A good mother-in-law can take it home and everything.
At present, most young men and women who are married are only children, so a baby, a pearl, a little emperor and a golden branch and jade leaf will inevitably lead to the tension between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. I have seen some mother-in-law threaten to sever the mother-child relationship, and even forced her son and daughter-in-law to divorce, which led to the separation of two young people and even family tragedy. Today, let's not talk about being a daughter-in-law. Teacher Yang will talk about the problems that mother-in-law should pay attention to from the perspective of daughter-in-law. First of all, let's look at the causes of "bad mother-in-law".
1, numerology reasons In the final analysis, getting along with people is a blend of gas fields. The greater the degree of integration, the better two people get along with each other, and the formation of this gas field is largely determined by numerology. When the daughter-in-law marries the door, the aura of the big family changes. If the numerology between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is high, it is not only pleasing to the eye, but even better than the son. On the other hand, if the numerology of mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are mutually exclusive, it will be difficult to be harmonious. Over time, this mutual restraint will become more and more obvious, and eventually it will become incompatible.
2. Economic reasons In today's society, the standard of living and quality of life are undoubtedly pursued by everyone and every family, so the economic gap often becomes the fuse or even the root of family conflicts. If the economic conditions of husband-in-law and husband-in-law are too different, it will make both sides psychologically unbalanced. If a mother-in-law cares about money, it will be particularly prone to disagreement. This is also the reason why China always emphasized that "the door is suitable for the family" in ancient times. Actually, it makes sense.
3. Environmental reasons This environment includes family growth environment, popularity environment, feng shui environment and so on. Some families have been continuing the paternalistic style, so when "the daughter-in-law of many years becomes a woman", they will treat their daughter-in-law in the same way. Do you know that nowadays, daughters-in-law are unfriendly, so conflicts can easily intensify. In the words of her mother-in-law, she is "unable to be a daughter-in-law." Also, because people around you are in this situation, the mother-in-law has to take care of her daughter-in-law, and if she refuses to take care of her, it will be difficult to avoid contradictions. Then there is the improper layout of home feng shui, which leads to the strong relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, or the gas field of mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, and some are angry with their daughter-in-law because of the improper feng shui affecting the relationship between mother and child. All this gave birth to a "bad mother-in-law".
4. Psychological reasons This reason is very complicated. In fact, the most common reason is that the mother-in-law has been taking care of her son for many years, and even some mothers regard her son as the center of life. After the son gets married, the daughter-in-law occupies her position, which is definitely not as good as her mother-in-law's care, so it is inevitable to be "evil" to her daughter-in-law, "I can't do this, I can't do it well" and "I just know to eat, drink and be merry." Other mother-in-law always treats her daughter-in-law as an "outsider", keeping her distance and being sarcastic, but she doesn't know that she forgot that she was once such an "outsider".
5. Son Reason The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law exists because of the existence of "son". This man is a son and a husband, so he plays a very important role in the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. It's really not easy to say men, but after all, this two responsibility is something you have to bear. One is a mother and the other is a wife. If the son's balance is too tilted, or he can't position himself correctly, or he shirks his responsibility, he can't do it. Some mothers-in-law are "evil" to their daughters-in-law, because of this son.
Every family has its own problems, and it is difficult for an honest official to break housework. Since ancient times, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law has always been a bright spot in marriage and family problems, especially in some families, the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law caused by numerology and geomantic omen is often difficult to solve on the surface, and the influence of this invisible force is difficult to find and resolve. Teacher Yang puts forward some suggestions here:
Everything goes well at home. For marriage and family, nothing is more important than family harmony for everyone. Contradictions in the family are actually formed by accumulated trivial matters. Therefore, communication, understanding and tolerance are the basis of family harmony. No matter what role you are in the family, you should first introspect, then put yourself in the other's shoes, and finally understand and tolerate each other. Only in this way can the family be harmonious and everyone's life be happy. When there is a contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, we should first restrain ourselves and keep our distance if necessary, so as not to intensify the contradiction. Through the analysis and diagnosis of numerology and geomantic omen, we can find the corresponding reasons, treat both the symptoms and the root causes, and take effective measures to solve or avoid the root causes. Fighting blindly will only make things more complicated and eventually affect marriage and family. Don't run away or avoid minor contradictions. Many family conflicts, from small problems and small estrangements, turn into snowballs over time, and will break out one day, creating estrangements that are difficult to fill. So, don't think that these little things are trivial to you, but they may not be trivial to others.