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Is it unsafe for a child of 2 years and 4 months to be too attached to his mother?
Try to avoid the mother taking care of the baby alone. I think mom should try to avoid taking care of the baby at home alone first. Secondly, when other family members are at home, the mother tries to be busy with other things, such as doing housework and refusing the baby's request. Family members should cooperate with his mother, clearly tell him that her mother has a lot of things to do, meet his requirements instead of her, and then give him appropriate affirmation and praise to let him adapt to other family members slowly. Distinguish between normal clingy and problematic clingy Gu Xiang. First of all, it is very normal for a baby to stick to his mother, because this age is the most serious period of separation anxiety, and the baby is very afraid of not seeing or even losing his mother, so if the baby wants to stick, let him stick, don't force it away, thinking that this can cultivate independence. This idea is all wet. Only when the mother's love is enough can the baby establish a sense of security, and when he is older, he will have the courage and courage to explore the outside world. Secondly, encourage and create more conditions for the baby to contact others. Mothers must maintain a correct attitude and don't be reluctant to let go, fearing that the baby will be in danger after leaving himself. The mother's anxiety will be passed on to the baby, which will make him afraid to approach others and will only stick to his mother more and more. That's not stickiness in the normal sense, but stickiness with psychological problems. Third, carefully observe how the baby sticks to people. If you don't let others hug you, as long as your mother hugs you, once your mother hugs you warmly for a while, your baby will be satisfied with playing with yourself, so congratulations to your mother and baby for establishing a very healthy parent-child attachment. If the baby always needs the mother's attention and has little interest in other external things, it means that there is something wrong with the mother's parenting style and it needs to be adjusted in time. Explain to your baby why you need to leave 1. Establish your own firm mentality first. When mom and dad are separated from the baby, you should know clearly that you don't love him, but you can't play with him now, or you have a good reason to leave. Don't feel guilty, thinking that crying is a sense of security without giving love. 2. Try to explain to the baby what you want to do. Although only a 2-year-old baby, if you talk to him often, he will understand what you mean. You can tell him, "Mom will cook dinner and you will play with toys on the doll bed. When it is cooked, I will play with you! " He will gradually understand what you want to do, and he will do whatever you say, so as to cultivate the feeling of mutual trust. Let the baby be confident+self-reliant. The baby is particularly attached to a person because that person can always understand him and help him in time. He has a sense of dependence. The stronger the sense of dependence, the stronger the desire to dominate! As the saying goes, children don't want their parents when their wings are hard. So I think the key is to make the baby self-reliant and confident. Let him do what he can from an early age, let him say, do and think for himself. Of course, the baby's growth and independence is a step-by-step process, which requires constant encouragement and guidance from family members, rather than replacing them. Distract the baby. My baby is probably the reason why I take too much. I used to be so attached to me that I wouldn't let my father hug me. My dad screams when he touches it. Later, his father and I played more with him. We teased him together and made him very happy. With the pleasant experience of playing together, it is easy for dad to hug him again. Then, his father took him to associate with others, and his life gradually expanded, attracting more new things. Slowly, he is willing to accept others and no longer rely on his mother. My experience is: divert the baby's attention, but he must be accompanied by the closest person, so that he will feel safe and willing to accept other people and things. Babies tell stories in a "clingy" way ... Comments expert Li Jianru (psychological counselor) Every mother has her own opinions and put forward many good methods. In particular, Gu Xiang talked about attachment and separation from the perspective of psychoanalysis, which deepened the discussion on the topic of "clingy" of babies. It coincides with my point of view, so I won't go into details. Dealing with the problems of attachment and separation is very important for the psychological development of infants around 1 year old. The baby's attachment requirement is emotional "sucking", the baby's attachment desire is satisfied, and the separation is gentle and appropriate, which is equivalent to the mother feeding the baby emotionally. The sense of security and trust gained in the care of the family in the early years will be "stored", which will affect the baby's life, involving many aspects of personality, such as trust or doubt, openness or defense, safety and tranquility or "crisis", inner stability or turmoil, gratitude or just asking for it ... Listen to the explanation of "clingy". The baby can't fully express his meaning, but understand him through his behavior. Although the baby's "clingy" approach is not pleasing, he still provides some information for his parents in his own unique way. What the baby really thinks about "clingy" is: 1. Attachment-my spiritual growth factor "My mother is the only one who is most closely connected with the world. I will be happy to see her; I'm anxious if I can't see my mother. You didn't find that I was the quietest when I was with my mother, because I felt safest at that time. If you call me "clingy baby" because of this, I am really wronged! Do you know that?/You know what? Mother's love is the factor of my spiritual growth. The younger I am, the more I need it, so don't neglect me! "