50-year-old woman looking for first love wealth _ 70-year-old woman looking for first love 50 years ago

19 19 At the beginning of this year, the Lins' home in Pingbanzai, Zhangzhou and Hutongkou, Xixiang had been renovated.

This year, Lin Jiaer Lin Lang Yutang, who studied abroad for 4 years, returned to her hometown to get married according to her parents' orders; In the jubilant courtyard, Lin Yutang, 24, is sad, as if there are a lot of difficulties waiting for him ahead.

The arrangement of the Lins' fiery red sky attracted the old people sitting in the street, and they all raised eyebrows and sighed:

It is said that Lin Jiaxiu has only been studying abroad for four years, and Miss Liao Jiaer has been waiting for four years. Don't be disappointed with such infatuation …

I have to say: some seemingly unbreakable love relationships take time to decompose and clarify.

As a famous writer in modern times, Lin Yutang's sweet marriage with his first wife Liao Cuifeng became a romantic story in the past of the Republic of China. However, few people know that even if they grow old together, the word "Chen Jinduan" is a pity that Lin Yutang loves.

She was his first love and Bai Yueguang that he will never forget.

But it is this regrettable love that makes Lin Yutang find true love in his destiny.

Lin Yutang: I fell in love with my best friend and sister, but because of the different family background, I created a regrettable love.

There is a saying in the Peony Pavilion by Tang Xianzu: I don't know what it is, but it goes on and on.

For the famous writer Lin Yutang, the first love for Chen Jinduan is a lifelong obsession.

The two met in 19 12, which was an era of great changes.

This year, 17-year-old Lin Yutang was admitted to Shanghai St. John's University with excellent results; During his college years, he won many important awards for his outstanding knowledge and performance, and became a hot figure on campus for a time.

This sensation, even the St. Mary's Girls' School next door is talking about him.

Since then, this gentle boy with poor family and excellent grades has become a campus star admired by girls.

During his school days, he met Chen Xizuo, a fellow villager. It was also under the introduction of my good friend Chen Xizuo that I got to know Chen Jinduan, a big miss whom Chen Jia respected and loved.

Chen Jinduan is a painter. Influenced by art, she has an elegant and quiet temperament, and her smile reveals a classical and clear rhythm.

At the first sight, Lin Yutang, who was born romantic, completely fell.

The best thing in the world is to grow old together at a glance; Chen Jinduan, whose temperament is blue, has long heard of Lin Yutang's Excellence and fame. After meeting him, a beautiful throb is slowly fermenting between the two.

At school, Lin Yutang and Chen Jinduan started dating for two years. With the gradual understanding and joy, this precious friendship has gradually turned into romantic love.

For this past, Lin Yutang once wrote in "Eighty Books":

"When I return to Xiamen from St. John, I always stay at a friend's house because I love my friend's sister."

Young and ignorant love is usually accompanied by reckless stubbornness; And because it often burns itself like a flame.

For Lin Yutang and Chen Jin Duan, who are in free love, they seem to forget that this relationship has never been a competition, and it has never been close.

For his daughter's love, father Chen Tianen has long seen it in his eyes.

He appreciates Lin Yutang's talent and thinks he has great prospects, but he can't accept such a son-in-law.

Just because Lin Yutang, born in 1895, grew up in the most ordinary family, his father is just a disgraced person.

A priest of the Christian church.

Being able to oppose this marriage on the grounds of family differences, Chen Jia must also have the strength to be reckoned with.

After careful summary, it is not difficult to find the difference between the two:

Chen Jinduan's father, Chen Tianen, followed Sun Yat-sen in his early years and lived in the Philippines after the defeat of the Yuan War. Later, he returned to China to settle in Gulangyu, set up Chen Tianen's Medicine Bureau and founded Fujian Paper Company, becoming a domestic famous brand exported to Nanyang and one of the best businessmen in Xiamen.

The outstanding family background also doomed Chen Jinduan to become a famous lady for rich children to compete for the first place; Whether in love or marriage, she needs a match, which is not only related to the happiness of her marriage, but also to the family marriage that the Chen family needs.

Although Lin Yutang is very talented, it is still unknown when this talent will be appreciated.

As a father, Chen Tianen can't put his daughter's happiness in the distant future.

One is a pampered girl, and the other is an ordinary child of a poor priest; Such a disparity in family circumstances forced Chen Tianen to make a helpless move to beat Yuanyang.

But out of appreciation for Lin Yutang, Chen Tianen didn't separate the two by tough measures, but said to Lin Yutang earnestly:

Liao Cuifeng, the second wife of Liao Jia next door, is virtuous and beautiful. "。 If you like, I can match you. There's definitely no problem. "

Chen Tianen's remarks also made Lin Yutang feel uneasy and instantly understood:

My humble background has become the biggest threshold of love.

He is unhappy in all aspects, but the gentleness and elegance of the scholar can only make him hide these emotions in his heart.

Not long after this conversation, Chen Tianen arranged a good marriage for his daughter.

Lin Yutang almost collapsed when he learned the news, but his family was very happy to hear that Chen Tianen was a matchmaker for his son.

They suggested to him: Why not take a gift to Liao Jia?

Lin Yutang didn't want to, and finally the elder sister came:

"Chen Tianen home tide, regardless of his face not to offend him? Even if you marry Chen Jinduan, can you afford it? Besides, I just want you to go to Liao Jia to see if people will like you. Don't know yet? "

Perhaps the sharp words completely hurt Lin Yutang's self-esteem and sensitivity.

As if in a fit of pique, he put on his ragged robe and came to visit Liao Jia with the cake he bought in the street.

At this time, Lin Yutang was in a sad lovelorn mood, and naturally had no expectations for this marriage.

But how could he have thought that this deliberate act of dressing up ugly actually made him meet the true love of his life.

I was arranged by the "prospective father-in-law" for blind date, married my girlfriend and neighbor, and wrote a love story.

Liao Jia is also a local wealthy businessman in Xiamen; Not only in industry and real estate, but also a well-known local banker.

And the second young lady Liao Cuifeng, although born in a rich family, has no pride; Because she and Lin's sister Lin are classmates, everyone in Lin's family especially likes her.

When I first met Liao Cuifeng, Lin Yutang gave me the impression that she was a simple and dignified girl with a high nose and a round face.

At the suggestion of the Lins, Lin Yutang invited Liao Cuifeng to have dinner at home.

Unexpectedly, as a young lady, Liao Cuifeng not only helped in the kitchen, but also took the initiative to clean up the dishes and chopsticks after dinner.

It was this move that gave Lin Yutang a new understanding of this rich girl.

Lin Yutang wrote in his memoirs in his later years:

"She went to my house for dinner, had a good chat with her mother, and saw her clumsy way of washing dishes. I know she will be the one I want to marry home. "

If the appearance of Chen Jinduan made Lin Yutang have a romantic fantasy, then informal Liao Cuifeng, with his simplicity and dignity, made Lin Yutang really feel the fireworks of daily necessities.

Lin Yutang and Liao Cuifeng are more familiar and cordial in the matchmaking of the Lins.

But from ancient times to the present, every romantic love can't escape the secular considerations about the right match.

As well as wealthy businessmen, the concept of family status appears in the Chen family, and naturally it will appear in.

Liao Jia's mother was puzzled by her daughter's choice. She patiently persuaded:

"When I accepted Lin Yutang's blind date, I was supposed to give Chen Jia face; But you know his family situation. He is the son of a priest, and he has no money to support you. How could he marry you? "

Hearing her mother's advice, Liao Cuifeng's answer was firm:

"I marry him, what does it have to do with money? ! He is good to me, what does it matter if he is poor! "

What does it matter if you are poor? This sonorous remark deeply touched Lin Yutang's heart.

Yes, any marriage can't escape the word "poor" in the end.

Liao Cuifeng and Chen Jin made different choices for the same consideration.

One is bound by the resistance of his family, and the other defends the freedom of love with unwavering courage.

There are also some sighs: Perhaps it is because of Chen Jinduan's lack of courage and perseverance that the relationship between her and Lin Yutang finally went to a state of forgetting the rivers and lakes.

For young Lin Yutang, this ending is also somewhat ironic.

He was most eager to get the answer from Chen Jinduan, but Liao Cuifeng gave it to him unswervingly.

Therefore, the sensitivity and self-esteem of the literati once again made him deeply doubt:

Can love with a big family gap really lead to happiness?

In order to escape this feeling that he could not guess, he finally chose to study abroad.

I hope to use time to heal the wound and find the answer about love in time.

In this way, Lin Yutang studied abroad for four years and Liao Cuifeng waited for four years.

She is not afraid of the passing of youth and appearance, but afraid that the last person who is with her is no longer him …

The ecstatic waiting deeply touched the Lins' elders; So he sent a telegram urging Lin Yutang to return to China to get married.

After living in a foreign country for four years, Lin Yutang can't let go of the regret of losing Chen Jinduan, but there is a stronger peace of mind than this regret, because the love he once questioned has Liao Cuifeng's answer: companionship is the longest confession.

19 19 1 month, Lin Yutang and Liao Cuifeng got married with the blessing of their relatives.

On the wedding day, Lin Yutang burned a wedding paper in front of all the guests. He said:

"The marriage certificate is only used in divorce, and we will never be separated in this life."

Shortly after marriage, Lin Yutang took his wife Liao Cuifeng to study in Europe.

No matter how hard life is, he doesn't want to accept Liao Jia's aid, just because he doesn't want to be gossiped: he married for Liao Jia's money.

Liao Cuifeng understands her husband's mind. Since she got married, she has never asked for a penny at home. When studying in a strange country, the husband and wife lived on a small amount of scholarships.

The most difficult day: Liao Cuifeng, who was sick, didn't dare to go to the hospital at all, because all the money had to be saved for emergency.

In order to save money, Liao Cuifeng learned to cook and wash clothes from an early age. The growth of this hard life has made the relationship between husband and wife deeper.

He fell in love with his first wife for more than 50 years, and insisted on finding his first love in his later years. His wife praised him as the most infatuated.

1923, the husband and wife returned from Germany.

After life was completely settled, Liao Cuifeng gave birth to three lovely daughters for Lin Yutang, and the husband and wife were as loving as ever.

During the Republic of China, literary figures came forth in large numbers, and Lin Yutang became more and more famous.

We should know that in the Republic of China, which pursues a new life, there are not a few people who "like the new and hate the old" in the name of breaking the arranged marriage. Especially in the cultural circle, many accomplished literati will choose to abandon their old wives and marry trendy women.

Therefore, cheerful Liao Cuifeng also made fun of Lin Yutang:

"People's suit professors have dumped old ladies with yellow faces to marry trendy girls, so you don't want to catch up with this fashion?"

Who laughed? Lin Yutang, who has always been humorous, listened carefully. He answered his wife seriously: "I can't live without you."

Simple eight words, but tell the tacit understanding of many years of marriage.

But even though they have been together for more than 50 years, Lin Yutang played an "absurd" joke.

In his later years, he was always confused and even felt strange when he saw his daughter.

But even in his twilight years, his first love, Chen Jinduan, is unforgettable.

On one occasion, Chen Jinduan's sister-in-law made a special trip to visit Lin Yutang. Seeing his long-lost friend, Lin Yutang suddenly asked, "Is she okay now?"

When he learned that his first love was still living in Xiamen, Lin Yutang trembled and propped up half of his body from the wheelchair. He couldn't wait to beg: "Take me to see her!"

Her husband's gaffes didn't make Liao Cuifeng angry.

She just patiently dissuaded her and said with a wry smile, "Yutang! Don't be crazy, how can you go to Xiamen if you can't walk? "

This simple sentence also reveals the secret of their 50-year cooperation, that is, Liao Cuifeng gave Lin Yutang unlimited understanding and tolerance.

It can be said that Lin Yutang's unforgettable first love has always been a "secret" that his wife and daughters have long known.

Lin Yutang went to Shanghai to teach and learned that her husband's first love was also in Shanghai. Liao Cuifeng invited her to be a guest at home.

With a generous personality, she never cares about these past events, and even often makes fun of her husband with these things.

According to Mrs. Lin Taiyi, Lin Yutang's daughter, "My parents are very affectionate and my mother is full of self-confidence, so I took the trouble to tell us proudly that my father loved Aunt Jindian, but it was not Chen Tianen's daughter who looked down on him at that time, but Liao Cuifeng said that historic sentence:' It doesn't matter if you have no money'. Mom smiled when she said this. Father smiled uneasily and his face was a little red. "

Being able to take the initiative to meet his first love at home is hard for ordinary people to have, which also shows Liao Cuifeng's cleverness and transparency.

Accompanied by her husband for many years, she knows too well: what Lin Yutang will never forget is not the first love, but the ignorant youth that is difficult to turn back; It is not love that he can't let go, but the difference in family status hurts his dignity and decency.

Because of this understanding, she and her husband have been married for more than 50 years, and there are no secrets deliberately concealed; Because of this transparency, she can understand her husband's real loss and regret.

Accompanied by Lin Yutang, Liao Cuifeng is proud.

Because it was her persistence and courage to protect this feeling that year, she also had a happy family today.

Because of happiness, she will be as proud as a child:

The fortune teller said she was a lucky person, so she proudly said to Lin Yutang:

"You have been very successful these years, perhaps because of my blessings."

Yes, without Liao Cuifeng's efforts, there would be no stable family today; Without Liao Cuifeng's understanding and tolerance, there would be no literary creation of Lin Yutang without losing innocence and fantasy.

He relied on her and thanked her so much that years later, he still asked for kisses and hugs, and even called her "mom" with the children. When he meets something happy, he shares it with his "mother" at the first time.

The old-fashioned marriage is to get married without falling in love, but in this traditional marriage, Lin Yutang got deep love and learned how to love.

So in his later years, he proudly said to his younger generations, "I turned an old-fashioned marriage into a beautiful love."

In Lin Yutang's two feelings, there is more or less the essence of love.

Some people say that first love is unforgettable and hard to let go.

Indeed, young and ignorant love always has no substance, it is pure and clear as jasper; But it is this pure blessing that has no realistic foundation that makes it more and more fragile.

Although Lin Yutang and Chen Jinduan are both gifted scholars and beautiful women, this relationship cannot stand any test because of its fragility.

For Lin Yutang, Chen Jinduan used to be his Bai Yueguang, but he couldn't love it after all. And Liao Cuifeng is the lover who accompanied him to watch the fireworks all over the world.

After knowing each other and cherishing each other for 50 years, Liao Cuifeng also turned herself into Zhu Shazhi, completely melting into Lin Yutang's flesh and blood.

So he said frankly: Without Liao Cuifeng, I'm afraid I can't live.

Think of what Zhang Ailing said in Half-Life:

"Love is not passion, nor nostalgia, but time, and time has become a part of life."

Born as a human being, everyone may experience some regrettable and lonely past events in his life.

But with the passage of time, we will eventually find that what can really be called "love" is precisely the person who accompanied him through the years.

As Lin Yutang said: "A happy life is nothing more than four things. One is to sleep in your own bed; The second is to eat the dishes cooked by parents; The third is to listen to the sweet words of your lover; The fourth is to play games with children. "

It seems dull and boring, but it is the real freedom of life.

Join hands to grow old together, meet again in the afterlife, and write the most beautiful story of the Republic of China with deep affection.

1969, Lin Yutang lit a pair of wedding candles like a child in the living room of Lin Jia Garden at the foot of Yangming Mountain in Taipei.

This day is the golden wedding anniversary of his 50-year friendship with his wife Liao Cuifeng.

He wanted to give his wife a romance, and friends and relatives who heard the news came to decorate it for him.

On this day, like a child, Lin Yutang shyly took out a gold brooch with the words "Jinyuyuan" cast on it; In addition, he bought a bracelet for Liao Cuifeng and put it on her personally.

He is some mouth shut, even some satisfied, said:

This is in recognition of your dedication to your family for so many years and your many self-sacrifices.

His wife was crying and laughing, so he simply let go of his courage and gave his wife a deep kiss in front of relatives and friends.

Accompanying is the longest love, and staying together is the best marriage. She and he, hand in hand after all, wrote a romantic love that the world envied.

10 years later, Lin Yutang died of illness and was buried in the backyard of his home at the foot of Yangming Mountain.

In the face of the sudden departure of her lover, Liao Cuifeng could never get used to it; She will talk to the tombstone and share with her buried husband the new things she has encountered and the housework she does every day.

The tone was calm and gentle, as if the man were still by her side.

1987, the old man Liao Cuifeng, as if waiting for a long time, quietly closed his eyes.

Before her death, she was still wearing the gold bracelet that Lin Yutang gave her at the golden wedding ceremony.

If you look closely, you will find that the gold bracelet is engraved with Joely's famous "old lover":

"Concentric as caring, a wisp of love; Time flies, silver hair and thin temples.

If ghosts are different, the fairy house should be sad; If you want to laugh, it's only after a brief encounter. "

Write clearly enough:

If there is an afterlife, he will still meet her again, or he will live and die with her and never give up!

She must know the promise he made in those days.

Because I knew and expected, I walked peacefully, like I had an old dream that I didn't want to wake up.

In her dream, she must have met the right person in Wen Ya.

Perhaps still frolicking, watching each other's temples turn white and their teeth become loose;

Maybe she teased his first love again, watching him blushing and trying to argue, but smiling.

How to meet and get along with each other is no longer important;

If there is an afterlife, the beauty of this love will surely stay with each other for another life in ordinary and trivial romance.