2011July 16 How about getting married?
1, select Runnian Runyue. China people attach great importance to the choice of wedding date and the theory of "Runyue" and "Runnian", that is, there will be a Runnian every two or three years, that is, there will be two "beginning of spring" and one "Runyue" in that year. Choose an auspicious day to get married, preferably in a full moon year.
2. Avoid March, July and September. It is best to avoid auspicious days in March, July and September of the lunar calendar, because these three months coincide with Qingming, Yulan and Chonggong respectively. This is a traditional ghost festival and is not suitable for holding happy events. In the "Mid-Autumn Festival" month, that is, the beginning of the month is full, that is, August of the lunar calendar, which is the most suitable month for holding a wedding.
3. avoid killing three mothers. According to legend, Yue Laosan did not lead the red line for San Niang, which prevented her from getting married. Based on revenge, San Niang rebelled against Yue Lao, especially ruined the wedding ceremony of the couple, so it is not appropriate to get married on the third, seventh, thirteenth, eighteenth, twenty-second and twenty-seventh day of each month.
4. Marriage and date selection method. The principle of choosing a wedding date is to take the bride's date of birth as the main factor and refer to the date of birth of the man and others. As the saying goes, "As soon as a child is born, a woman marries by the line". Therefore, if this principle is reversed or ignored, it will lead to problems or even divorce in the married marriage; On the contrary, it will be a great success.
5. Don't choose your parents' birthdays. In traditional habits, parents' birthdays should not be the same as wedding auspicious days. In fact, it just means that it is not appropriate to get married on the exact date of parents' birthdays, but it is absolutely appropriate to get married within that month.
6. Real wedding day. If you decide to separate the registration date from the wedding date, it's best to do it in these two days. If you want to choose, you should choose an auspicious day according to the traditional etiquette of wedding reception and wine setting, because China tradition always regards this day as a real wedding day.
7. Good days and auspicious days. Some people think that there should be a stricter method for calculating auspicious days, that is, the most auspicious wedding date should be calculated according to the date and time of birth of both men and women. However, this practice is quite complicated, and more people prefer to see the date chosen by the Gregorian calendar or listen to the suggestions of people who study Zhouyi.
We should consider the actual situation of both sides' work and study. If one party studies in his spare time, he should avoid the tense review date; If one party is involved in the entrepreneurial project day and night, the other party must wait patiently for a period of time, and then choose "auspicious day" when the good news comes.
9. Consider the reality of two families. Choosing "auspicious day" needs to take into account that the elderly, relatives and friends have time to participate and can witness the festive and harmonious scene.
10 We should consider the physical condition of both sides. If one party is temporarily unwell or sick, it is best not to rush to arrange marriage, but to make timely diagnosis and treatment and consult after recovery. Otherwise, it may affect the harmony of new life and easily aggravate physical condition. The wedding date should avoid the woman's menstrual period, and the woman should not be ashamed to say it. When choosing an auspicious day, the man should pay special attention to listening to the woman's opinions.
1 1, unify the wedding date and holidays. It may be wise if the wedding date coincides with holidays. The advantages of this are: unforgettable; Newly-married people put on holiday clothes to add spice; Relatives and friends have time to attend the wedding, and the atmosphere is warm. It is economical and festive to entertain relatives and friends at home and celebrate the festival. However, many new people get married during the holidays, so we should pay attention to booking hotels and motorcades in advance.
12, the definition of a good day. In any case, the definition of "good days" is always different. No matter which day you choose, try to choose those days that are satisfactory to everyone.
In addition, in fact, choosing the auspicious day of marriage is not as difficult as expected. The general principle is: day is more important than month, and month is more important than year. Blind years also have auspicious days, so don't pay too much attention to the so-called blind years and unnecessarily postpone or advance the wedding date by one or two years.
Suggestions are as follows: First, choose the wedding season according to the envisaged wedding form and local climate characteristics. For example, if you want to hold an outdoor wedding, you should choose a sunny and rainy season with suitable heat and cold. At the same time, it is also necessary to consider the difficulty of relatives and friends attending the wedding. If many relatives and friends you want to invite don't work locally, you should choose November and May Day holidays. Of course, we should also consider the work and study of both parties, and try to avoid the distraction caused by planning the wedding before the exam or during the project research stage. Finally, you can't ignore the opinions of your elders!
Based on the above factors, after selecting the approximate range, you can choose the date according to the birthdays of two people. It is suggested to use the wedding zodiac auspicious day inquiry system (the wedding zodiac auspicious day inquiry system in Xi 'er wedding community is a good choice), choose the appropriate wedding date according to the birthdays of both parties, and explain in detail when it is suitable to avoid marriage every day.