house and land for three times. After each run, I will work harder.
Slowly, his house and land are getting bigger and bigger, but he keeps this habit. Many years later, Aidiba, who was already white-haired, was angry with others again. This time, he couldn't run, but he walked around the land on crutches for three times.
when he finished walking, the sun was almost setting, and he was so tired that he sat panting by the field. His grandson couldn't help asking him why he had to run around the house three times when he was angry.
He said, "When I was young, I thought as I ran, how can I be angry when my house and land are so small? And then work hard. Now, every time I walk, I feel that my house and land are so big, so why bother with others? The gas will disappear. "
You get angry whenever something goes wrong. When you get angry, you quarrel with others. What if you win? It's better to work hard when you are angry and quarreling.
There's a saying: "It's better to complain than to work hard, and it's better to be angry than to live up to expectations. Only by holding your temper can you become an atmosphere." I am deeply impressed.
it's easy to lose your temper, but it's the real skill to control it. A really smart person never compares with others emotionally, but proves everything with his ability.
a person is at his best if he doesn't like it or feel sad, noisy or noisy. Knowing how to be angry is better than living up to expectations, and turning your face is better than turning over, which is the best feng shui in life.
keeping a low profile is an attitude, and not showing off is a pattern. There is a good saying: "there are people outside, and there are days behind." Don't be too ostentatious, you must know how to converge in time.
Once, a male writer was invited to attend a pen meeting. Dressed luxuriantly, he noticed a female writer who was dressed simply, modest, polite and said little. The male writer thought that she must be a lousy author, otherwise she wouldn't be so low-key.
He immediately felt condescending pride and asked, "Miss, are you a professional writer?"
"yes, sir." The woman writer replied.
"So, do you have any masterpieces to publish? Can I read one or two? " He asked again.
"I just write novels, not masterpieces." The female author said with a smile.
The male writer proudly boasted, "You write novels, too? Then we are peers. I have published 339 novels. How many have you published? "
the woman writer said, "I only wrote one."
The male writer was even more proud. He said contemptuously, "Oh, you only wrote one. Can you tell me the name of this novel?"
The female writer said simply, "This novel is called Gone with the Wind."
The male writer who was just talking loudly immediately blushed and shut up. The female writer is margaret mitchell, the author of Gone with the Wind. She wrote only one novel in her life, but people all over the world know her, but no one knows the male writer.
people who like to show off their talents are not necessarily truly talented people. The truly outstanding people never show their mountains and dew, but keep a low profile and be humble and restrained.
Gorky once said, "Wisdom is a gem, and if it is edged with modesty, it will be more brilliant." The higher the level, the more restrained they are, and the less they will show off themselves.
Mr. Yang Jiang once said, "We were so eager for the waves of fate that we finally found out that the most beautiful scenery in life is actually inner calmness and calmness.
We looked forward to the recognition of the outside world so much that we finally found out that the world is our own and has nothing to do with others. " Halfway through life, I understand more and more that many things don't need to be too concerned.
When dealing with people, one step is higher, and retrogression is progress; It is a blessing to be lenient with others, and it is also self-serving to benefit others. It is the most comfortable way to live if you are optimistic and calm.
people who really live fully understand, don't argue, don't make noise and don't show off. Don't be humiliated, just watch the flowers bloom before the court; Whether to stay or not is unintentional, and it is easy to follow the clouds outside the sky.
for the rest of my life, I wish you and I can live a transparent and calm life.