The best family tradition: smell the fragrance of books, hear the quietness, and see the calmness
Loyalty will last for a long time, and poems and books will last for a long time.
Bing Xin once said: "I don't know what home is, but the boredom and sorrow melt and disappear here."
Yes, when a family is together, it doesn’t matter whether there is more money or less money, or whether the room is big or small.
Because home is not a house, but a spiritual haven. You can take off all disguises, no need to be confused, and no wind or frost. Even if it is cold like snow outside the door, the spring breeze is warm inside. The best feng shui for a home is to smell books, hear tranquility, and see calmness.
Smell the fragrance of books
Su Shi said in "Sanhuai Tang Ming": "Loyalty is passed down to the family for a long time, and poems and books are passed down to the next generation." A family can only develop for a long time if it is loyal and well-educated. Historically, there were three talented people in a family, none more so than the three fathers and sons of the Su family: Su Xun, Su Shi, and Su Zhe. The most admirable one should be Su Xun, who trained two talented people and left many classic works for future generations. At that time, Su Xun, as a father, was also very worried. His two sons were naughty and mischievous, and they didn't like to study. He was afraid of repercussions if he forced himself to do so.
So, he decided to educate his children by setting an example, starting with motivation and actively guiding them to make them interested in learning and turn harm into benefit. From the beginning, Su Xun hid in the study every day and read books. When the children saw him secretly, he hid the books and gave them a serious warning not to enter the study.
This has completely aroused the curiosity of the two children. If you don’t let us see it, we insist on seeing it. So, the two children tried their best to go to the study to steal books. In this way, the Su brothers also discovered the joy of reading, and gradually made reading a habit, creating a twin miracle in the history of culture, and the Su family has been passed down for seven generations. As Yao Wentian said in the Qing Dynasty:
"A family that has been in the world for hundreds of years is nothing more than accumulating virtue. The first good thing in the world is studying."
For a family, the best thing is Family heirlooms are not about leaving a house, a car, or money to your children, but they are about teaching your children how to read. You must know that family education accompanies children throughout their lives, and parents are their children's first teachers and lifelong mentors and helpful friends. Only a family that loves reading can benefit children throughout their lives.
Read more. We may be ordinary at first, but we are not ignorant. We may be busy, but we are not boring. Because it can not only broaden our horizons and increase our knowledge, but also make friends with great people and cultivate our sentiments. We can also learn from the wisdom of great people and suppress ignorance. There is no free book in life, and every page counts. Although it cannot make us rich immediately, it can teach our children to find the answers to life and discover the truth, goodness and beauty of life through the knowledge in the book.
Hearing Quietness
In the "Tao Te Ching", there is such a sentence:
"Who can make peace with tranquility? Who can make peace with tranquility?" A glass of turbid water will become clear only if it is left unmoving. The same is true for families. Only by settling down every day, communicating more, and not making noises will they be less irritable. Zeng Guofan, the "first perfect man", took the exam seven times before he was selected as a scholar. Zeng Guofan's family never scolded him. They always spoke to him gently and supported him as always. When he was studying, although his father was strict , but will also communicate with him and ask him to take his time, not to rush, not to understand the previous sentence, not to read the next sentence, not to finish the book, not to continue to the next book. Even when Zeng Guofan went to Beijing to take the exam and failed, he ran out of money. The penniless Zeng Guofan borrowed a hundred taels of silver from his father's friends and bought a set of 23 histories. You know, with the one hundred taels of silver at that time and the income of my father as a teacher, it would take two years without food or water to complete the task. Regarding his son's "wasteful behavior", the father did not scold him, but said calmly, "Read these books carefully, and I will pay off your debt." Since then, Zeng Guofan worked hard and became a high-ranking official in Beijing. No matter how many problems Zeng Guofan encountered later in his life, he learned to communicate well and deal with them calmly. As a result, the Zeng family has been passed down for more than two hundred years, extending to the eighth generation, without a single "prodigal".
It is said that communication is the source of world peace. Indeed, some families, often due to poor communication, often quarrel over trivial matters, making the home restless. A family that can communicate is often quiet and calm. Because they understand that harmony is the way for a family to prosper. There is no need to speak loudly, because you can hear it, and your words are gentle, but it reveals cultivation and quality. There is no need to be high-spirited, because you can see it, and you walk softly, but it contains a kind of grace and charm.
Home is a harbor. It doesn’t need to be big, just quiet. Although it’s not gorgeous, it’s thriving.
See calmness
Some people say: "Children will never obey adults, but they will definitely imitate adults." Yes, as a parent, your words and deeds , will subtly affect the children. When you have an emotional breakdown, whether you habitually reason with others or lose your temper at will, your children will see it.
If you hold your phone and watch videos every day, are lazy and unmotivated, how can you ask your children to study hard and be a hard-working person? You must know that what kind of person you are is what your child is. Such a person!
The most famous figure in the modern history of our country, Liang Qichao, was a politician, thinker, and writer, but what was most powerful about him was not that he had these auras, but that he was an excellent father.
When it comes to educating children, he has his own experience, especially when it comes to children’s scores and test scores. Liang Qichao was never angry. One time, Liang Sizhuang got sixteenth place in an exam. It was particularly sad. When Liang Qichao found out, he said very calmly: Zhuang Zhuang's grades are already very good. Even if he fails the exam, it doesn't matter. Let's take our time. Even when the children were choosing their majors, Liang Qi was calm and calm, respecting the children's wishes very much. Unlike today's parents, who only care about whether they can make money or whether they can find a good job? I focus on my children's grades and wish I could study mathematics, physics and chemistry in the first grade of elementary school.
It is precisely because of this calmness that Liang Qichao's nine children can perform according to their own wishes, and finally three academicians were born, all of them outstanding. In the final analysis, family education is the best education a person can receive. Facing life, the child may be clumsy at first, but as long as we take it easy and don't have too many worries, we will create a good space for the child to grow.
You must know that no one can protect their children from wind and rain all their lives. Good parents are to take a calm role and let their children learn to face the failures in life calmly and easily handle the ups and downs. Life.
The best feng shui for a home is to be calm and calm, allowing the children to live the way they like in their own time zone, unhurriedly and unhurriedly.