Would you like to know more about the wedding customs in the northwest?
The first is the engagement. Engagement customs are usually decided by the two parents through consultation:
The betrothal gift includes an engagement ring, gift money (also called engagement money), two red envelopes, two A red belt, at least two sets of clothes (a cotton-padded jacket is required, as the saying goes, a mother-in-law's jacket is passed down to old age), and the woman's family should prepare a new pair of shoes for the man (called father-in-law's shoes).
Depending on personal financial conditions, the deposit usually ranges from 10,001 to 100,000 yuan.
The small six items include: six kilograms of meat (cut in one piece), six lin fish (yellow croaker), six bottles of wine, six kilograms of sugar (six boxes are also acceptable), and six vermicelli sticks (with red threads) tied together), six pounds of snacks (six boxes are also acceptable).
Everything above (except meat, as the saying goes, a girl is the meat of her mother and is reluctant to give it to others) usually the girl’s family will return some to the boy’s family, two or four of each kind.
Jewelry is based on personal preference and is best chosen by the bride in advance.
Logically speaking, the lining and dough of a cotton-padded jacket cannot be worn, but if you are sensible and considerate, just use it to press the bottom of the box.
Two red envelopes and two red belts each.
When the engagement day comes, the groom and his parents bring the betrothal gift to the bride’s house. The bride’s family should prepare tea, snacks, fruits or dried fruits for the reception. On the day of the engagement, it is best to find a third party to host it, preferably someone with experience and good words, to adjust the atmosphere. On that day, the groom's family usually arrives at the bride's family before noon, and everyone chats. At this time, the bride and groom change their names to their parents, and serve tea to each other's parents to change their names. At this time, the parents prepare red envelopes, which are also the change fees, and are given separately. Here you go, depending on the financial situation, it ranges from 600 to 2,000 yuan.
The bride’s family should book a hotel with a better quality and environment beforehand and treat the groom to dinner. After the meal, members of the groom's family should return to their homes before sunset.
When the man leaves the woman’s house, the woman should give the man 2 portions of each of the six items the man sent, except meat. You also have to give the man a certain deposit back.
After both parents choose a good time and an auspicious day, the prelude to the wedding should begin.
A whole day of marriage can be divided into three parts: marrying the bride, entertaining guests and friends, and having fun in the bridal chamber.
Marry the bride
The convoy that welcomes the bride early in the morning is already waiting outside the door (generally, the number of vehicles in the convoy that welcomes the bride is an odd number and there is a beautifully decorated float, only waiting for the handsome groom After getting in the car with the entourage, you can go straight to the bride's house. The departure time is usually around 6 or 7 o'clock, which is very early in the morning. Firecrackers must be set off before departure, firstly for good luck, and secondly to inform the public. It means (the wedding procession has set off). When firecrackers are set off at the entrance of the bride's village, it means (the wedding procession has arrived). At this time, the bride's relatives and friends will close the door tightly and not open the door, waiting for the dignitaries. When the motorcade arrived at the door of the bride's house and set off firecrackers, they began to think of ways to open the door. Those who told jokes, those who asked the mother-in-law to open the door, and those who supported the family all made a mess. After a while, the door opened, but the door of the bride's room was not opened yet. I still have to go and say good things to the bride. It’s so lively to yell at the door. On the other side, a simple breakfast has been prepared at the bride’s house. The bride-to-be is eating a few small dishes and drinking a few sips of wine, and is waiting. When the door is opened, the bride gets on the float. Usually, the bride is carried onto the float by the groom. Of course, some get on the float on foot. In some places, there may be a saying that the bride does not touch the ground from the time she goes out to the time she enters. It's time to go home and go in. When the motorcade returns to the door of the groom's house, the excitement begins. There are loud sounds of firecrackers and people watching the excitement at the door are everywhere. The bride usually doesn't get out of the car easily. She wants to be part of the family, and maybe a big one. 500 yuan, 1,000 yuan. At this time, the groom's friends were already ready. Some were blocking the door to prevent entry, some were waiting to take off the groom's shoes with playful smiles, and some were waiting to scatter fireworks.
After the bride gets off the car, a small fire will be lit at the door, and the bride will jump over it (overheating), which means that her life will be prosperous. Girls nowadays are very smart. When the fire is small or even gone, She just jumped over, and what's more, the groom hugged her directly. Until the bride sits on the bed in the new house, OK, the wedding is over. Treating Guests and Friends
According to local custom, the bride’s family and friends have to come to the groom’s house for a banquet. Therefore, after the wedding, they will go to pick up the relatives soon. Generally, the groom will definitely go there. Cars have also been replaced by buses. Usually the bride's dowry items that are more expensive or difficult to get will be taken to the groom's house in advance (such as washing machines, etc.). By the time the wedding day comes, they will all be empty cardboard boxes. Basically, weddings in Guanzhong The furniture was purchased by the groom’s family, and the electrical appliances were purchased by the bride’s family. You must be curious, what is the use of holding an empty cardboard box? This has to mention another custom. One of the eight monsters in Guanzhong wears a handkerchief on his head. For a long time, the old ancestors left behind the "handkerchief" The custom is that when the car that picks up the mother's family arrives, there will be a dowry (including an empty cardboard box), and everyone will "grab" it. Then, before the lunch banquet, the mother's family will redeem it with a handkerchief. Among them, there is no shortage of people who can speak, and you can enjoy the joy while enjoying it. It’s hard to say. You can only go to the venue and feel the atmosphere. Before the meal, the bride will change her clothes and go to the bathroom (actually just to go around). When she comes back, she will usually pass through a door. At this time, the groom's brother (not his biological brother, but other friends can also) will take the Scatter a handful of chopsticks on the ground for the bride to pick up. This is called "diligence". After picking up the chopsticks, you have to turn over the plate. There are 3 bowls on a large plate, one with steamed buns in it (meaning: there will be no shortage of food in your life), and one with steamed buns in it. It is meat (meaning: you can eat good food in your life), and one contains money (meaning: you will never be short of money in your life). Some naughty people put some oil on the bottom of the bowl, and they will definitely not be able to flip it up with their hands, because it is too slippery. , Of course, this is nothing. Girls all have clips. Use the clips to pick it up and flip it up. Then it’s time to eat and toast. see a visitor out.
Having a wedding ceremony
Basically, it can start as soon as the sun goes down. Actually, it doesn’t matter. Everyone comes to look at the new house, talk and laugh, it becomes lively when there are more young people, and all kinds of tricks are endless. .