Unveil the secret of the richest man’s daughter and see how a socialite becomes it
Unveil the jewel in the palm of the richest man’s eye and see how a famous lady is made
When it comes to “China’s richest man”, many people think of either Jack Ma or Wang Jianlin; in fact, “Southern Fujian has Big businessman, how old is this businessman? He is bigger than any businessman today, at least bigger than Jack Ma and Wang Jianlin. Together they are not as big as Huang Yizhu."
I have long wanted to write about 100 years. The Huang Yizhu family, which has entered the world's business celebrity list and is extremely wealthy, was not caused by Ma Weidu's words or CCTV's "Far Home" filmed "Into the Former Richest Man in Indonesia - Huang Yizhu Family", but by Shu Ting. An essay by "The Great Beauty is Speechless" attracted me.
Many people are very interested in some wealthy and famous ladies who are frequently photographed. This is a big misunderstanding. Many of the jewels in the eyes of billionaires are at best the "show off wealth version" of rich girls. What a lady style. A "Yuan" character, just a few strokes, cannot be refined by money alone without the influence of generations of aristocratic families.
The delicacy of women and the sensitivity of poets give Shu Ting's writing a unique charm. The socialite Huang Xuan in her works looks like this: "Huang Xuan's appearance should not be too ordinary, right? No matter in In her pampered years or during the difficult and difficult period of the Anti-Japanese War, she always had the simplest and most candid smile, clearly revealing her pure and innocent heart, her calm and restrained wisdom, and her understanding of the world without being shocked by honor or disgrace. ”
Huang Xuan was born in 1910. Her ancestral home is in Fujian. Her father, Huang Yizhu, was a tycoon who worked hard in Southeast Asia. The owner of the most luxurious Huang Family Garden on Gulangyu Island in Xiamen, known as "China's No. 1 Villa" It's Huang Yizhu.
The name of Huang Xuan, the eldest daughter of the wealthy Huang Yizhu, has gradually attracted attention due to the spontaneous nostalgia and remembrance of many people. Many people know Huang Xuan as the assistant of Chen Yinke, the master of Chinese studies. They think this is her greatest contribution in life. In fact, Huang Xuan's literary attainments also include profound accumulation and considerable talent. Opening Chen Yinke's "Liu Rushi's Biography", even a single punctuation or annotation must be meticulous and accurate. This requires a lot of sincerity, care, and patience, as well as a lot of intelligence, perseverance, and energy.
Chen Yinke, a master of Chinese studies, was unable to read due to blindness and illness in his later years. In the last thirteen years of his life, with the assistance of Huang Xuan, he completed "On Rebirth" and "A Farewell Biography of Liu Rushi" and other works. Regarding his assistant Huang Xuan, Chen Yinke said with great emotion: "In short, I am still able to correct old manuscripts and write new articles, all with the help of Mr. Huang. Without her help, I would be a complete useless person and achieve nothing."
Huang Xuan, who is the wife of the dean of Lingnan University School of Medicine, first appeared in The Master in November 1951. Chen Yinke, who had been blind for many years, quickly learned from the pronunciation and articulation habits of this person who had never been an assistant before. After judging her "beautiful family style and family style", she immediately invited her in.
Chen Yinke is an upright and stubborn old man. One is one and the other is two. He has never been flattery or hypocritical, so he speaks highly of Huang Xuan, who comes from a junior family.
Huang Xuan’s mother is Huang Yizhu’s first wife, Mrs. Wang, a child bride sent to the wrong door. At that time, the Huang family was very poor. It is said that Mr. Feng Shui saw that the family would be prosperous in the future, so he sent his daughter to be a child bride. Wang is 8 years younger than Huang Yizhu, and her husband is working hard overseas. She and her mother-in-law depend on each other in poverty and are as close as mother and daughter. After the Huang family became prosperous, Wang often taught her daughter, "It is better to do things by yourself than to instruct pigs or dogs" (Minnan dialect). Huang Xuan, who does everything by herself, treats others equally, is simple and sincere, and was brought up by her mother. In the eyes of outsiders, Huang Xuan does not look like the eldest daughter of a wealthy family. Today, many so-called rich and famous ladies act like they are "wealthy and powerful, and their eyes are powerful". What a world of difference!
From Wang to Huang Xuan, what do the two generations of women have in common? Shu Ting said, "I am unable to conduct in-depth research and dare not speak nonsense." I think the family tradition of filial piety and virtuousness had a great influence on Huang Xuan's later "family style and family education".
In 1919, the 51-year-old Huang Yizhu could not bear the extortion and exploitation of the Dutch colonial government and refused to change his nationality. With more than 20 million silver dollars, he returned to China from Semarang, Indonesia, where he had been away for 35 years. The business base moved back to its hometown, which was also rare in the overseas Chinese society at that time.
Huang Xuan spent her childhood in rural areas of southern Fujian. Her experience of being close to the land at an early age cultivated her non-vain, down-to-earth, low-key character.
After her father returned to China, 9-year-old Huang Xuan moved to Gulangyu Island with her mother and grandmother, just at the age of primary school.
Huang Xuan is Huang Yizhu’s eldest child and only daughter. Naturally, she is the beloved apple of the wealthy Huang family. Although his father, Huang Yizhu, was born in a rural village with a low level of education, he was a man with a sharp mind, a tough character, and was good at planning and management. He was determined to make his daughter a real socialite and lady.
Due to his extremely advantageous family background and his emphasis on cultural accomplishment, Huang Yizhu decided to educate his daughter in the traditional Chinese "boudoir education" method and hired famous teachers at home. At most, four famous scholars were hired with high salaries. Teach Chinese, English, music and other courses respectively. Many people still don’t understand that Huang Yizhu himself has been developing in Southeast Asia for so many years. He is well-informed and followed his mother’s instructions. He donated money to build many primary schools, middle schools, and universities in Xiamen Island and Gulangyu Island. He also donated money to Fudan University, Jinan University, Peking University, Nankai University, Lingnan University and other universities do not allow their daughters to go to public education universities.
However, it is precisely because of the special emphasis on Chinese studies represented by the Classics and History Collection during private tutoring that Huang Xuan laid a solid and profound foundation of knowledge and showed the style of a talented woman.
Before she became the assistant of the Imperial Master Chen Yinke, Huang Xuan’s role was that of a housewife who “took care of her husband and raised her children”. Marriage in the old days was based on the orders of parents and the words of matchmakers. Huang Yizhu's criteria for choosing a son-in-law are democratic and open-minded, and he fully respects his daughter's choice.
Huang Xuan, who was born into a noble lady, has her own insistence on marriage. She will never consider young masters from rich families. She must be a decent young man who is knowledgeable and insightful. After being recommended by relatives, Zhou Shoukai, who later served as deputy dean of Sun Yat-sen Medical College and director of the Second Affiliated Hospital of Sun Yat-sen University, became Huang Xuan's "sweetheart" without any thought.
After all, the Zhou family was poorer than the Huang family, which was extremely wealthy at the time, but it was also a scholarly family for generations. Zhou Shoukai's father passed the first class in the palace examination. After resigning and returning to Xiamen, he served as the first library director of Xiamen and the first Chinese principal of Tongwen Middle School. He also organized the "Lujiang Poetry Society". Zhou Shoukai himself can be said to be a young talent. He received higher education at Yanjing University in Beijing and became a well-known expert in internal medicine at a very young age. In 1933, he received a doctorate in medicine from Peking Union Medical College.
It was originally a happy marriage, but their wedding was quite dramatic. On the wedding day, the groom was not there! The Huang family was suddenly in an uproar, with all kinds of indignation, denunciation, suspicion, and even rumors that the groom had married a wife and had children in Shanghai. At this time, Huang Xuan, the daughter of a wealthy family, showed her independent and decisive side. She did not act emotionally, but sent a concise and concise note to Zhou Shoukai, expressing that she was determined to be her lover and would not waver.
Why Zhou Shoukai "retreated at the last moment" has not yet been solved. After many hesitations and waverings, the two officially held their wedding in Shanghai in September 1935. The groom was 29 years old and the bride was 25 years old. They are already grown men and women.
Zhongnan Bank, founded in 1921, was the third Chinese bank approved by the Kuomintang government to issue banknotes after the Bank of China and the Bank of Communications. Huang Yizhu was the main founder. At the wedding, Huang Yizhu publicly invited his beloved son-in-law to serve as deputy general manager of Zhongnan Bank, which he founded, but he was rejected. The next day, Huang Xuan and her husband went north hand in hand, and began to live a life together. Many years later, the husband said to his wife from the bottom of his heart: "If I were to choose again among the many wives of professors, I would still choose you!"
Looking at it this way, becoming a mature and elegant woman The connotation of a socialite must be tempered over time. Master Chen Yinke once said an attribution to Huang Xuan: "If you can take it, let it go." In fact, it is all about the principle of dealing with people by measuring them.
"The spirit of independence and the thought of freedom" are the academic principles that Mr. Chen Yinke adheres to throughout his life. Fu Sinian calls him "the professor of professors" and Chen Yinke is "only one person emerges in three hundred years." Without Huang Xuan's appearance, it would be difficult to imagine that Chen Yinke, who was blind and suffering from diseases, would have had a "second spring" academically in the last ten years of his life. No wonder he said this about Huang Xuan: Without her, I am completely useless. But since she was officially appointed as a teaching assistant by Sun Yat-sen University in 1955, until her retirement in 1973, and until her death in 2001, she always positioned herself as a teaching assistant, and her indifference to fame and fortune was vividly reflected in this socialite.
What is the quality and spirit of a socialite? I think it should be in line with the noble spirit.
Some people say that "it takes three generations to cultivate an aristocrat." This is actually true. Scholar Liu Zaifu summed up the aristocratic spirit in four points: first, self-esteem, second, self-knowledge, third, self-discipline, and fourth, indifference to fame and fortune. Nowadays, almost all people are talking about making money, and it would not be a bad idea to imitate some aristocratic or socialite temperament!
Is Huang Xuan a noble? Of course not. Although his father Huang Yizhu later became a wealthy businessman, he was also a "barber". His "sent to Nanyang" was also due to a quarrel with the local gentry to avoid "settling accounts in the future." In today's terms, Huang Xuan is a typical "rich second generation" and not a descendant of a noble. How can she show the world the aristocratic temperament of "beautiful family tradition" and become an admired socialite?
1. Integrating humanistic traditions into family style and family education
"Plowing, studying and inheriting the family" is a humanistic tradition that has been passed down from generation to generation by the people at the bottom for thousands of years. It is a culture that is deeply ingrained in the bones of the Chinese people. Inheritance is even more reflected in the family style and family education. Although Huang Yizhu came from a poor background, he was deeply influenced by this humanistic tradition. Although "boudoir" education was not in line with the times, the original intention of education was simple. Without the immersion of a "farming and reading family" tutor, it would be impossible to cultivate the aristocratic temperament of a celebrity, let alone assist Chen Yinke in completing a historical monograph of nearly one million words.
2. Traditional moral character is the foundation for the formation of celebrities
In the troubled times of the old society when the country was weak and poor, a generation of wealthy businessmen took so much pains to educate their children, but today the country is strong and peaceful. , those rich people often either indulge or pamper their children. It is difficult to give a clear answer to the phenomenon of "no more than three generations of wealth". However, one thing is certain, that is, the abandonment of tradition is too much to pursue fame and fortune to stay in the world.
From Huang Xuan’s body, we can see the light of traditional virtues, and from the inheritance of wealth, there is money but no “merits” (making words, virtues, and meritorious services). To a lesser extent, it is family The failure of education may, on a larger scale, bring disaster to your company as well!