Marriage custom in Shimen Jiashan ...

In fact, this is a new thing to do now. In the closed rural areas, as long as the children work in other places, it will be simple. The core of the custom here is to have full respect for the woman's parents, and the core of the engagement is to send a bride price.

The engagement in Jiashan, Shimen is called Ding Geng, which is a gift from the man's family to the woman's family after the blind date. It is equivalent to the "levy" in the "six rites" of feudal marriage. Zheng Na's gift is a bunch of silk and a pair of deerskin. A pair of deerskin is called "Lippi", which means in pairs; Five silks symbolize the combination of "five elements", three black ones represent yin and two red ones represent yang, and the combination of the two symbolizes the marriage of yin and yang. At present, Shimen usually sends tea and meat (soap market and Baiyun are called "letter" and "send"), prepares a gift list, presents handkerchiefs, shoes and socks, belts, watches, headdresses, picks up goods and several sets of fashionable new clothes. Gifts are put into exquisite baskets (commonly known as baskets), or picked or carried, and escorted by matchmakers and glib uncles. Blow suona to the woman's house and "order treasures" in front of her relatives at night. As the saying goes, "Raise your head to marry your daughter, lower your head to marry your daughter-in-law". After the boxer presented the prize, the man "asked for happiness" (the man asked the woman to set an auspicious day to get married), and both men and women stepped up their efforts to arrange marriage for their children. Now, Geng's bonus is usually paid by the man to the woman.

As for the amount of cash, it generally varies greatly according to the family situation of both parties, ranging from 60,000 to 90,000 to several thousand yuan. The best way is to ask your wife to find a relative to confirm it, so as not to make the old people unhappy. Other requirements can also be asked at the same time. To put it bluntly, it is to spend some money to buy them some fun. They say it's enough, and generally it won't be too hard for you.