20 18 Chat information about the routine of picking up girls

In the complicated social life, people will always encounter all kinds of puzzles, especially in emotion. In fact, to sum up, people will only satisfy two things when they grow up, one is career and the other is emotion.

Therefore, many people think that I can get girls with money while working hard for my career. Is that really the case?

First of all, feelings are not bought with money. Secondly, there are too many people around me who drive good cars, have good money and are not bad-looking, but they just can't find a girl, and they find it difficult to find a girl they like, or they don't like it when they have a girl.

That's because they don't understand or realize some laws in male-female communication. The most basic interaction is chatting, including social software communication, telephone communication and face-to-face communication, which runs through the whole process of male-female communication. Today, I want to have a good talk with my brothers.

Many brothers think:

My sister gave me a look that I didn't know how to answer;

What if my sister doesn't reply to the news for a long time?

There is no topic to talk about;

Chatting takes a long time to talk a lot. I'm afraid and nervous, and I don't know what to do with the invitation. (especially for girls you like)

Some brothers also asked me what to say to my sister in the first sentence.

Is it important that you say the first sentence? As I said before, I have a hobby, which may be caused by my career. I like lying in bed with a girl in my arms, holding her mobile phone to open pages of greetings from men, and then telling her that if this man sends this message, you will definitely reply, and if you send this message, you will definitely die. Occasionally, I will smile and praise a few men who talk well, but there are really too few such men.

From this perspective, the first sentence is very important, but for a girl, the average man can barely cope with the first two sentences. In my opinion, there are very few people who can survive three rounds of dialogue. Basically, in three sentences, you are already a loser in a girl's heart.

What I want to tell you now is that the first sentence is not important. Whether your avatar is handsome or not, whether your WeChat circle of friends is fashionable or not, and whether you are a person with good taste are all more important than what you said. This involves the construction of a circle of friends, so I won't digress.

Having said that, it is a core issue-attraction. Only by attracting each other can we have a basis for chatting. Just a necessary and sufficient condition for picking up girls.

Chatting is a relaxing process and an interactive process, which must be remembered, because only by mastering this can you learn how to chat with your sister.

Don't care too much about the chat itself, and don't dwell on a word or a sentence from your sister. Some people care about words, remember some agreements and recite some chat materials. I don't deny these methods, but in my eyes, they are icing on the cake. If they don't do well, it's gilding the lily!

I like to treat every chat with my sister as a pleasant psychological trip. This is my style! I don't like to do meaningless things in chat, just talk a lot and for a long time, and then we will be friends.

We only do things that attract girls and remind us of our relationship. Chatting is very comfortable, my sister is very happy, and we have a good time. It is not difficult to do this. You just need to do some things you should do, grasp a few key points, and you can simply start a comfortable spiritual journey with your sister.

Chatting doesn't need to prepare a topic!

Focus on the chat itself, not the topic. Many people don't know how to chat with girls and have nothing to say when chatting.

Example 1:

Me: Have you eaten? (raise a topic)

Yes

Me: What are you doing? (bring up another topic)

MM: surfing the internet.

Me: Is the weather good there? (bring up another topic)

MM: Not bad.

Me: Are you busy recently? (bring up another topic)

MM: not busy.

Me: ... (There is no topic to talk about, because there is always a time to end the topic)

Me: Oh, well, I just want to call and ask what you are doing, so keep busy. Goodbye!

MM: Goodbye.

Because all you can think of at this moment is, what should I say? What topic should I talk to MM? This often leads to a dead end. When you finish the questions prepared in advance, you will find that you are dumb!

The correct way to chat is to pay attention to the chat itself, not the topic of chat, not the question of what to talk about, but the question of how to talk.

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Example 2:

Me: Have you eaten? (Propose a topic) (Keywords: eat)

MM: I ate it!

Me: What did you eat? (Keywords: eating triggers)

MM: Beef noodles!

Me: Did you make it yourself? (Keywords: rice trigger)

I can't cook. I bought it! (Keywords: can't cook, buy)

Me: You can't even cook. A girl can't even cook. See how you got married. (Keyword can't cook: trigger a new keyword to get married)

MM: I don't want to do it. My mother used to do this. (Keywords: before, mom)

Me: It was before. Now is now. You have grown up. Girls should learn to cook. Are you a wife who doesn't cook? (Keywords: the new keywords triggered before have grown up, wife)

I haven't decided to get married. (Keywords: getting married)

Me: Your mother loves you very much. (Keywords new keyword pain caused by mom)

MM: My mother loves me very much. I am the youngest. Of course it will hurt me. (Keywords: lowest)

Me: Are you the youngest? Do you have any brothers or sisters? (A new keyword brother is triggered by the smallest keyword)

My sister? Blabla ... (Many) walked here and found that all the keywords here were almost used. I immediately returned to the keyword marriage in the previous conversation, and I can chat with the keywords that appeared in the conversation between the superior and the subordinate!

Me: haven't you decided what kind of person you want to marry? (triggered by the keyword marriage)

I haven't decided. Blabla ... (Many) (Key words: I don't know)

Me: What's your standard? (triggered by bad thinking of keywords)

My standard is, BLABLABLAL ... (a lot) At this time, I found that there are no keywords in what she said, or the keywords here are not conducive to you starting a topic. Go back to the keywords in the previous conversation and start chatting immediately! E.g., the keyword buy in line 6)

Me: Do you like shopping? Do you like shopping? (New keyword purchases are triggered by earlier keyword purchases)

MM: I like it! I like it very much. (Keywords: like)

Me: What else do you like? (triggered by keyword likes)

I like singing, swimming and traveling. (New keywords appear: singing, swimming, traveling)

Me: Oh, you like singing. Whose song do you like to sing?

MM:BLABLABLAL ......

Me: Oh, you like swimming. Can you swim? How is your swimming skill? Where do you usually swim?

MM:BLABLABLAL ......

Me: Oh, you like traveling. Where have you traveled? How do you feel?

MM:BLABLABLAL ......

Don't dwell on a keyword all the time. Grab a keyword and start talking. When you talk to a certain extent, stop! Go back to the last keyword and start chatting. When you talk to a certain extent, stop! Go back to the last keyword in the middle of the chat and end the chat. Stop. Go back to the last keyword and start chatting. When you talk to a certain extent, stop! Go back to the previous keyword chat.

You will find that in the whole chat process, you have not prepared any topics, and the chat itself will bring you countless topics! I don't need to be prepared, I can start chatting anytime and anywhere, without pressure or racking my brains to think about what I should talk about.

Because you will have so many topics that you don't know what to choose to talk about. The important thing is that you have something to say and get into a good chat atmosphere. It doesn't matter what you talk to MM, what matters is fun, fun and humor in this atmosphere.

Of course, this series of verbosity seems to have no focus and no nutrition. What I want to say is that this is just an example. Let frustrated men who are nervous about talking to girls have something to say, so that they will not always ask questions coldly. This process should be interactive.

I can only say that this is just a skeleton of chatting. To make chatting interesting, we have to add frames, push and pull, cold reading, DHV stories and conventions to make it full and meaningful.

Chat posture: keep the frame.

In the process of chatting, girls will consciously give you a test, but how do you face the test of girls? The correct way is to give her a trap, let her jump in first, then you jump in, if she doesn't jump, then you don't jump either.

Borrow a typical example:

How old are you? (MM tests you)

Me: 28 years old. I jumped into her trap, her strong frame absorbed my weak frame, and I became boring?

How old are you? (MM tests you)

Me: Guess? (I gave her a trap)

I guess you are 26 years old. (MM jumps into the trap)

Me: Actually, I'm 30. She jumps first, then I jump?

How old are you? (MM tests you)

Me: Guess? (I gave her a trap)

I don't guess, you tell me. (MM does not jump)

Me: You'll never guess! (Never jump into the trap of MM)

Me: How old are you? (I tested MM and set a trap for her)

MM: Guess? (MM tested me and she gave me a trap)

Me: Do you want me to guess lower or higher? Don't jump into the trap, keep setting it.

MM: You guessed high. (MM can't hold on and jumps in)

Me: I guess you are 24. (MM jumps first, I jump later)

MM: I'm 26 years old.

Extended example:

MM: I want to eat hot pot. You invited me! (MM tests you)

Me: Well, if you go shopping with me to buy clothes tomorrow, it's my treat. Don't jump into her trap, I'll give her a trap.

MM: I can't. I am busy tomorrow. I am very stingy. Is it so hard to invite me to dinner? Please, okay? Keep trapping you. If you jump, it's a weak frame.

Me: Are you busy tomorrow? Tell you what, after eating hot pot, you can accompany me to the night market and dress buy buy. Don't be fooled by her, I'll give her another one.

I'm going back tonight. It's too late to finish eating! Keep setting you up, MM, depending on how long you can last. )

Me: No, please treat me next time. I will find someone else to buy clothes with me. Insist on not jumping into her trap? )

MM: It's hard to treat me to hot pot. Well, when I have time, can I go shopping with you to buy clothes? (continue to trap you, MM will use this vague rhetoric to deal with you)

Me: When are you free? Are you free the day after tomorrow? Stay with me the day after tomorrow. Insist on not jumping into her trap and continuing to trap her? )

MM: ok. (MM jumped first, MM couldn't hold on first)

Me: I may be late for work and dinner. Please reserve seats and orders first, and call me when you are ready. (continue to trap her)

MM: All right then! (MM frame is completely absorbed by you, MM is completely defeated)

The maintenance of the rack makes MM feel unable to hold you, and your strong rack will eventually absorb MM's low rack, making MM feel dependent and attractive in chatting.

Chatting skills: push and pull

The so-called pull: I like MM, praise MM, and deliberately close the relationship with MM.

The so-called push: I just don't like it, suppress it, and ignore MM.

Example 1:

Me: When I was in high school, you used to be so beautiful in your class, and there were so many people chasing you! (pull)

MM: Oh, of course, why don't you chase me?

Me: I like you too. (pull)

MM: Hehe, really, you haven't always had a crush on me.

Me: That was before, not now! (Push away)

Oh, how have you been recently? We have time to come out and chat.

Me: Hehe, I'm very busy recently, maybe I don't have time. (Push away)

Well, we'll talk about it sometime.

After push and pull, compliance test is used to check whether it is effective.

Me: If you treat me to delicious food, I might go. (Compliance test)

MM: Then I'll treat you tomorrow.

Example 2:

I don't know if you have seen Du Lala's Promotion, but Wei Wang (Huang Lixing) in it is a master of push-pull movements.

In the seaside scene, (Xu) and I were very close, chatting together, watching the sea together, and snuggling together to catch fireflies, and had a close fight. Wang Wei used the method of pulling? )

Then, when I wanted to kiss later, I suddenly pushed Du Lala away. In the next party, I ignored Du Lala and showed intimacy with other beautiful women. (Wang Wei used the method of pushing)

At this time, Du Lala had mood swings in his heart.

Then, Wang Wei sent a short message to Du Lala: "I am outside, come out!" (? Wang Wei used the technology of obeying the test)?

Du Lala came out and took Du Lala's hand to check in. (Wei Wang's previous push was to pull deeper, and the purpose was to push down rather than kiss)

Of course, we also need to add some chat content, such as telling stories, expressing opinions and expressing thoughts, to arouse girls' curiosity, deepen their attraction and consolidate their relationship. It can be someone else's or your own. Used properly, these are icing on the cake.

Everyone has many stories in his own experience, but if you just tell stories and tell your own experiences without adding any DHV elements, telling stories can only bring you into the friendship zone.

And people who tell good stories, you can't hear the ingredients of deliberate "bragging" in it. ? Tell your DHV point of view skillfully in the story. When telling other people's stories, the key point is to tell a sense of humor, and at the same time pay attention to the ways and means of telling.

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Use your own ideas to praise your sister and give an example on TV.

After seaweed told Song Siming about her sister's difficulty in buying a house:

Song Siming: "Algae, years of experience tell me that any problem that money can solve is not a big problem."

"People in this life, there are many problems can't be solved, for example, physical illness, for example, infidelity, for example, intrigue, for example, no longer fall in love. All this is much more difficult than house and money. I think you did the right thing, because in this life, you can bear money debts, but you can't bear emotional debts. You have the hope of paying off your debts with money, and emotional debts may be embarrassing to death. "

"In fact, think about it from another angle, seaweed, you are a kind girl, Beckham should be happy! You have a grateful heart, and you will remember all the people who have given you kindness, which is good for Beckham. Today, you will lend a helping hand when your sister is in trouble. If Beckham is in trouble in the future, you will definitely not leave. From this point of view, Beckham and I have different views. If a person doesn't even care about his relatives, can you expect him to care about something else? "

-talk about opinions.

Seaweed said, "It's a pity that Beckham doesn't think so."

Song Siming: "Beckham doesn't think so, so you have to understand. Because he can't afford to lose. Man is generous because he has more than he squanders. We take generosity as a compliment because most people can't do it. Especially for unrelated outsiders. "

"From the perspective of a bystander, there is nothing wrong with you and Beckham. The mistake is that experience and life experience are not enough to see through all this. I understand what you mean by sisterhood. "

"At that time, only one child could study at home, so my brother gave me a chance. So, now the two of us live in two different situations. It is not that I am smarter than him, I am more successful than him, but that he gave me hope in the face of opportunities. Therefore, no matter how high and far I go, I will feel that my brother gave me everything today. If he were me, maybe he would be better than me. Man's greatness lies not in how much you have contributed to society and achieved, but in how you know how to sacrifice in the face of temptation ... "

-Tell your opinion.

When you express these views, MM can only look up to you.