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My brother does not study very well. He graduated from junior high school and went to vocational high school. But my brother seems to be a woman to me. He lived in the rural area of southern Shandong with his grandparents since childhood, and was not brought to the city by his parents until he went to primary school. There are parents and a brother at home. My brother has lived with his parents since he was a child. He is a good man, but his mouth is ruthless. Nine times out of ten, when he was a child, he was beaten for talking back. As for me, I have lived with my grandparents since I was a child. The children around me laughed at me for having no parents, so I felt a little inferior and didn't like to talk. My parents always say what they say, and I dare not disagree. As for my parents, my father's sense of existence at home is relatively low. He doesn't make up his mind about anything and doesn't ask. His only hobby is fishing, while his mother is relatively strong. She listens to everything at home, but if anything doesn't suit her, he will quarrel or even fight. My father and my brother, including me, were beaten by my mother. As for scolding, it is light.
I am very talented in technology, and I can learn lathe, electrician, welder and assembler. Later, I was robbed by a large state-owned group. Now I am a worker in name, but my salary is almost twice as much as mine. And I graduated from high school and was admitted to a good 985 college. After graduation, I was directly admitted to the graduate school of our college. Now I am a lecturer. When I took the postgraduate entrance examination, my mother disagreed, saying that I wanted to leave this home and I didn't want to go back in the future. I even went to school to talk to my tutor, hoping that my tutor would not accept me. Later, my brother dragged her back to school and had a big fight with her. In addition, my brother also funded my graduate school.
I got married on 12, and my partner is also a lecturer in our college. It is said that this is a good choice in the eyes of others. After all, everyone works in the same unit, and the income of university lecturers is relatively ideal. But my mother just doesn't agree. At first, she didn't like my husband's family from a small place in the north. In her eyes, people in small counties in the north are very poor and will drag down our family in the future. Later, I explained that my husband's parents are national cadres, his family is not poor, and my father is also a northerner! Because of this sentence, my mother called and scolded me for several hours, and my mobile phone was dead. Finally, she wrote a letter of several thousand words, which was specially sent to scold my unfilial behavior. At that time, I was a little sad, so I had to go to my brother again, and I didn't know what my brother said when he got back. Finally, I persuaded my mother. But my mother asked for a bride price of 280 thousand and said there was no dowry.
My husband and I have been together for several years, and I know my mother's temper more or less. I agreed without quarreling! When I got married, my mother really didn't give me a penny of dowry and asked me to go back to my husband's house in the north empty-handed. It's still my dad and my brother, who was afraid that I would be difficult to do at my husband's house, secretly gave me100000 and brought it back. Even so, at the beginning of that time, my in-laws were really wary of me, and I was not asked to deal with everything at home until I knew my mother's personality.
Later, when I gave birth to Dabao, war at home happened for the first time. I was two months after giving birth. It's popular in the north to send Zhu men to show off every nine days, but my mother didn't say that these old calendars are not popular in the south, so it would be good to hold a full moon. I also asked my in-laws to invite her to the south, otherwise she wouldn't come. It was hard for me at that time! There are more than 1000 miles between here. Can my in-laws run around without telling me, mainly because I'm still in my second month. Aren't you roasting me in a fire pit? I was so angry that I directly said a harsh sentence, saying that you will come when you come, and I will be without a mother if you don't come!
Because of this sentence, my mother not only scolded me on the phone, but also called my husband, saying that he had taught me badly and dared to pout at her, even the national curse came out! My husband was so angry that he dropped his mobile phone and even had a cold war with me for several days. If he hadn't observed me in the second month, I don't know how to ease the feelings between us. After the in-laws knew it, they didn't say anything, but said to do it as usual and hold another performance when the full moon came. On the day of seeing Zhu Men off, I really wanted to find a place to hide if my brother hadn't come from the south. My colleagues, friends and relatives are all here, but I have no family. What you said about me is terrible. How can I explain this in the future? As for what others say about me behind my back, I can't even imagine! Because of this, it was not until my son was one year old that he really met his grandmother for the first time.
Before the Double Eleven last year, my father-in-law was hospitalized, and my mother-in-law could not serve the patients with lumbar hyperosteogeny, and her husband went abroad for examination. I have to go to home, hospital and work. I am so busy that I have to try to ask my mother to look after my children for a while. God bless me, this time I came directly by train without any conditions. It seemed like half a year until my husband came back and my father-in-law was discharged from the hospital. To tell the truth, I am very grateful to my mother for helping me, and even think that I was wrong about my mother before. How can there be a mother who does not love her daughter?
But when she left, what she said made me feel bad. She said she was in a bad mood, so she wanted someone to scold her, so she was very happy. It is not appropriate to scold others, and it is nothing to scold your daughter. She told us to look at this problem rationally and not to be unhappy because she scolded us. She also said that she scolded herself when she gave birth to her daughter, otherwise she would have no daughter! When I saw my mother on the bus, my husband and I both looked at each other with a wry smile. I really didn't know how to understand her words.
On May 8 this year, I died with my grandfather since I was a child. I was very sad and took my husband and son back to my hometown in Shandong as soon as possible. With the full authorization of my father, my husband began to prepare for the funeral. The next day, my parents and my brother and sister-in-law finally came, and my heart was relieved. However, on the issue of wearing mourning clothes, my mother encountered another problem. If only we didn't wear traditional mourning clothes in the north and wanted to wear black suits. We were all shocked at that time. This is in the countryside! Who wears a black suit? Can you explain the situation? My dad finally said angrily, get out without wearing it! This is the first time in decades that my father has lost his temper with my mother. I am shocked. Looking at my father's gloomy face, my mother reluctantly put on mourning. But just three days after the funeral, she actually wore a red trench coat and took my son and nephew to climb the mountain, saying that it was nice to take pictures! My father was so angry that he almost got into a fight. I don't know what to do if my brother doesn't stop me!
What really makes me angry is grandma's pension problem. In fact, in recent years, my brother and I have been paying my grandparents' living expenses and medical expenses. My mother only asked for a few hundred dollars for my grandparents during the Spring Festival and Mid-Autumn Festival. But now my grandfather has died. Although my uncle and aunt are both in the village, it is really inappropriate to stay in the village from the economic and medical point of view. Therefore, my father and my brother want my grandmother to live in the south with them, while my husband and I want my grandmother to go to the university town with us, but my grandmother has been hesitating because she can't leave her hometown. At this time, my mother interrupted me and said that I might as well not go to the south. If she dies in the south, she can only bring back a handful of ashes. At that time, my grandmother's angry lips were blue, and my father slapped my mother angrily, but my mother insisted on fighting my father hard and we stopped her. But after listening to her words, my grandmother said that she would never go to the south again, not even me. I'm afraid I can't come back!
My mother ran away that afternoon, calling us all gone, saying that she had worked hard for this family for so many years and was beaten because of one sentence! If we were born to her, we would go with her, isolate my dad and make him apologize to her. I really don't understand. Don't you know where you are wrong? If my sister-in-law says the same thing to you one day, then my brother will have to listen! No response!
I have always thought that my family is very good. My parents have their own careers. My younger brother doesn't go to school, but he has great advantages in technology. I envy his income. But my mother can't stop day by day, whether it's this thing or that thing, or even the event of the elderly, she dares to do so! If you don't say filial piety, is it appropriate to say an old man in his nineties?