The marriage condition of the 37-year-old leftover woman: "Buy a house in full, with an annual salary of 600,000". What about yourself?

A friend in my circle is 37 years old and works as a salesman in a big city after graduating from high school. This girl is good at drinking and is very beautiful. Her parents are from the countryside, and they run a small supermarket at home.

The annual salary of girls is about 654.38+ 10,000.

Her family has been urging her to get married early because her younger brothers are married and their children are several years old. But because she has been working in a big city and doesn't want to find someone in the countryside, this matter has been put on hold.

After marriage, I grew up in a small town, and we had little contact. Recently, I chatted with several colleagues in the past, and they mentioned my friend. They are well-intentioned, but simply think that my friend has entered the misunderstanding of marriage.

Her current requirement for marriage is that the man should buy a house in full in a big city with an annual salary of not less than 600,000. Otherwise, she won't get married, and would rather be single for life. She said that if she wants to get married, she should marry a man who can give herself a good life after marriage. If, after she marries a man, she still has to pay the mortgage together and worry about raising children, it is better to be single because she earns enough money to support herself.

Those colleagues also advised her, but her current idea is that older women should not get married in a hurry. She is not afraid of being left behind. If she meets the requirements, she will get married. If she doesn't, she will remain single.

There are not a few women around me who think like her now. Perhaps the conditions are not so harsh, but there are generally requirements for men. To have a house and a car, how much is the bride price and how much is the annual salary.

I sometimes reflect on my writing, because with the growth of age and experience, I will have different views on the same thing, and even see angles I have never seen before.

I have to admit that the reality is:

Nowadays, most elderly women can support themselves.

They all saved a sum of money and lived a relatively free life. They don't have much desire for marriage. If you want them to get married, their conditions will be very harsh. Because they want to make sure that marriage is good for them. If there is no interest, they don't want this marriage.

I thought the same thing in my twenties. A few years before marriage, I experienced the difficulties of marriage, especially this idea. Since marriage makes me so miserable, why should I get married?

But now, I want to say that getting married has many meanings. Although these meanings are supported by hard work and grievances, they are also worthwhile.

So, young people, don't despair of marriage, and don't see your parents' unhappy marriage. People around you don't believe in love because of unhappy marriage.

Now more and more men are beginning to know that they love their wives. You can also ask your parents. Most parents do not regret getting married. Because marriage is a double-edged sword, although sometimes it is very tired, painful and desperate, it will make you mature, let you know how to pay, let you know how to love yourself and make you a more tolerant and stronger person.

Just like me, even if my marriage fails in the future, I will not regret it. Because marriage makes me a better person and makes me stronger.

Really, girls, don't frame your marriage with those material nouns. Your request is unreasonable and not unfair. You ask men to buy a house in full, and ask men to make an annual salary of 600 thousand. What do you have?

Many women will say, I can support myself. I ask him to have these things, which is the most basic, otherwise how can the marriage continue?

Girl, do you know that when you frame others with these materials, others will also use these frames to choose you?

He has a house in a big city with an annual salary of 600 thousand. He will ask girls to earn no less than 400,000 yuan a year, and even ask girls to be young and beautiful, with no past love history and high academic qualifications.

Yes, you can confidently say that he doesn't like you and you don't have to marry. Now older women don't have to worry about getting married.

I admit, women nowadays don't worry about getting married. However, a good enough woman is not worried about getting married. And this "good" is relative. Women's is better than men's, at least evenly matched.

Whether you are 27 or 37, don't choose marriage like this. If you are financially independent, find a man who is equally financially independent and value his character and outlook on life. Don't be afraid to fight this man. Really, your starting from scratch is always much safer than yourself once and for all.

In addition, the advice to all men and women is:

When I was young, I struggled more and accumulated more original capital. Marriage must have a material foundation. I hope this material foundation is created by you, not what you call at least a little higher.