Has anyone ever experienced the pain of losing a child?
Married at the age of 38, pregnant in the second year, and later found ectopic pregnancy, which has been ruptured and bleeding, and the left fallopian tube was removed by laparotomy; Four years later, she was pregnant again, stunted and miscarried. Two pregnancies, because the fetus is very small, I don't have much contact with my mother, or maybe I don't like children very much, so I don't have much pain, but it brings me physical harm and psychological fatigue, so I decided not to have children, so I have no children so far.
My friend lost his son 13 years old last year. I saw the pain in my eyes, and it was in my heart. Their son suddenly fell ill, and it took a day from the discovery to the child's departure, and he was completely unprepared. A year has passed, and the family's life is still in pain. During the time when my son left, my mother hardly ate, drank or slept, but my strong mother tried to get out of her life, hoping to welcome a new life, while my father went to Lacrimosa every day, feeling that life was meaningless. They feel that life without children has no direction, so they are ready to have a child, but they have been in a bad mood and are trying to adjust. I hope they can have a baby as soon as possible, so that their busyness can reduce their thoughts about their lost son. Children have become the most important part of their lives because they have experienced the happiness brought by children and the dribs and drabs that accompany them to grow up. When this part suddenly disappears, life has no center of gravity and direction. If you want to change this life, perhaps the best way is to have another baby and give life emotional sustenance and hope. I sincerely wish all their wishes can come true.
Have you ever experienced or heard of this coincidence of natural disasters and man-made disasters? It happened in our village. It is said that it has been seventeen or eighteen years now, and the husband and wife have been married for five or six years. The young couple have always respected each other and given birth to a son, and their lives are smooth and comfortable. They also bought a 50 tractor, which is specialized in hauling materials for pole factory (pole). On the way to a delivery, the car turned into a ditch and people were crushed to death by cement poles. Only after her mother-in-law cooked enthusiastically did she recover. Less than two years later, when her son was playing with friends, he caught a sparrow in the power distribution room and was electrocuted again. It never rains but it pours. Daughter-in-law thought she could bring up her son and marry another daughter-in-law to live a good life. Who knows, God doesn't forgive me, but my daughter-in-law has no hope and has to marry someone else to be a stepmother. I married a village not far from our village. This man lost his wife, too. There are two children, a man and a woman, who were not born there. They also married the two children in front of their own children, and now they are all grandmothers. Life is wonderful. A few years ago, I came here to visit my mother-in-law to express my gratitude, and she also came to offer her condolences when she died. Since then, she has never been here, but in our village. This is the actual situation in our village, not made up.
I have experienced this firsthand:
That was decades ago, I had a family brother who was ten years younger than me. I contracted a factory at that time, and he was my buyer. He was 20, 67 years old.
At that time, I was still in the country. He has a sister who is from our hometown and lives in another village. That day, his sister's TV broke down. The village is small and there are no TV repairmen. Her sister called her brother to bring a TV repairman. His brother found a mechanic who drives a tricycle. It's already afternoon. After the TV was repaired, his sister cooked and drank for them.
It was already evening on the way home. When it was less than 1km from our village, there was a fork in the road with an abandoned telephone pole in the middle. At that time, my brother drank wine and drove a little fast. As it was dark, he ran head-on into a telephone pole and was killed. The entourage, standing on the bucket, was thrown out of the front three or four times.
He went to the village alone, but he was afraid to tell my brother's mother. He told me about his brother's wife. They have only been married for five years and have a daughter. They are very affectionate.
When his wife heard about it, she fainted at that time. A few minutes later, he found several neighbors. The neighbor told his daughter-in-law, don't tell your mother yet, call the funeral home quickly, don't take it home, and send it directly to the funeral home, so that the child can't tell him about the milk. So my brother was cremated and buried.
When the old mother saw that her eldest son didn't come home for five or six days, she asked the child, that is, the granddaughter. I call that old lady aunt. She is 6 1 year old, sitting on the edge of the kang. Her granddaughter didn't forget, so she told her that my father was killed by a car. When she heard this, she fell to the ground and vomited blood. There is someone in the room. The old lady was out of breath when she came near.
You see, how painful it is for an old man to lose his son. The edge of the kang was less than two feet from the ground and fell dead at once. You can see the heart-to-heart relationship between mother and son. It's called grief. I attended my aunt's funeral.
I was born at 30.
The baby left me 29 days after birth.
It was February 2020, when the epidemic broke out for the first time and the whole country was closed. Originally, my mother-in-law was going to take care of the baby, but because of the epidemic, the ticket she bought was also refunded.
Because there was no car, I had contractions the day I gave birth. I have no experience and I can't contact the doctor. My husband didn't agree to go early, but he felt that he was dying. There is no taxi at the door, and I can't get on it. There happened to be a guard booth, so he called us for help 120. When I arrived at the hospital, I felt that I was going to give birth, but the nurse said that I couldn't give birth here after checking my condition, and now there is an epidemic. So I really tried to go to the delivery room, and then I had a hard time giving birth. As a result, the child was choked by the water in his lungs and was admitted to the neonatal department. After leaving the hospital, I was confined at home. Only my husband and I were inexperienced and in a bad mood. Children always cry when they are hungry, and I don't have much milk. Husband refused to buy milk powder, insisted on breast milk, and finally the child was so hungry that he went to the hospital. I really want to have a baby. I'm sorry about the baby. ...
A few days after the child was hospitalized, the hospital transferred us. When I got home, the child finished drinking milk that night and left at five in the morning.
It was really painful at that time. I cried loudly, and my mother came. When I cry, she cries with me. It's really painful.
Reflecting on yourself, I really don't deserve to be a parent, so the child also chose to leave.
It's been more than two years now, and I haven't had children, because if I want to be a qualified parent, I have to change myself, learn and grow. Get ready for the baby next year.
When the first child was pregnant for more than five months, I quarreled. Run away from home in the middle of the night, slide down the stairs and fall down the stairs. The amniotic fluid is broken, and time is running out. 120' s doctor came and said he would induce labor, but there was no guarantee. In fact, children have problems with early examination. A large hemangioma grew in the uterus, which oppressed the child's growth and development, but he kept deceiving himself and letting the child grow freely. Although the doctor said it was good for the children and good for us to leave. He is not healthy in the first place. Six years later, my heart still hurts when I think about it. My first pregnancy, my first child, my first son, just left. My heart still hurts, but tears still flow out. I wish my child good health and safe growth when reborn. We don't deserve to be his parents. We are not mature enough and stable enough. I hope I can have the honor to continue my mother-child relationship in my next life. _ Hemangioma is a small amount of bleeding in placenta previa, but it does not flow out. It was formed in red plum. The culprit is that I didn't listen to the doctor's advice and have a good rest, but I went out to the crazy street and waited for more bleeding before I found it was too late. Now that I have a son and a daughter, I will correct my mistakes and try to be a good mother.
On the sixth day, the baby left unexpectedly, and his heart was dying. Life is worse than death, and the days are like years! Close your eyes and you will see his lovely appearance, and your ears are full of his voice. It's only been three months, and every time I think about it, I burst into tears! No one knows how much I love him. I hold him and laugh silly every day when he is around. Now the warmth in my arms is still there, and people are separated by yin and yang! I obviously feel that I can't live any longer, but when I see my parents in their fifties and my lovely five-year-old daughter, I still have to support them and take care of them! My heart hurts, my heart hurts, I'm dying!
I am one of them! My child is very young and has only been with us for about 500 days! But I got a serious illness: tumor! I don't want to elaborate on how difficult the treatment process is! The more you talk, the more painful it is! He left me for more than six years, and I have been afraid to look back at his photos and recall those painful days! My husband is almost 50, but our youngest son is only one and a half years old. I am in my early forties and can't take care of the children, but I still want to be strong! Because we are all afraid of losing again! I don't want my child's academic performance to be average, as long as he is healthy and happy!
Sister neighbor's granddaughter, little guy is lively and lovely. Every winter and summer vacation, children will come to grandma's house to play. I went to my sister's house that time and took her out to play. Young and sensible. I went out to play in hot weather and bought a bottle of water and some bread for my children. The seven-year-old child said to me, "Aunt, I can't have it." The child's lips are chapped, and I said, "Never mind, drink quickly." The girl said, "Aunt, I'll go back and give you money." I said, "My aunt just bought something to eat, so I don't have to pay." The girl said sweetly, "Thank you, Aunt."
As soon as she got home, the girl went to her grandmother and told her that her aunt had just bought her water and bread. My neighbor's aunt will come and give me money at once. We dragged her, but I refused. I said, "We are all neighbors, just a few dollars for snacks. Isn't it usually for my sister and children? " Aunt just gave up.
In front of my aunt is the shop, and in the back is where I live. Just because my aunt's business was not busy, we started talking. I said, "Aunt, your granddaughter is really sensible." Aunt said: This is the child of her eldest daughter. Because parents go to work all the year round and grandparents are old enough to take their granddaughter to their hometown in the first grade, the children have been staying at home since the first grade. Mother cooks lunch before going out in the morning, and puts it in the microwave when the child is hungry. Children are very sensible. Knowing that their parents are busy, they play with toys at home and don't make any noise.
Later, my aunt said, "Come to me during the winter and summer vacations. My mother will send the children to the car from Hangzhou, say hello to the driver and let me take care of them all the time. When I arrive, I will be informed to pick them up at the station." This child is also very independent. This is how he came from the kindergarten class during the winter and summer vacations.
Winter goes and summer comes, and I can see a little girl when I go to my sister's house every year. The little girl is also very smart, and she especially likes her grandmother's house. The little girl said, "Grandma's house is good. Grandma has my favorite food and will tell me stories. " Aunt also said: "My granddaughter will grow a few centimeters taller every time she comes, and she also said that she especially likes this little granddaughter." The little girl skipped over and kissed her grandmother's face: "I like grandma best, too."
Later, my sister moved and never saw the little girl again.
A few years later, my sister and I went shopping in front of my aunt's shop and told my sister, I wonder if my aunt's granddaughter has come this year? My sister pulled me to the side of the road and whispered to me, "I tell you, my aunt's granddaughter died last year." I said, how is that possible? Teenage girl, are you kidding? My sister looked serious and said, "I left before the Mid-Autumn Festival last year." I looked surprised and still couldn't believe it.
My sister and I found a coffee shop and talked. The girl suddenly fell ill the year before last, and she had a headache before, and her family didn't pay attention to it. Later, I fainted with a headache and my parents were taken to the hospital. After the doctor checked, he told the girl that the disease was brought in by the fetus and was not cured the day after tomorrow. In addition, the child is now in the fifth grade, so the academic pressure broke out. The situation is quite grim now. The child's mother asked the doctor, "Is there any help?" The doctor said, "Look at the follow-up treatment."
Later, my mother resigned and stayed with her daughter. Because the child is in an empty stomach due to surgery and chemotherapy, he can only play nutrient solution.
A few days before the Mid-Autumn Festival, hospitals frequently issued critical notices. Mother knelt down and asked the doctor, "Try to change my life for her. For her, she is only 1 1 years old and has not seen the world well." The doctor was helpless: "Finish her wish." The mother informed the children's playmates that all relatives came to see the girl in turn. Grandma looked at her skinny granddaughter lying in bed, and even had no strength to speak. Grandma kept crying. The daughter grabbed her grandmother's skirt: "Mom, go out and cry, don't let Xinrui see it."
Grandma knelt in the white corner of the hospital in the middle of the night and prayed devoutly: "Please be merciful to the Bodhisattva and let the new girl finish the Mid-Autumn Festival."
That night, when there was a thunderstorm, the girl sobbed softly, "Dad, I'm so scared." Father's trembling hands covered the girl's ears. "Daughter, I'm not afraid, I'm not afraid." Tears in my father's eyes can't stop flowing.
Things are not solved, girl. She left without seeing the morning sun. After all, she didn't spend the Mid-Autumn Festival as she wished.
Grandma still remembers buying the girl's favorite bread, and all kinds of bread are on the table. She was too weak to open her mouth, trying to smell the smell of bread, and squeezed out the last smile on her pale face: "Grandma, I want to be a pig in the next life, and I will leave when I am full."
I want to be a complete pig and an angel in my next life. Did you hear that?
A few years later, they had another child. When the child was carried out, the mother prayed with trembling hands: "It must be a daughter, it must be a daughter." When the doctor took the child to see his mother years ago, it was a girl. Mother's lips trembled and she cried, "My heart is back." The doctor discouraged: "Don't get too excited, it's easy to bleed." Mother fought back tears from the corner of her eyes but kept flowing, just like blood in her body.
Mother said, "I didn't believe in Buddhism, but now, reincarnation is my last dream."
Shortly after his wife had a caesarean section, her husband asked for another child. The wife thinks she is an elderly woman, having a caesarean section, and doesn't want any more. The husband threatened to divorce, have another child and have another daughter.
The wife asked: Have you ever thought about me?
The husband put his hands tightly over his ears and choked, "I'm afraid, I'm really afraid."
The pain of losing her daughter makes her father miserable every thunderstorm night.
The pain of losing a daughter was frightened by that sentence, and the mother gave birth to another girl.
Two girls, Zhang Jirui, three girls, Zhang Nianrui.
Ji Tongji has a heritage.
From then on, Mid-Autumn Festival, don't watch the full moon, don't eat moon cakes.
In life, the loss of a husband in middle age and a child in old age is the most painful and sad thing!
Our family has a cousin, Ma, born in 1966, who is one year older than his wife, and now she is 57-8 years old!
Cousin and sister-in-law got married in 1989, and gave birth to a lovely son in the winter of 1990, which is also the only child in the family!
My little nephew was smart since he was a child, and his grades were among the best in his school days. After graduating from college, I worked in a chemical factory, where I found a happy girl and fell in love!
On the eve of the Spring Festival in 20 15, they got engaged and got married with the blessing of their parents and relatives.
Live together!
After the Spring Festival, my cousin found someone to choose a wedding date for her nephew and decided to get married in August!
Cousins are busy preparing a new house for their son, buying home appliances and furniture, looking for a wedding company, an engagement car and booking a hotel!
At this time, the prospective daughter-in-law was pregnant, and although the cousins were busy spending money, they were also happy to keep their mouths shut and everything was ready, just waiting for the wedding day.
But just one month before the wedding, one night more than 30 days before the wedding, my nephew had an accident and was unconscious. He died after three or four days in the intensive care unit!
The daughter-in-law who has never been to the house is pregnant for more than five months and has been in the hospital with her nephew for a long time.
After the nephew died, the daughter-in-law who didn't go through the door also went to the hospital to have an abortion operation after her parents persuaded her. There will be a family of three soon. Her father left, her child died and her daughter-in-law married someone else!
The pain of my cousin and daughter-in-law cannot be described in words. They don't eat or drink, holding pictures of their sons and crying day and night. For more than half a month, both of them have lost weight!
It's been a year or two, and the couple are slowly coming out of their grief!
It has been seven or eight years since my nephew's accident, and my cousins have not adopted other children. They are all 57-year-old people, love and take care of each other!
Hey! Families who have lost their independence, elderly people who have lost their independence, and nephews who can never come back!